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Old 07-06-2019, 05:43 PM
 
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Go back and use your masters degree in Psychology to help you with this situation. It is mind over matter generally
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Old 07-06-2019, 05:44 PM
 
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Is this person your child - son or daughter?

Maybe one you gave up for adoption and is now wanting back in your life?
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Old 07-06-2019, 05:45 PM
 
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OMG. You are so rude.

I will do it.

Naysayers be damned.

I don't know how you can live with yourself knowing you DISCOURAGE people.

Totally not cool.

I just booked a little vacation get-away for myself - and that is a major step.

Please put me on ignore - your comments are not helping.

Thank you.


I gave you all KINDS of ideas for you to accomplish the move, and you said all of them were too inconvenient.
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Old 07-06-2019, 07:01 PM
 
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I gave you all KINDS of ideas for you to accomplish the move, and you said all of them were too inconvenient.
Totally untrue. Don't even know what you're referring to - the ONLY reason I cannot get a place for a few months now is because of my elderly dog who had a medical emergency and was in ICU and now can't fly.

Please put me on ignore.
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Old 07-06-2019, 07:03 PM
 
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Travel. Be less accessible. Block their calls.

If you move, you could always move to a gated community or building that controls access.
Learn to say, "that won't work for me".
Yes. Thank you for the advice - never even knew there were buildings that control access!
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Old 07-06-2019, 07:36 PM
 
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Restraining orders would apply right where you already live.
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Old 07-06-2019, 07:39 PM
 
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Restraining orders would apply right where you already live.
I've looked into that a bit (online) and there are requirements - you can't just get a random restraining order against someone - they have to have done something (forget what the parameters are).
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Old 07-06-2019, 08:33 PM
 
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Totally untrue. Don't even know what you're referring to - the ONLY reason I cannot get a place for a few months now is because of my elderly dog who had a medical emergency and was in ICU and now can't fly.

Please put me on ignore.

I advised just plain old driving, or Amtrak. You can go back and check if you forgot. I also advised lots of stops with both, and dog friendly hotels.

You didn't answer how many times this person stops by that it is such a problem. You mention in another thread that they don't live in the same town?
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Old Yesterday, 10:54 AM
 
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I advised just plain old driving, or Amtrak. You can go back and check if you forgot. I also advised lots of stops with both, and dog friendly hotels.

You didn't answer how many times this person stops by that it is such a problem. You mention in another thread that they don't live in the same town?
Driving takes a week, and Amtrak, a week-and-a-half, if I remember correctly. But in any case, it's all too long and was ruled out pages ago.

I can't answer your question, re: how many times - "many" times - enough times to have caused problems. I really don't want to focus on that. The thread was to ask if "escaping" might be a good remedy, and I believe that it could be.

I have heard of other people who have moved away to get away from people, and was curious if anyone else would share such a story.

I also got some other ideas from this thread on possible ways to react in emergencies. It often happens at night when I am taken aback and not feeling prepared or strong - caught off-guard every time.
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Old Yesterday, 01:12 PM
 
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Hmmm it's hard to say whether escaping would be a good remedy. Based on your posts it seems that perhaps this "distressed" person's neediness gives you a sense of purpose that you don't get from your other family. That's something to consider.
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