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Old 09-03-2019, 04:14 PM
 
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The single women where I work say I make them all very happy ...they see how needy I am and say I am so glad I am single ...but it wasn’t like my wife didn’t know..she did get a copy of the proper care and feeding of mathjak107 from my mom ..
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Old 09-03-2019, 05:10 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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I wanted to photograph models in the nude - but they keep telling me to get dressed
An old guy met a really good looking young lady who said 'I'll do anything for 100 dollars. He said "Great, come over and paint my house"

I was very happy when I was single and now I am very happy that I am married. You have to enjoy your own company before others can enjoy your company.
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Old 09-03-2019, 06:48 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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Before I quit Match.com I actually met a real person, about 45 minutes away, lived in a retirement community and a widow like myself. We went out a few times, coffee and dinner. Then I noticed she never had time to really "hang out", always busy with senior bowling or whatever. If we did anything it had to be scheduled 1-2 weeks out. I like spontaneity so it was never gonna work. Has anyone run into this sort of thing? I doubt she's married or any of that.

Perhaps some seniors are just too busy to take on a relationship.
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Old 09-03-2019, 07:01 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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I to "have concerns" about getting married at 66. I don't think I will. The two times I've been married haven't really worked out for me financially. When you marry, you are giving the other person the ability to totally wreck your credit, and drain your assets. Too many think that your money is our money, and their money is their money.

But as Athena says, I'm still open to a relationships, I just need to check with my financial adviser and my lawyer, about the implications of a long term relationship and so called, "common law marriage".

I dont think would get hitched again at 65. But I dont see why two seniors cant enjoy each other's company without a ceremony.
BTW, California doesnt have common law marriage, like many states.
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Old 09-04-2019, 09:54 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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When someone who's been divorced or widowed jumps back into dating, certainly after a long term relationship, I think it's difficult to stop thinking like a married person and learn to think like a single. There's a learning curve. I think you might be thinking like a married person.

Is this woman someone who's too busy to take on a relationship or someone who's carved out a life for herself as a single person and needs more than a few dinners to decide if a relationship is possible and worth giving up part of the life she has now, or adjusting it to better accommodate a partner?
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Old 09-04-2019, 10:53 AM
 
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I've noticed that a good number of older men think that dating should be very easy - he asks you out, and a relationship is expected. Just by the mere fact that you've had a date or two or three together, this type of man thinks that's it, that's all it takes - similar to an ethic in place many many decades ago where if one is 'courting' there is no reason why a woman would not accept this man long-term - as he's a gift, he's courting, and the woman most likely takes what comes to her. (according to his thinking)
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Old 09-04-2019, 11:46 AM
 
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I've noticed that a good number of older men think that dating should be very easy - he asks you out, and a relationship is expected. Just by the mere fact that you've had a date or two or three together, this type of man thinks that's it, that's all it takes - similar to an ethic in place many many decades ago where if one is 'courting' there is no reason why a woman would not accept this man long-term - as he's a gift, he's courting, and the woman most likely takes what comes to her. (according to his thinking)
I wouldn't necessarily agree with that. A lot of older people, regardless of gender, are a bit scared about dating. It's new territory in an old body. Because of this, some come across as over-confident, others accidentally put their foot in their mouth, some want to move too quickly, and many are subjected to quick decisions about whether it's worthwhile pursuing any type of relationship.
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Old Yesterday, 04:32 AM
 
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one of the problems as we get older is that even if you are gym rats like my wife and i , progress is no longer measured in gains . it is measured more in what we are not losing compared to others our age .

it can be very frustrating working out daily only to stay the same but it is what it is . it is just hard to get used to not seeing the results like you used to .

the funny thing is when it comes to my drumming i am seeing amazing progress . i can do things faster and cleaner today then 30 years ago .. so some muscles still respond well but others not so much .. i think the drumming involves more smart muscle . meaning that the existing muscle is there , you are just learning to bring more fibers in to play and not necessarily growing new muscle .

but it does seem there is a limit we bump and we reach a point you can't fight age no matter what you do . so what we are is pretty much what we are. we can reach a point where it is just the best you can do short of surgery . so you just have to learn to take yourself as you are .

good or bad this is what we have to work with and what others see .

good or bad , this is me last week in chicago ... i ain't getting any better no matter how much effort i put in . ha ha ha


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Old Yesterday, 09:24 AM
 
Location: Idaho
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good or bad , this is me last week in chicago ... i ain't getting any better no matter how much effort i put in . ha ha ha
Looking good to me, but there's a big fly on your right shoulder.
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Old Yesterday, 10:34 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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^^^^^^^^^ Took me a minute...... but good one.
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