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Old 05-28-2019, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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So we attended our first meetup last night, nine days into what's-his-name's retirement.

They had it at an inexpensive Italian restaurant. There were about 17 people in attendance, 6 at our table, and all were retired. Except me, of course. Conversation was lively, though the men tended to listen rather than talk.

This is one of the bigger groups, with over 3000 members, though it seems most meetups have 40 or fewer people attending.

DH tried to explain what it was he did in Silicon Valley before he retired but I don't think anyone got it. One woman snowbirds from Chicago. The others are full-time residents.

Maybe the biggest danger of a meetup is that other peoples' lives sound so much better than your own. But it's fun as long as you don't let it get you down. And I got the impression the two single guys just liked being around conversation and food.

Scottsdale is an extremely social place. We could go to meetups every day if we wished. This is the complete opposite of the meetup scene where we lived in California.

Have you gone to a 50s and over Meetup and what was your experience?
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Old 05-28-2019, 08:57 AM
 
Location: Williamsburg, VA
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We've been to a few. It takes a few tries to find the right fit, but I think they're a good thing to do. In my observation, you get a better response by talking about things you are doing now, or things you hope to do now that you're retired (as opposed to talking about what you used to do in your career). It also helps to ask questions about your new town, or talk about some of the interesting things you've discovered since moving there. Keeping it positive also seems to work better than talking about things that have disappointed you.
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Old 05-28-2019, 08:59 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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There are none in my area.

I joined a quilt guild tho'
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Old 05-28-2019, 09:11 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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No, but I've gone to other Meetups; specifically, writers groups. I continued to attend one for a very long time.
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Old 05-28-2019, 09:39 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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No, I didn’t know there’s such group. I tend to meet up with other people with similar activities.
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Old 05-28-2019, 09:55 AM
 
Location: Idaho
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There are a 'ton' of Meetup groups around here in the North Idaho/Spokane area. Seem to be several new groups every month. I joined a couple of the Outdoor Adventure and Christian groups, and have attended just a handful of events.

It's been a mixed bag. I've learned about some new and interesting venues to explore and appreciate the wonderful outdoor environment we have up here, which is a primary reason for moving here for my retirement years; but also pretty frustrated several times. Unless you've previously attended an outdoor activity, I've learned that it is difficult to find the correct starting point. That's happened several times.

The Christian groups are singles groups and again, a mixed bag. I am not very comfortable in large group social situations. That's just the introvert in me. Have always been that way, and I'm okay with it. When they do an outdoor activity, I've enjoyed them.

Don't attend Meetup functions often, but it is nice to have options, and as I said, it's nice learning about new places. I know you asked specifically about over age 50 groups. All of these groups have retired members, but also some middle-aged "kids". Don't seem to be many member younger than their 40's.
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Old 05-28-2019, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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We've been to a few. It takes a few tries to find the right fit, but I think they're a good thing to do. In my observation, you get a better response by talking about things you are doing now, or things you hope to do now that you're retired (as opposed to talking about what you used to do in your career). It also helps to ask questions about your new town, or talk about some of the interesting things you've discovered since moving there. Keeping it positive also seems to work better than talking about things that have disappointed you.
Yep, a definite no no. What's worse is asking someone what they did for a living. Live in the here and now, not the past.

I've mentioned in several posts that I knew a man for about 5 years before I found out he was an MD. Saw him several times a week and it never came up in conversation.
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Old 05-28-2019, 10:38 AM
 
Location: planet earth
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Where I live Meetups are for the person holding it to promote their business. There is no real interaction, just instruction.
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Old 05-28-2019, 11:16 AM
 
Location: VT; previously MD & NJ
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We've been to a few. It takes a few tries to find the right fit, but I think they're a good thing to do. In my observation, you get a better response by talking about things you are doing now, or things you hope to do now that you're retired (as opposed to talking about what you used to do in your career). It also helps to ask questions about your new town, or talk about some of the interesting things you've discovered since moving there. Keeping it positive also seems to work better than talking about things that have disappointed you.
I agree. When people ask me what I used to do for a living, I just say: computer stuff. Then they think I'm smart. But it also can lead to people asking you to keep the mailing list for the group, or make labels or some such just because you worked with computers once upon a time.
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Old 05-28-2019, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Williamsburg, VA
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I agree. When people ask me what I used to do for a living, I just say: computer stuff. Then they think I'm smart. But it also can lead to people asking you to keep the mailing list for the group, or make labels or some such just because you worked with computers once upon a time.

Ha ha so true! And whatever you do, don't tell them you have any experience putting out a newsletter.
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