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Old 06-12-2019, 05:04 AM
 
Location: Williamsburg, VA
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Not sure who 'WE' is but ok is ok with me.. I enjoy not having to answer to a boss, scheduling my own time, wearing what I want (had a dress code).


I'm not thrilled or ecstatic over it. It's just a way of life now. I appreciate being at this stage of life but by most people's standards, it's a boring life.


I don't care about other peoples' standards. I like my boring life.
Nicely said. My life doesn't look like some television commercial, so I guess it could be called boring, too. But who cares what other people might think, the fact of the matter is like my boring life. I've found a certain groove. If my groove starts to feel more like a rut, then maybe I'll do some new things. But I don't need to run around doing lots of things to make my life look exciting to someone else. Which does bring up a thought: OP, you started to feel this way AFTER someone else asked you how retirement was. Is it possible that's a factor?

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Old 06-12-2019, 05:11 AM
 
Location: Williamsburg, VA
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So now maybe i think i am okay? I guess i am over thinking things?

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Old 06-12-2019, 05:55 AM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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Everybody has unique circumstances.

I'm not too keen on retirement because I have a partially disabled spouse. It makes travel very difficult. I suppose I could go myself and leave her behind, but that just doesn't feel right.

Therefore, I need things to do. I found a part time consulting gig that suits me well. It keeps my mind occupied for 20 hours per week and I have to freedom to schedule the hours as I see fit.

I don't think I'll ever be able to just sit still.
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Old 06-12-2019, 06:03 AM
 
Location: Earth
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My limit for same day traveling is to Manhattan, what with pets at home. I miss longer trips, such as to the Smithsonian in DC, but it's a tolerable tradeoff. I might be pet free by age 90, and then I'll travel.

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Old 06-12-2019, 06:03 AM
 
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Nicely said. My life doesn't look like some television commercial, so I guess it could be called boring, too. But who cares what other people might think, the fact of the matter is like my boring life. I've found a certain groove. If my groove starts to feel more like a rut, then maybe I'll do some new things. But I don't need to run around doing lots of things to make my life look exciting to someone else. Which does bring up a thought: OP, you started to feel this way AFTER someone else asked you how retirement was. Is it possible that's a factor?
I think so.

It made me think - gee - I don't have any exciting tales to tell about my exciting life!
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Old 06-12-2019, 06:07 AM
 
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So now maybe I think I am okay.... What does that mean? What your did years ago is not now or apparently in the immediate past or in the future.

We define our lives one day at a time as we move forward. What are your passions now? What do you want to accomplish with the rest of your life? Are you still a photographer? Are you learning and teaching others? How do you express yourself, your interests, your passions? Do you want more than OK?
No 'passions" at the moment and maybe I don't need any?

I do help out in town and church.

Oh i guess my own would be my town information page. That thing could keep me occupied all day if i let it.

It is a job in itself.
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Old 06-12-2019, 06:08 AM
 
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Thank you for serving, but how does someone serve 20-25 years in the service and afford to retire?
No mortgage, no bills? Also a VA pension to go with that.
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Old 06-12-2019, 06:13 AM
 
Location: northern New England
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I guess my retirement would be considered boring too. I'm pretty happy in my rut (loved that show Becker BTW). I can do what I want. I decided I don't really like traveling. We drove all around the lower 48 and eastern Canada when my DH was still alive, so I have seen a lot. But the last time I was leaving on a multi-day trip, as I was leaving the driveway, I thought, why am I doing this? And that was just driving. I can imagine me sitting in an airport thinking the same thing.


If I had someone I loved to travel with, I would like to do it. That's just me, I know - a lot of people solo travel and love it.


I have to confess, I didn't really "retire" from a "job" -- after we got married, we both worked from home and semi-homesteaded (growing a garden, heating with wood, building own house, etc). That only came to an end when DH got sick and we sold the house.
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Old 06-12-2019, 06:51 AM
 
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I guess my retirement would be considered boring too. I'm pretty happy in my rut (loved that show Becker BTW). I can do what I want. I decided I don't really like traveling....
It's not important what others might consider boring; only how you consider your life. If you're perfectly happy, then that's absolutely fine.

Nobody's trying to tell anyone else how they should spend their retirement years; but if when asked how their retirement is going, they basically shrug their shoulders and say it's merely okay, then perhaps they should endeavor to makes some changes in order to improve their enjoyment of retirement.
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Old 06-12-2019, 06:57 AM
 
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Pets don't need to be a hinderance to travel. We've had pets for 30+ years and have been able to travel the world nonetheless. For short excursions we'll board our pets or get a pet sitter; for longer ones, we'll arrange for family to watch them. Last year for example, when we traveled to Southeast Asia (Singapore, Thailand, Vietnam, Hong Kong) for several weeks, we paid to have my wife's cousin and her husband fly down from Cleveland to stay at our oceanfront condo and take care of our dog and cat. Next Feb. & March when we leave for a month to go to Dubai, Abu Dhabi, the Seychelles, the Maldives, Kuala Lampur, Phuket, and then to Singapore again, we're having a different set of cousins down from Cleveland to do the same thing. We get to travel, our pets get watched by family, and the cousins get to escape frigid Cleveland for a free (or relatively inexpensive) winter holiday in Miami Beach. It's a win - win - win proposition.

And I agree with jrkliny, I think retirement is fantastic and I'd be sad if I had to sum it up with just an "okay."
Pets are absolutely a hindrance to those who want to have the freedom to go anywhere without a lot of preparation. You absolutely have to make preparations for your pets. You have to rely on others that might or might not be available, you have to rely on boarders, that may or may not have spots. And of course you have to arrange for drop off and pick up, and all are issues I do not want to deal with. It would severely inhibit my ability to pick up and go. For those of us that do not want these ties, and want to be “untethered” to travel, pets are not for us.

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