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I know a family who said no to their daughter because the father’s health was already in decline. They did not have any fall out. Mom had already died a while back. If you can’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of others.
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Some have wayward kids...
Some people have wayward parents...
After re-raising my very ungrateful parents.... I trust my kids and grands will 'mind-their-manners' and not boomerang back home. If they drag back in, there will be a price for all.
First off - where did that expectation of taking care of people because you are a female come from?
There is no such thing.
Yeah, there is. I have seen plenty of self-destructive idiots run back to mommy, because they knew Dad would hand them a 10-spot and tell them to get lost. There's a lot of social pressure on women to be nurturing, even when it is self-destructive.
I guess if you don't understand addiction, you might throw that term around willy-nilly.
This is someone I love, as I have said - so knowing that and using such a term is mean-spirited, and factually incorrect.
Stop, just stop. Your love isn't going to save him. Your love will be what ends up bringing you down the inevitable spiral. He will drag you down with him until there is nothing left. I've been there. Stop this before it's too late. Look away and do not give in no matter how much it hurts right now. The only thing that can save both of you is growing a back bone.
The fact that you're so worried about hurting his feelings by needing to distinguish what is and isn't a polite word to call his addiction says you are probably already too far gone.
Stop, just stop. Your love isn't going to save him. Your love will be what ends up bringing you down the inevitable spiral. He will drag you down with him until there is nothing left. I've been there. Stop this before it's too late. Look away and do not give in no matter how much it hurts right now. The only thing that can save both of you is growing a back bone.
The fact that you're so worried about hurting his feelings by needing to distinguish what is and isn't a polite word to call his addiction says you are probably already too far gone.
Um, you don't know me. I know "my love isn't going to save him."
I am talking about specific challenges.
No need to insult someone you do not know.
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