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Now we're both in our 60's, retired, but he's stuck in the Midwest (where he doesn't want to be) because of his wife's job. Sometimes there's unintended consequences.
My uncle retired ten years before his wife. They bought a small home in Florida where he lived most of the fall/winter/spring and his wife took as much vacation time as she could (which was a lot as she had worked there for decades) during that time to be with him in Florida. They spent the summers together in the Midwest. It worked out well for them.
Actually, I know several couples that did similar things.
Now we're both in our 60's, retired, but he's stuck in the Midwest (where he doesn't want to be) because of his wife's job. Sometimes there's unintended consequences.
IDk, I am 10 years younger than my husband. He retired and I worked 10 years after that- he seemed ok with it. We relocated to my home state, I worked 2.5 more years, then I retired. We are both retired now and life is pretty darn good.
I do take care of him, he doesn't cook or drive, I take him to his doctor appointments, make his food, handle finances, clean house. He has it pretty easy.
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You've obviously never lived in the Midwest.
People in Northern Illinois would be happier in a Russian Gulag
This too can happen... (I know a LOT of people very happy with upper midwest, retired or working)
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... I don't like 280 days / yr of overcast and drizzle, so... I'm gone a lot (as in today, last week... week before that...) 50+ trips (130+ flights) last yr AWAY. I have always enjoyed traveling, so it works out for now.
Double income would have made the travel budget a lot richer!
Not close to 10 years, but 8 years difference here. But thanks to my husband’s health insurance, I got to retire when he did. It was unintended consequences but good ones.
In any event, the choice to be happy or miserable is still his.
I agree. I married for the second time when I was 50 and DH was 65. We moved from NJ to KS for my job almost immediately (that had been on the horizon; I'd been teleworking for the previous year till DS finished HS). He was in advertising so you can imagine what his job prospects were, especially since the small firm where he'd worked in NJ went belly-up. Because he'd taken care of people all his life (a daughter with asthma back when it required a lot of hospital stays, a financially clueless GF in a previous long-term relationship, his elderly mother), he hadn't been able to save much. He filed for SS and took over the domestic duties, joking that he'd been promoted to pool boy. I was making twice what he'd made. Our housing costs were less. I was racking up FF miles from business travel. All that, plus the lower COL meant that we could save for when I retired, fund DS' college and see the world, too.
He had a sweet deal being married to a woman with a good career when he retired and he knew it. It was wonderful for both of us. We'd been together nearly 20 years when he died in November, 2016.
There are worse retirement scenarios than being "stuck" somewhere with a wife who's got a good job.
I moved from the midwest over 20 years ago to escape the nasty winters. It was a paradise here. Then, it slowly started to change and not for the better. The politics and expenses are the polar opposite from that time and yes, my wife's job is the anchor now. We have one more year to get my youngest out of school and she agreed to move then. I used to crow about the weather but even the last few years hasn't been a lot to crow about. Drizzle with cold and wind or hot as hell with raging wildfires.
We aren't sure where it just can't be here as I have a pension.
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