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Old 05-28-2019, 11:45 AM
 
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A year or so after retirement I joined an over fifty five photography meetup group and found the first meetings to be somewhat of a chore rather than the fun they were supposed to be. Getting to know some of the older more creative types in the group helped immensely, we went on many full group excursions on weekends to accommodate the folks who still worked, so weekdays were filled with ad hoc side-group outings that were notably more relaxed--and less tech talk was a welcome change from the constant need of the younger set to make this into a tech challenge.

Having a central common interest seems to be the ticket to the melting pot makeup of any meetup group. The singles can be getting to know each other on grounds other than that of the dating scene. The others can be meeting some great future friends while honing some good knowledge about their hobby interests. Even the more introverted are welcomed and often thoroughly encouraged by those more outgoing types, so yeah, meetups are just part of the new digital expansion of a once limited social scene..
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Old 05-28-2019, 11:48 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Yep, a definite no no. What's worse is asking someone what they did for a living. Live in the here and now, not the past.
Except that someone last night did ask that and no one was offended by it.

If you're going to be miffed when someone asks a commonplace question, maybe meetups aren't for you.

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I've mentioned in several posts that I knew a man for about 5 years before I found out he was an MD. Saw him several times a week and it never came up in conversation.

So you never asked him. Doesn't mean no one else ever did.
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Old 05-28-2019, 11:58 AM
 
Location: Amelia Island
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We are a very small coastal community and while we do not have any 50 and over meet up groups there are numerous trivia nights at the local restaurant's, bar/food places, golf course, etc.


These seem to be pretty popular in meeting new friends. They are held throughout the week at different locations and we have several retired friends that look forward to these each week and they have made a few friends from attending these types of functions.


I guess it is the new replacement for bingo.
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Old 05-28-2019, 03:52 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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I have attended a few meetups for over 50 and they never last more or longer than one or two and then the groups leader decides it is not worth the time and effort to hold them or host them so they go away .
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Old 05-28-2019, 05:08 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I have attended a few meetups for over 50 and they never last more or longer than one or two and then the groups leader decides it is not worth the time and effort to hold them or host them so they go away .
This group has a six person leadership team, which makes sense as there are meetups almost every single day. One person shouldn't have to bear the entire brunt of organizing. Most of the members are single but couples are equally welcome.

The group is going on one of those European Christmas Market river cruises this winter. The people I've met so far are very keen on travel. To avoid the single supplement, they're meeting next week to pair up with roommates. I wonder how they avoid having an odd person out.
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Old 05-28-2019, 05:15 PM
 
Location: 500 miles from home
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Where I live there is a Meet up for everything. Ladies who lunch; happy hour meet-ups; hiking meet-ups; dog meet-ups; board game meet-ups; and so on and so forth.


I really enjoyed the Ladies who Lunch because I got to try places all over the city that I probably wouldn't have otherwise have tried with my regular friends.
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Old 05-28-2019, 05:21 PM
 
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Just what I need, sitting with a group of strangers discussing our lives




BLECH!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 05-28-2019, 05:48 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Just what I need, sitting with a group of strangers discussing our lives

BLECH!!!!!!!!!!!!

And what are you doing now, Mike? (she said, sweetly)
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Old 05-28-2019, 06:52 PM
 
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"Have you gone to a 50s and over Meetup and what was your experience?"

my experience was a great education.
it made me reevaluate my relating skills
based upon the conversations i heard.

from now on, i decided that unless Someone Specifically Asks:
1. i will not bring up my health issues or doctor's appointments.
2. i will not indulge in "how good i was with what i used to do".
3. i will not constantly complain about _____ or _____.

well, i am trying not to, anyway.

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Old 05-28-2019, 07:30 PM
 
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And what are you doing now, Mike? (she said, sweetly)

I just got back from dinner with friends.


Yesterday, MrsM and I went to the cemetery, then the gun range to shoot with other friends- then to dinner


Sunday MrsM and I watched the Indy 500 and ate hotdogs and beans and drank some beer


Last week we were sick with a stomach virus


Tues we went to the Alzheimer's Assoc Ball and fund raiser



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Tomorrow, we are going to a movie


Wed, we have water aerobics, shopping and ????


Thursday is shopping and a concert


Friday, water aerobics and out with friends


Sat not sure what we are doing during the da, but going to the casino Sat night


Fluffy, we keep ourselves busy with friends, not some silly meetup group
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