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Old 08-02-2019, 07:00 PM
 
Location: Moore, Ok
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Found out last night through DNA that who I thought was my father is not. How about that at 69? Someone with DNA links to me messaged and his Uncle was my father. Well, sperm donated. My daughter and I went over it and yes it is true. It all lines up.

I never really new my "father" and he died when I was 4, but now I have to redo a lot of genealogy work, lol. I am kinda not surprised because of the circumstances at that time. But still, geez! I did get a little quezy this morning after trying to not have deep feelings about it.
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Old 08-02-2019, 07:36 PM
 
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You might want to share this on the Genealogy Forum.
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Old 08-02-2019, 07:39 PM
 
Location: planet earth
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Wow. That must have been shocking. Ignore anyone who says you shouldn't have posted this news here! It is a complete shock IN RETIREMENT to find out who you thought your dad was not really your dad. It messes with your complete identity. You are going to have to process and assimilate this - not something anyone would think they would have to do in retirement.

I "get" how totally bizarre this news would be and how it would mess with you!
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Old 08-02-2019, 07:59 PM
 
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I acquired a new half sister through dna analysis. It wasn’t traumatic for me but it was very traumatic for her, since she just learned through this that the father she grew up with is not her biological father. Yes, these revelations can be very impactful.
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Old 08-02-2019, 08:04 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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Ancestry.com now has "thru lines" that draw a line right through the generations and the first time I looked, it occurred to me that it would be absolutely sickening and very upsetting if I saw a break in those lines. Thank goodness my father was my father and my mother was my mother. If it happened at the grandparent level or further back, it wouldn't have been quite as bad, but bad enough.

Finding and knowing your family history is part of your identity so I can only imagine how it must feel to have that identity shattered and to realize that you are not really who you thought you were. BTW, if you do want to post on the Genealogy Forum too, go right ahead.
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Old 08-02-2019, 08:15 PM
 
Location: Moore, Ok
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Ancestry.com now has "thru lines" that draw a line right through the generations and the first time I looked, it occurred to me that it would be absolutely sickening and very upsetting if I saw a break in those lines. Thank goodness my father was my father and my mother was my mother. If it happened at the grandparent level or further back, it wouldn't have been quite as bad, but bad enough.

Finding and knowing your family history is part of your identity so I can only imagine how it must feel to have that identity shattered and to realize that you are not really who you thought you were. BTW, if you do want to post on the Genealogy Forum too, go right ahead.
Yes, I will, thanks. Perhaps others can share a similar experience. It does have me shook. I have a great life and loving family, but someone else who doesn't, i am sure it would be worse.
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Old 08-02-2019, 08:17 PM
 
Location: Haiku
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I stay away from the whole DNA-genealogy thing. I have no reason to doubt anything but still, I figure let sleeping dogs lie. Of course my sister has gotten into it which in a way drags me in because we share DNA. She is always telling me about distant cousins she is finding but it doesn't do anything for me.
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Old 08-02-2019, 08:19 PM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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Explain to me again how all this DNA testing is a good thing.
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Old 08-02-2019, 08:42 PM
 
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I stay away from the whole DNA-genealogy thing. I have no reason to doubt anything but still, I figure let sleeping dogs lie. Of course my sister has gotten into it which in a way drags me in because we share DNA. She is always telling me about distant cousins she is finding but it doesn't do anything for me.
Amen.
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Old 08-02-2019, 08:46 PM
 
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Explain to me again how all this DNA testing is a good thing.
The connections you make! My paternal great great grandparents were from Mexico. When they immigrated here, the family name could be spelled two ways. I finally made contact with parts of the family that had not had contact since the 40s. Its fascinating.
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