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Old 07-11-2019, 10:25 AM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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In my 55+ community they have a Potluck once a month, social hour at 5pm, dinner at 5:30pm, and we're talking Tucson with some searing heat in the summertime. My 85YO neighbor almost collapsed, walking home from the last Potluck last month in 107 degree heat. So I suggested to the President of the Board that, just for the summer, we move the Potluck up a bit to 7Pm when it would be cooler.

"Do you realize that a number of these people climb in bed by 8-9pm? The hours have been the same for the last 20-25 years!"

Me: Alright, then how about, just for the summer months, we have a Breakfast/Brunch at 8-9 am when it's not so hot?

"We'd have to take a vote on that, but most likely, the 5-5:30pm potluck will remain in place!"

And dare I criticize people with engrained habits, as you know the saying: Point a finger at someone, you're pointing 3 fingers at yourself!

Time to go outside and have a smoke!
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Old 07-11-2019, 10:31 AM
 
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Reminds me of what I used to do at night school. Classes typically were from 7-10PM. I normally started work at 6AM to beat traffic. By 9PM, the class could be showing porn, I'd be so burnt out I wouldn't care. So, on the first class of the semester, I'd ask the professor and class if anyone would have a problem starting at 6 and ending at 9. Only once did it NOT work.

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Old 07-11-2019, 04:31 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Your idea is good but a lot of people may prefer an earlier hour for dinner.

Why don't you post a poll for your group to see what type of support you have.

Another option might be to try and set up a ride sharing service where people can call for a ride to the dinner.
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Old 07-11-2019, 05:08 PM
 
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Or, you could make it a habit to give your 85YO neighbor a ride when it's hot outside.
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Old 07-11-2019, 06:18 PM
 
Location: USA
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If the group is large enough poll the residents to see if they can split the events in two one sooner one later. Just because you got one initial reaction should not be the end of dialogue, unless you are in an undemocratic development, then you may want to move out to a place that offers the flexibility you need.

Good luck
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Old 07-11-2019, 06:25 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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People don’t like to eat too late, hard to sleep at night. Plus once you change for one reason, there are other reasons to change back. It’s hard to please a lot of people.
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Old 07-11-2019, 06:54 PM
 
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I lived in Arizona for many years. I doubt it is much cooler at 7PM. At least not enough to make any difference.
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Old 07-11-2019, 07:23 PM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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It's one of the reasons it's hard to be in relationships and get married the older we get.

Having someone move in with you and 2 worlds adjusting to habits that have been set in concrete can be extremely difficult with age. No matter how much you care for someone.

That's why many people keep 2 residences even when they are a "Couple".

Ever try Traveling with a group of old farts? Coordinating simple things like dinner can be a challenge.
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Old 07-11-2019, 07:26 PM
 
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I lived in Arizona for many years. I doubt it is much cooler at 7PM. At least not enough to make any difference.
I spent several summers there when i was in the military - you are right. It is still super hot at 7pm!
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Old 07-11-2019, 07:27 PM
 
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In my 55+ community they have a Potluck once a month, social hour at 5pm, dinner at 5:30pm, and we're talking Tucson with some searing heat in the summertime. My 85YO neighbor almost collapsed, walking home from the last Potluck last month in 107 degree heat. So I suggested to the President of the Board that, just for the summer, we move the Potluck up a bit to 7Pm when it would be cooler.

"Do you realize that a number of these people climb in bed by 8-9pm? The hours have been the same for the last 20-25 years!"

Me: Alright, then how about, just for the summer months, we have a Breakfast/Brunch at 8-9 am when it's not so hot?

"We'd have to take a vote on that, but most likely, the 5-5:30pm potluck will remain in place!"

And dare I criticize people with engrained habits, as you know the saying: Point a finger at someone, you're pointing 3 fingers at yourself!

Time to go outside and have a smoke!
How far away does he have to walk? Can he take a golf cart? I hear those are popular in 55+ communities.

Maybe he was already ill from soemthing else.
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