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Old 07-08-2019, 04:35 PM
 
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Last year on July 8, it was 92 degrees in Tustin. Temperatures were 108 and 97 on July 6 and 7. I think all the wildfires may have also impacted the temperatures.
That is why I am glad I no longer live in Tustin. It is too hot for too many days. I am looking forward to retiring in the Midwest!
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Old 07-08-2019, 04:48 PM
 
Location: Rust'n in Tustin
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That is why I am glad I no longer live in Tustin. It is too hot for too many days. I am looking forward to retiring in the Midwest!
I grew up in Chicago, hot and humid doesn't begin to describe it. Unless it's cold and freezing.

Be careful what you wish for

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Old 07-08-2019, 05:19 PM
 
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Now we're both in our 60's, retired, but he's stuck in the Midwest (where he doesn't want to be) because of his wife's job. Sometimes there's unintended consequences.
So....he's getting extra income without having to work for it? Sweet!
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Old 07-08-2019, 05:23 PM
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Location: USA
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So....he's getting extra income without having to work for it? Sweet!
Maybe that was part of his retirement strategy!
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Old 07-08-2019, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Caverns measureless to man...
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"I'm stuck here" can have a lot pf degrees of meaning; life isn't completely black and white. Someone using the phrase does not necessarily mean their life is hell and they're miserable every minute.

I'm 61, my wife is 40. 11 years ago, I had planned to be semi-retired and living a life of leisure and relaxation in California by now, but a woman who had been a very good friend for 4 or 5 years sent me an e-mail in the middle of the night telling me that she was in love with me and wanted to marry me. Turned out I had been in love with her for quite some time too (yeah, I know, I can be pretty damned thick sometimes), so my plans changed. I now live with her in Kentucky, and hate almost everything about this place with a white-hot passion, but she's badly disabled and not in a good condition for a cross-country move. So, I'm "stuck here."

But I did manage to find a job that I absolutely love, which greatly helps in passing the time, and I love her far, far more than I hate Kentucky, so I wouldn't trade Kentucky for California even-up for all the cheese in Wisconsin. It's not where I want to be, so I often feel as though I'm "stuck" here, but in the scheme of things I wouldn't have it any other way. When you find someone who's the right person, you shift your priorities around quite a bit. I could never be as happy someplace else without her as I am every day in Kentucky with her.

But I still can't wait until she finishes her damned surgeries so we can get the hell out of this place once and for all...
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Old 07-08-2019, 05:34 PM
 
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I grew up in Chicago, hot and humid doesn't begin to describe it. Unless out l it's cold and freezing.
Chicago is not even cold compared to really freezing cities like Minneapolis or Winnipeg. The summers could be better but Chicago averages only twelve 90+ degree days per year. That's 12 too many but if one is retired one can book an August trip to Eureka or the Oregon Coast to cool off.

I really miss the beautiful autumns of the Midwest. September and October are the most glorious months of the year in Wisconsin and Minnesota but they are among the worst in California.
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Old 07-08-2019, 06:01 PM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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I've know men who wanted to retire after 65 but kept working in order to maintain their group health insurance plans for a much younger wife.
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Old 07-08-2019, 06:19 PM
 
Location: northern New England
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When I was still snowbirding, there was a guy who came south to Alabama without his wife. She wasn't working but didn't want to leave the grandkids. He enjoyed playing cards and visiting with his friends. Maybe your friend could do something like that, get away for a month in the worst part of winter.
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Old 07-08-2019, 07:05 PM
 
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My brother and his wife have a 10 year age difference between them... 25 year of happily married with kids doing great...

They solved the issue of work constraints when his wife decided to stay home full time after the first child came along...

They travel a lot as a couple and family... he is self employed and does quite well...

She is the youngest in the family on both sides and highly respected... he would not or could not be the success he is in business without her and this is something he has said...

She had a very good job that resulted in a lot of corporate travel... which was not as appealing after the been their done that started to catch up...
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Old 07-08-2019, 07:57 PM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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When I was newly divorced at 57 (about 8 years ago) a Builder took about 20 of us Guy Realtors with most over 55 to a Mavericks Basketball game. Out of the 20 probably 6 guys over 60 had kids younger than 5.

Had to ask each one how the heck did you end up with a 3-5 yo old at your age and everyone of them had a story about the younger 2nd or 3rd wife.

Being newly divorced I decided then I would not date anyone 8 years or more younger but more importantly anyone who could still reproduce.

Worse than having a wife 10 years younger is having a kid that's 50 years younger.

Hell no.
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