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Old 07-16-2019, 07:43 PM
 
Location: Upstate NY
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go mostly vegetarian/organic. it's the meat

LOL Please. Just because you don't eat meat, doesn't mean you're healthy because of it.

You could probably pull the cheese out of my arteries.
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Old 07-16-2019, 07:46 PM
 
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Now my retirement is full of fear I am going to follow them to an early grave!
Don't worry, RN. Unless the internet blows up real good or City-Data forums go belly up, you will never die.
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Old 07-16-2019, 09:09 PM
 
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Vegetarians die too.
Isn't that the truth! I knew a young man who only purchased organic foods. He still died young (36) of pancreatic cancer. It didn't matter.
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Old 07-16-2019, 10:38 PM
 
Location: NNV
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The point I am trying to make is so many posters on this board tell us they feel great, are active, exercise and eat well. They expect to live to at least 100 years old and arrange their affairs and finances based on needing that money at 109 years old. It seems to me the ones who told me how great they feel are the ones I see laying in a casket a few months later at the funeral home.
How much do you REALLY know about your friends' health? Did they tell you everything? Just because they look healthy doesn't mean they are.
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Old 07-17-2019, 12:50 AM
 
Location: Whereever we have our RV parked
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Every day is a gift. Bible says, "Tomorrow is promised to no one. Besides, 78 is average life expectancy for men, which means half of all men die before 78.
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Old 07-17-2019, 03:38 AM
 
Location: R.I.
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Now that I am in my 70s and fully retired I have time to think about all the friends, neighbors, family and celebrities who have died in the last few years.

The strange thing about their deaths is they were all under 75 years old and statistically should not have died so young. They were white-collar professionals, were in great shape the year before they died and lived healthy lives. I would always see them outside doing long walks and other physical activities. They told me they never felt better. Had lots of plans for the future and wanted to fulfill their bucket lists for travel.

Almost overnight things changed for them. Cancer, Heart Attack, Stroke, Pulmonary Embolism, all things that can kill the most vital engaged person.

Now my retirement is full of fear I am going to follow them to an early grave!

By the time I reached age 43 I had worked as an ER nurse for 20 years, and can honestly say during that time I witnessed equal number deaths of those well below age 75 as a result of both illness and injury including my very healthy white-collar professional husband who died suddenly from a heart attack at 49.

Whether you are an infant or 75 each day of life is a gift as any number of random illnesses or injuries can end your life in the blink of an eye. And no amount of worrying will change the outcome but instead only rob you of the ability to find peace and joy in each moment of your life however many moments you are gifted with.
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Old 07-17-2019, 04:29 AM
 
Location: western East Roman Empire
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Now that I am in my 70s and fully retired I have time to think about all the friends, neighbors, family and celebrities who have died in the last few years.

The strange thing about their deaths is they were all under 75 years old and statistically should not have died so young. They were white-collar professionals, were in great shape the year before they died and lived healthy lives. I would always see them outside doing long walks and other physical activities. They told me they never felt better. Had lots of plans for the future and wanted to fulfill their bucket lists for travel.

Almost overnight things changed for them. Cancer, Heart Attack, Stroke, Pulmonary Embolism, all things that can kill the most vital engaged person.

Now my retirement is full of fear I am going to follow them to an early grave!
Healthy lifestyle, good genes, good luck ... in increasing order of importance.

The purpose of good diet and exercise is NOT longevity.

The purpose of good diet and exercise is to feel good TODAY.

After all, how many days at a time can one really live?

Today is enough challenge all on its own, including meticulous planning for the future. But that's no excuse for obsessive worry about tomorrow.


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By the time I reached age 43 I had worked as an ER nurse for 20 years, and can honestly say during that time I witnessed equal number deaths of those well below age 75 as a result of both illness and injury including my very healthy white-collar professional husband who died suddenly from a heart attack at 49.

Whether you are an infant or 75 each day of life is a gift as any number of random illnesses or injuries can end your life in the blink of an eye. And no amount of worrying will change the outcome but instead only rob you of the ability to find peace and joy in each moment of your life however many moments you are gifted with.
As I age, I gain increasing respect and admiration for nurses and pre-K/elementary school teachers and wish I could imitate them.

Alas!
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Old 07-17-2019, 04:43 AM
 
Location: annandale, va & slidell, la
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Now that I am in my 70s and fully retired I have time to think about all the friends, neighbors, family and celebrities who have died in the last few years.

The strange thing about their deaths is they were all under 75 years old and statistically should not have died so young. They were white-collar professionals, were in great shape the year before they died and lived healthy lives. I would always see them outside doing long walks and other physical activities. They told me they never felt better. Had lots of plans for the future and wanted to fulfill their bucket lists for travel.

Almost overnight things changed for them. Cancer, Heart Attack, Stroke, Pulmonary Embolism, all things that can kill the most vital engaged person.

Now my retirement is full of fear I am going to follow them to an early grave!
All normal emotions. You've made it to 70 so are doing better than many. The human body is a design marvel, but is only a missing milivolt away from shutting down. Count your blessings and try to eat right.
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Old 07-17-2019, 04:57 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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Jeez something must be wrong with me. Don't think about this stuff at all. Don't try to analyze family longevity, trends, averages, worry about being an exception to them, nothing. It will happen when it happens. When someone I know dies, I say farewell, think back over my memories of them and miss them, but don't speculate about the rest of it at all. Maybe people who do are anxious because they've left a lot of things undone/unsaid/unresolved in their lives.

me too.

Personally, I'd rather keel over suddenly than drag it out and suffer.

It will happen, if not today maybe tomorrow. Or the day after. Until then, I'm living.
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Old 07-17-2019, 07:08 AM
 
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Erm, what is so scary about dying? I'm in my 40s, and I would rather NOT die, but a lot of that is out of my control. I've been faced with death a time or two (and contemplated ending things when stuff got really rough) and I was just mostly disappointed that I might not get to enjoy my life further. I don't believe in an afterlife. I just accept some things are finite.

OP, you're in your 70s. What are you worried about missing out on? What haven't you done yet?

Say what needs to be said to your loved ones. Eat right and exercise. See medical professionals regularly - get those tests done! Savor the little things. And figure out what you want to do before you pass. Yes, people are living longer on average, but there is an age range where death becomes kind of "normal" - that has not shifted much and it really just had it range extended.

If I die tomorrow, the people I care about will know exactly how much they meant to me. My pets will be taken care of. My assets will go to my cousin and her baby, and she will oversee my father's care in his final days. I will not have gotten to accomplish everything I wanted to, but it will have been a pretty darn good life. I HOPE it continues for many more years, but I lost my best friend when she was 23. I saw other young people pass way too soon.

Anything can happen, and you can't really worry about it, or it taints your present. THis is not serving any purpose for you. It is not adding to your happiness, but rather subtracting from it.
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