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Old 07-16-2019, 07:39 AM
 
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Now that I am in my 70s and fully retired I have time to think about all the friends, neighbors, family and celebrities who have died in the last few years.

The strange thing about their deaths is they were all under 75 years old and statistically should not have died so young. They were white-collar professionals, were in great shape the year before they died and lived healthy lives. I would always see them outside doing long walks and other physical activities. They told me they never felt better. Had lots of plans for the future and wanted to fulfill their bucket lists for travel.

Almost overnight things changed for them. Cancer, Heart Attack, Stroke, Pulmonary Embolism, all things that can kill the most vital engaged person.

Now my retirement is full of fear I am going to follow them to an early grave!
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Old 07-16-2019, 07:54 AM
 
Location: Rust'n in Tustin
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I'm 61, my wife is 65. We've got friends 10 years order than us, and it seems they go to at least one funeral a month. They both have a big family, and one of their siblings (or their spouse) isn't doing well.

My wife and I have talked about it, and wonder if that's where we're headed.

Be glad you're not the one dying.

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Old 07-16-2019, 08:00 AM
 
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Almost overnight things changed for them. Cancer, Heart Attack, Stroke, Pulmonary Embolism, all things that can kill the most vital engaged person.

Now my retirement is full of fear I am going to follow them to an early grave!
Maybe you will be hit by a bus instead. That could have happened at any age but I bet you were not worrying about that sort of thing years ago.
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Old 07-16-2019, 08:02 AM
 
Location: Rust'n in Tustin
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The moral of the story is, don't waste your life.
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Old 07-16-2019, 08:04 AM
 
Location: Orlando
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Live every day as if it were your last -- one day it will be!
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Old 07-16-2019, 08:14 AM
 
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Where do you get the idea that 75 is still so young? That's just a little below the average life expectancy. I think people fantasize that most everyone will be living to their mid 90s. That's not the case at all. A few people will, the vast majority will die in their 70s and 80s.
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Old 07-16-2019, 08:15 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Well such is live. Live and let live.
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Old 07-16-2019, 08:36 AM
 
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go mostly vegetarian/organic. it's the meat
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Old 07-16-2019, 08:37 AM
 
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No one can predict these things. My father-in-law is 90 y.o. and has dementia, several stents after several heart attacks, an aneurysm and prostate cancer but still lives alone in a 5,000 sq ft house. and seems to be going strong.

My theory is that even in seemingly "healthy" people, there is a correlation between happiness, gratefulness and love that contribute to health and maybe outsiders don't see.
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Old 07-16-2019, 08:45 AM
 
Location: northern New England
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What if you lived another 20 years in good health but you wasted it worrying about dying? Enjoy each day as it comes and be grateful for it.
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