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Old 05-28-2019, 06:24 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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I've never thought about it, although I'm 73 and you might think I'd have considered it by now. However, my sister, who's 10 months younger than I am and has always been the healthy one, was diagnosed with multiple myeloma and amyloidosis this past January and will die this weekend. I should be going before she does. So, yes, I'm consumed with my mortality right now.
I'm sorry to hear that. My mother, who is almost 84, was diagnosed with amyloidosis 2 years ago and the treatment killed her bone marrow. She has 3-6 months, maybe longer with regular transfusions.
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Old 05-28-2019, 06:45 AM
 
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The original question made me think of what I wonder when I hear of someone in their 90s or 100s. Every night when they go to bed, do they fear that they won’t wake up?
My grandmother, a widow, who lived to late 80's said she would wake up and think "God, why didn't you take me last night." The reality was she required less sleep, was waking up at 5:00 am and had too many hours to fill with too few people still living to fill them with. She had always been active, worked through her 70's and was ready to go. With every death of a younger family member, she would say, "I don't know why God didn't take me instead."
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Old 05-28-2019, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Dallas
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I think about how much time I have left...I'm not quite 65, but it is not uncommon for people to die in their 60s and 70s so who knows? It definitely affects my decisions on buying something new (if I can do without it, I will) , getting another pet (think I'll foster instead when my two elderly dogs pass), and paring down my belongings so my kids aren't stuck with having to liquidate my stuff.
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Old 05-28-2019, 07:05 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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I'm 64 and have had breast & thyroid cancer. Even though I exercise and eat well I always feel like I have an earlier expiration date than many others.
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Old 05-28-2019, 10:30 AM
 
Location: CO/UT/AZ/NM Catch me if you can!
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Those of you past 65: does thinking about this topic interest you? Do you dwell on it or is too sad or pessimistic? Even if you are in decent good health.
I think it's natural for people to sometimes wonder about this as they get older. Me, I think about it, but try not to dwell upon it since it's a fairly pointless endeavor. All any of us really have is this present moment, and it's up to us to live in the present as fully as we can. Do that and whatever tomorrow brings will take care of itself.

It's a good day to be alive!
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Old 05-28-2019, 03:11 PM
 
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My grandmother, a widow, who lived to late 80's said she would wake up and think "God, why didn't you take me last night." The reality was she required less sleep, was waking up at 5:00 am and had too many hours to fill with too few people still living to fill them with. She had always been active, worked through her 70's and was ready to go. With every death of a younger family member, she would say, "I don't know why God didn't take me instead."
I've seen this happen in my extended family.

My great-aunt lived in a nursing home for the last 10 years of her life. If assisted living existed them, I'm sure she would have avoided the nursing home. When she got to be 98, she decided that she was ready to die. As a result, she stopped eating and would tell anyone who visited her that she wanted to die and to leave her alone. It wasn't long before she got her wish.

My SIL's mother just turned 98. While she still lives at home, she needs help on a daily basis. For the last few years, my SIL has told me that her mother often cries and wonders why she is still alive. I'm impressed that she has made it to 98. In her lifetime, she had two triple bypasses (the second was because she outlived the first one) plus she had her carotid artery cleaned out when it was discovered it was clogged. It eventually clogged again and she was told that she was too old to be operated on. She did have a mild stroke about 10 years ago. Truly, I'm in awe that she is still around at 98 and still in full possession of her faculties!
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Old 05-28-2019, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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I think about how much time I have left...I'm not quite 65, but it is not uncommon for people to die in their 60s and 70s so who knows? It definitely affects my decisions on buying something new (if I can do without it, I will) , getting another pet (think I'll foster instead when my two elderly dogs pass), and paring down my belongings so my kids aren't stuck with having to liquidate my stuff.
It is good to keep getting our affairs in order. Itís a process. I donít think we should stop living a full life...whatever that means to us. I assume that my husband and I will not die together. If we do, then the kids will need to work it out. If we do not, then the surviving spouse gets to make the decisions. If Iím dead, I wonít know. If dh is dead, he wonít know.
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Old 05-31-2019, 07:06 PM
 
Location: Honolulu
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I am 65 but too busy to think of death. I am still working and won't retire for another two years. My kids are finally done with school this month. So only now do I start to plan.

I start looking for a burial plot. To me it is just like looking for a new house. The only difference is the house that I moved in I will just occupy for 60-70 years at most but the burial plot is for the next 100-200 years where I will stay.
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Old 05-31-2019, 07:29 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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A lot of people don’t care for burial plot anymore. When my mom was alive, she and her in-laws bought a burial plot, she was buried there, fast forward 23 years later, one of her in laws died and he didn’t want to be buried there, neither does his wife. So the family is now looking for people to buy from them.
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Old 05-31-2019, 07:43 PM
 
Location: Honolulu
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A lot of people donít care for burial plot anymore. When my mom was alive, she and her in-laws bought a burial plot, she was buried there, fast forward 23 years later, one of her in laws died and he didnít want to be buried there, neither does his wife. So the family is now looking for people to buy from them.
That is what I found out. The housing price has gone through the roof but the burial plot resale price stays flat.
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