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Old 05-29-2019, 04:38 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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What kind of board games?

Apparently there are dozens if not hundreds of board games we geezers have never heard of. Those are what they play at the game meetups here.

The organizers say they teach games but I would like to try a few at home first to get the hang of it.
Piney Creek named some. I really enjoy ‘eurogames’ - otherwise known as strategy games, European style games, or designer games (because the designer’s name will be on the box). And I really, really like cooperative games - games where the humans collaborate to beat the game. It’s also a fun way to practice a foreign language if you’re so inclined.

Codenames is fun. There’s a team version and a 2-player cooperative version called Codenames Duet. A little bit like Password, but better.
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Old 05-29-2019, 04:48 PM
 
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I just got back from dinner with friends.

Yesterday, MrsM and I went to the cemetery, then the gun range to shoot with other friends- then to dinner

Sunday MrsM and I watched the Indy 500 and ate hotdogs and beans and drank some beer

Last week we were sick with a stomach virus

Tues we went to the Alzheimer's Assoc Ball and fund raiser

Tomorrow, we are going to a movie

Wed, we have water aerobics, shopping and ????

Thursday is shopping and a concert

Friday, water aerobics and out with friends

Sat not sure what we are doing during the day, but going to the casino Sat night

Fluffy, we keep ourselves busy with friends, not some silly meetup group
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This prompts the question (probably another topic)

Why would anyone move anywhere in their retirement where they have no social network?

We were going to move south west until we had a great conversation with each other and decided that all of our friends, most of our relatives and all of our docs are right here?

Why sell a home in a great neighborhood where we have lived for 43 years and still have some original neighbors?

We could make a bundle on our home but why spend 2-3 times that bundle on a new home?

We asked our financial advisor if we could afford to go South, or South West, every winter and were told yes we could budget that expense

Most, if not all, of our friends and acquaintances who retired elsewhere hafe already moved back.

Not judging, just asking
Yet the majority of your activities which you list and describe above do not appeal to me at all - so activities you take as interesting or worth doing or spending time on or even as universally enjoyed or accepted, do not appeal to many others at all.

Not sure if I'd go to a 50 and above Meet Up - but it's not totally out of the question.
I most likely would not attend if I were married or partnered.
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Old 05-29-2019, 05:49 PM
 
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What kind of board games?

Apparently there are dozens if not hundreds of board games we geezers have never heard of. Those are what they play at the game meetups here.

The organizers say they teach games but I would like to try a few at home first to get the hang of it.

...............DH tried to explain what it was he did in Silicon Valley before he retired but I don't think anyone got it.
I cannot imagine how "DH" is handling the transition. It must be tough to try to make the transition from working in Silicon Valley to retirement in Arizona. After a few years of living in the Phoenix area, I came to consider it a cultural and intellectual desert that matched the climate. It sounds like the adventure has come to meet ups and board games.
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Old 05-29-2019, 06:01 PM
 
Location: the Old Dominion
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Default ,,,stale cigarettes...

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We've been to a few. It takes a few tries to find the right fit, but I think they're a good thing to do. In my observation, you get a better response by talking about things you are doing now, or things you hope to do now that you're retired (as opposed to talking about what you used to do in your career). It also helps to ask questions about your new town, or talk about some of the interesting things you've discovered since moving there. Keeping it positive also seems to work better than talking about things that have disappointed you.
Gee, Piney - you need to talk to the retirees I used to work with. At the monthly lunch, all they can talk about is the old government workplace and past gripes. A bunch of tired-ass old men.
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Old 05-29-2019, 06:44 PM
 
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Yep, a definite no no. What's worse is asking someone what they did for a living. Live in the here and now, not the past.

I've mentioned in several posts that I knew a man for about 5 years before I found out he was an MD. Saw him several times a week and it never came up in conversation.
I like people like that. I have taught the English language to about 10 MD's and 20 nurses. Eventually they told me their given professions. I am glad that it just doesn't matter.
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Old 05-29-2019, 07:27 PM
 
Location: Williamsburg, VA
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This prompts the question (probably another topic)


Why would anyone move anywhere in their retirement where they have no social network?


We were going to move south west until we had a great conversation with each other and decided that all of our friends, most of our relatives and all of our docs are right here?


Why sell a home in a great neighborhood where we have lived for 43 years and still have some original neighbors?


We could make a bundle on our home but why spend 2-3 times that bundle on a new home?


We asked our financial advisor if we could afford to go South, or South West, every winter and were told yes we could budget that expense


Most, if not all, of our friends and acquaintances who retired elsewhere hafe already moved back.


Not judging, just asking

If you're genuinely interested in an answer, feel free to start a new thread and I'll give you our reasons. If you're just trying to provoke Fluffy, please stop.
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Old 05-29-2019, 07:46 PM
 
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If you're genuinely interested in an answer, feel free to start a new thread and I'll give you our reasons. If you're just trying to provoke Fluffy, please stop.
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Old 05-29-2019, 08:44 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Thanks, ladies.
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Old 05-30-2019, 09:50 AM
 
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This prompts the question (probably another topic)


Why would anyone move anywhere in their retirement where they have no social network?


We were going to move south west until we had a great conversation with each other and decided that all of our friends, most of our relatives and all of our docs are right here?


Why sell a home in a great neighborhood where we have lived for 43 years and still have some original neighbors?


We could make a bundle on our home but why spend 2-3 times that bundle on a new home?


We asked our financial advisor if we could afford to go South, or South West, every winter and were told yes we could budget that expense


Most, if not all, of our friends and acquaintances who retired elsewhere hafe already moved back.


Not judging, just asking
Why? Because they want to and they have different plans and needs for their retirement. Maybe the old social network is stale. Maybe they want a clean start. Maybe they want to spend more time alone during retirement.

Google the psychology term "differentiation." It means accepting that people are different from us and being okay with them being different.
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Old 05-30-2019, 02:24 PM
 
Location: Wasilla, AK
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Never heard of such a thing as a meetup group.

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