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Old 07-24-2019, 08:09 AM
 
Location: NE Mississippi
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Originally Posted by nobodysbusiness View Post
Just wondering what other people's experiences have been with betrayal.

I have been betrayed by (I am guessing - haven't actually counted) between 10-20 people.

Just had one happen today out-of-the-blue, so that's why it's on my mind, and just wondering how "normal" betrayal is.
In my 74 years I have been betrayed a lot. Family, business, personal relationships - people casually betray your trust and confidence all the time. People repeat conversations when they shouldn't, and even make up conversations that never happened. Lovers cheat, relatives gossip, people take advantage and on and on.
You have to ignore some of it. Just mark it down, and quietly change the nature of your relationship.

But there are times when you have to draw the line. There are times when you must remind yourself that it is OK to throw some disloyal loudmouth who shows he cannot be trusted, right off your train.

 
Old 07-24-2019, 08:10 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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is this a retirement issue really or just personal relationships ? a lot of these subjects simply have an age thrown on but are not really retirement issues so to speak .
It’s called betrayals in retirement. Lol
 
Old 07-24-2019, 08:23 AM
 
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And "Tiredness in Old Age" or "The Millionaire TV Show" and on and on? These are retirement issues?
I can see how "Tiredness in old Age" can easily be a retirement issue since it's age related and retired people usually have health issues people still working don't.
Asking to discuss personal betrayals during your lifetime has nothing to do with retirement nor age.

Bottom line, it's up to the moderators to weed out what they deem are irrelevant or non retirement related threads that could easily be posted in other forums or in chat.
 
Old 07-24-2019, 08:49 AM
 
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The only thing that comes to mind is people who borrowed money and never paid me back.....some even saying “you don’t need the money”. Probably about 10 or them, including many family members. Haven’t loaned anyone a penny in 30 years.
 
Old 07-24-2019, 08:51 AM
 
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Bottom line, it's up to the moderators to weed out what they deem are irrelevant or non retirement related threads that could easily be posted in other forums or in chat.
LOL

For whatever reason, they stopped doing that (unless it deals with politics) in this forum two years ago. That's why this forum has now become an ersatz coffee klatch used by certain individuals for the discussion of whatever stray thought happens to enter one's head at any given time.

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Not every thread that has been started here, even though there is a general forum for the topic, has to be moved immediately. Retirement forum has become much more than just a retirement issues discussion. If someone starts a general thread here, they usually know what they are doing so please, stop swarming us with reports.
 
Old 07-24-2019, 09:06 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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just wondering what other people's experiences have been with betrayal.

I have been betrayed by (i am guessing - haven't actually counted) between 10-20 people.

Just had one happen today out-of-the-blue, so that's why it's on my mind, and just wondering how "normal" betrayal is.
No. You first.

I just don't feel like being fodder for emotional vampirism today.
 
Old 07-24-2019, 09:09 AM
 
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I am astounded every time someone asks for definitions of common words. I am pretty sure you know what the word means. If, by some strange fluke, you don't (and that would be REALLY WEIRD), then you can always google the dictionary definitions.
What does the word "astounded" mean?
 
Old 07-24-2019, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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just wondering how "normal" betrayal is.
It happens, it hurts, and then you have a choice, hold on to it or move on.

I can't think of a good reason to fill the baggage we carry with us in this thing we call life with bad memories so we're sure to never lose track of them, so much so that we keep count. Seems like a dismal way to live but to each their own.
 
Old 07-24-2019, 09:24 AM
 
Location: Willamette Valley, Oregon
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I was betrayed by my mother in 1973. I had left 300 record albums with my parents when I was moving around the country quite a bit. My mother noticed one album cover that offended her. For the record, it was an album by the band "Free". She decided that all 300 albums had to be destroyed and burned them all. At an average of $4 per record, that amounted to $1200 of destruction. I never forgave her for that.
 
Old 07-24-2019, 09:29 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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I would have to say that I was betrayed three times that I can think of. The first time was by my ex who cheated. I took all of the money except a couple of hundred, most of the furniture which I paid for, and moved myself back from California to Illinois. The second was by a contractor that worked for us for years. He took the money we gave him for materials and paid his bills. He bought the materials with a bad check and our property could have had a lien against it. His work was so bad that my husband and I had to take it all down and hire someone else to help us put it back together. I sued him and won in small claims court, but he moved out of state and filed for bankruptcy. He paid back about $300 of the two grand I sued him for. The third was by a crooked manager that took away my hours and gave them to outside agency. i was in house registry and if I didn't work, I didn't get paid. I filed for unemployment, which they tried to deny, but I won. That manager got escorted out by security a short time later. I heard he lost his house as well.
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