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Old 06-22-2019, 02:02 PM
 
Location: Moore, Ok
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I am trying not to get it, but if dementia sets in, I bet I will spill the beans! Maybe that could be in a movie, or has it already?
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Old 06-22-2019, 02:07 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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I am trying not to get it, but if dementia sets in, I bet I will spill the beans! Maybe that could be in a movie, or has it already?

I had to laugh when I read that because my kids have always been open and honest with me. I told them once I wish they WOULD lie to me now and then so I wouldn't worry so much. lol You can be forgiven if you speak through Dementia.
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Old 06-22-2019, 02:08 PM
 
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I am trying not to get it, but if dementia sets in, I bet I will spill the beans! Maybe that could be in a movie, or has it already?
In fact, someone posted such a case on C-D. Her father as I recall.
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Old 06-22-2019, 02:12 PM
 
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I used to wish my mother would stop imagining my secrets. But she was an inveterate gossip but at the same time wild that people would find out any of her secrets that she had not edited for content or totally made up for PR purposes. We lived hundreds of miles apart and then shortly after that, more than a thousand. But the paranoia never stopped.

Hoisted on her own petard.
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Old 06-22-2019, 02:36 PM
 
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What type of secret(s), OP? Can you give an example or two?
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Old 06-22-2019, 02:50 PM
 
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Actually, I agree with the OP. So many times my daughter (late 20's) will tell me something that she knows that I won't approve of, when there is nothing I can do about it, and she knows that I know it is her life and her decisions, anyway. I just so often wish that she would just keep some things to herself and save me hours of worry and often sleepless nights!

(For example, when she tells me, without my asking, that her new boyfriend is unemployed and has had spent some time in jail in the past for something "minor", but he is really a great guy who loves her kids and is trying very hard to make something of his life now; and, btw, this was not the first time she has had a boyfriend that fit this description. I know that the chances are this newest relationship won't last more than a month or two, so why does she "need" to tell me? That is a rhetorical question, btw. And, also, btw, I don't say anything beyond "Well, I hope it works out well for you" and then just let it go. In the past, I would express my concerns, but it accomplished nothing but her becoming angry with me.)

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Old 06-22-2019, 04:17 PM
 
Location: The Outer Limits
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Be thankful you have that line of communication.
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Old 06-22-2019, 09:34 PM
 
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"...or has it already?"
yes, it has, already.
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Old 06-22-2019, 09:49 PM
 
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I had to laugh when I read that because my kids have always been open and honest with me. I told them once I wish they WOULD lie to me now and then so I wouldn't worry so much. lol You can be forgiven if you speak through Dementia.
Oh this is absolutely me! I thought I was the only one.
My sons, in their 30s now, were typically secretive while in high school but starting in their early 20s they both for some reason decided their misadventures, mistakes, bad decisions, close calls, and near-death experiences make great stories to tell mom.
The stress of hearing all this stuff may help push me into dementia.
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Old 06-22-2019, 10:06 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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My children are in their 30s and we are quite close. While they are open and honest with me they really don't "cross the line" and spill inappropriate secrets to me. And, I don't share inappropriate secrets with them.

My daughter spent 2 1/2 years in a third world country that was/is in the midst of a civil war and she shared enough about the violence & danger and her safety procedures that I (mostly) wasn't worried about her.
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