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Old 07-25-2019, 01:50 AM
 
Location: on the wind
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Originally Posted by nobodysbusiness View Post
I posted it in the Retirement forum is because I am retired AND, looking back over my life now, I am noticing lots of things . . . if a person is self-reflective in old age, they might assess their life and take score, or wonder about certain things - which is what I am doing.
Interesting. I catch myself reflecting on life and the past these days, but find I do the opposite of what you describe. The "scores" and the entries on the cards are fading, and I have less and less interest in keeping them current. Or, they've been torn up entirely and tossed as old useless baggage no longer worth dragging along. Instead, by assessing or reflecting I find that does more to sum things up, draw a line under them, and drop them. I can only bring to mind a couple of actions by others so significant I'd use the label "betrayal" anyway. People have disappointed me fairly often but it didn't rise to deliberate betrayal. The few events were also done by people I no longer have any connection to or interest in either so it makes no sense to remind myself of them. They belong to the universe...and the universe can do whatever it likes with them.

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Old 07-25-2019, 05:06 AM
 
Location: Carolina Shores NC
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Hey, I'm going to DQ. Anyone want anything?
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Old 07-25-2019, 05:08 AM
 
Location: Atlanta
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a couple times but i am not keeping score.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 07:33 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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Yes - I am speaking of all of the different kinds of betrayal you mentioned. My experience yesterday was with a business professional I had a 15 year relationship with - would have never seen it coming.

To answer your question, and the question of all of the others who click on a subject they have no interest in - the REASON I posted it in the Retirement forum is because I am retired AND, looking back over my life now, I am noticing lots of things . . . if a person is self-reflective in old age, they might assess their life and take score, or wonder about certain things - which is what I am doing.

The responses seem to indicate that most people do not experience betrayal over their long lives, which is something I would not have expected - so I learned something, which was the reason for my posting.
Or they have a very different definition of betrayal, which is why someone asked you to define betrayal.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 08:12 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Betrayed is a strong... but sometimes appropriate word.

In that context I can say that I've only been betrayed in my life by one person, so I count myself fortunate. And in the past few months, after 30 years of zero contact, she appeared on my Facebook account as a "Friend Request"! Still delusional after all these years.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 08:42 AM
 
Location: home...finally, home .
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I am astounded every time someone asks for definitions of common words. I am pretty sure you know what the word means. If, by some strange fluke, you don't (and that would be REALLY WEIRD), then you can always google the dictionary definitions.

Here is more of a discussion of examples of betrayal:

https://www.excelatlife.com/articles/betrayed.htm
That was kind of a dismissive and rude answer for a question that I was
wondering myself. Maybe it is your own attitude which promulgates this
reaction in others.
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Old 07-25-2019, 09:06 AM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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More times than I can count. I try not to dwell on it or be bitter. It does me no good now to reflect on betrayals of the past.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 09:19 AM
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Location: colorado springs, CO
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I’ve never been betrayed romantically.

I’ve been betrayed in annoying but common ways, such as; ‘your rates will never go up ...’

I’ve been betrayed by the NIH; ‘Of course, this is safe for children ...’

I’ve been betrayed by a social agenda; ‘You can have/be/do it all ...’

That’s what comes to mind at first for me; those last two were game changers, for sure.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 10:11 AM
 
Location: planet earth
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Interesting. I catch myself reflecting on life and the past these days, but find I do the opposite of what you describe. The "scores" and the entries on the cards are fading, and I have less and less interest in keeping them current. Or, they've been torn up entirely and tossed as old useless baggage no longer worth dragging along. Instead, by assessing or reflecting I find that does more to sum things up, draw a line under them, and drop them. I can only bring to mind a couple of actions by others so significant I'd use the label "betrayal" anyway. People have disappointed me fairly often but it didn't rise to deliberate betrayal. The few events were also done by people I no longer have any connection to or interest in either so it makes no sense to remind myself of them. They belong to the universe...and the universe can do whatever it likes with them.
It's hard to describe the process accurately. I am not keeping score. I have gotten over every betrayal (as much as is possible) - and have forgiven everyone. Even the betrayal of a couple of days ago . . . what I was trying to convey is that I tend to be philosophical - so when something like this happens, I think about the fact that similar things have happened before and merely *wonder* about that . . . I seem to have had more than my fair share of betrayals if this forum is any indication . . . and I don't know why that is - bad luck, bad judge of character, etc. It's just interesting to me because it is my life and I am just taking a snapshot of "my life" from many facets or perspectives.
 
Old 07-25-2019, 10:12 AM
 
Location: planet earth
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That was kind of a dismissive and rude answer for a question that I was
wondering myself. Maybe it is your own attitude which promulgates this
reaction in others.
Hilarious. So "blame the victim." It is my fault that I have been betrayed. Got it!!!

It was a snippy comment, I'll admit, but the reason it was asked was to undermine - everyone knows what the word means.
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