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Old 08-07-2019, 12:32 PM
 
Location: North State (California)
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Adults make their own decisions, right or wrong, it is not my job to correct them.

I have a sister who smokes, despite lung cancer being on both sides of our family. But she won't stop becasue I ask her to.
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Old 08-07-2019, 12:50 PM
 
Location: Backwoods of Maine
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I have great health and zero history of illness, smoking, drinking, etc. I'm 73.

I really resent it when someone insists that I get a flu shot, or take part in some of these screening events that pop up now and then. Some people need those things, but probably most do not. Once they get on Medicare, some people have this idea that just because the coverage is there, they must use it, even if nothing is really wrong.

If your weight is normal, your diet is excellent, you stay active physically and mentally, and you feel well, do not be guilt tripped into having unnecessary medical procedures done just because some non-medical person thinks you should. Think for yourself.
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Old 08-07-2019, 12:57 PM
 
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I have great health and zero history of illness, smoking, drinking, etc. I'm 73.

I really resent it when someone insists that I get a flu shot, or take part in some of these screening events that pop up now and then. Some people need those things, but probably most do not. Once they get on Medicare, some people have this idea that just because the coverage is there, they must use it, even if nothing is really wrong.

If your weight is normal, your diet is excellent, you stay active physically and mentally, and you feel well, do not be guilt tripped into having unnecessary medical procedures done just because some non-medical person thinks you should. Think for yourself.
Most of these people never took care of their health when they were young

I admit that i rarely go to the doctor now. Once a year for sure to get bloodwork for my thyroid meds. Can't go without those.

They nag me also. But they don't realize that when i was a youngster and in the military for over 20 years - it was mandatory to get a full medical and dental exam. We also had to exercise and watch our diet. Smoking was frowned upon. I was still running my mile and a half for the yearly test and making good time. They say they never ran once they left high school. Not that running is everything, but still it is exercise.

One friend's brother passed away last night. He was diagnosed with cancer three weeks ago. He knew he was ill, but probably told himself he didn't want to be like the others in his family. Dialysis and chemo every week for years? That is the way i want to go - quickly.
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Old 08-07-2019, 12:57 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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I never had flu shots, my sister always gets flu shots, guess who gets sick because of the flu more. My sister.
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Old 08-07-2019, 01:00 PM
 
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Adults make their own decisions, right or wrong, it is not my job to correct them.

I have a sister who smokes, despite lung cancer being on both sides of our family. But she won't stop becasue I ask her to.
When my mom was ill, we met with a social worker. She made us understand that we could not force my mother to do things she doesn't want to do.

A couple of these friends have ill spouses. They are weak and do not want to eat. Forcing someone to eat is a big mistake. Your throat muscles do not work as well. You can choke or send food particles into your lungs.

And i think maybe these people just want to be left alone and go peacefully.
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Old 08-07-2019, 01:01 PM
 
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I never had flu shots, my sister always gets flu shots, guess who gets sick because of the flu more. My sister.
I was required to have the flu shot yearly in the military. I did get the flu once.

I don't take it now. Have never had the flu. Knock on wood!
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Old 08-07-2019, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I never had flu shots, my sister always gets flu shots, guess who gets sick because of the flu more. My sister.

Well, thank you Ms. One Data Point.
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Old 08-07-2019, 01:17 PM
 
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I never had flu shots, my sister always gets flu shots, guess who gets sick because of the flu more. My sister.
Depends upon your public exposure and natural immunity. My husband gets flu shot every year as he is regularly exposed to a large diverse population including immigrants. The flu does not protect against every strain. So he gets the flu shot every year but has a higher probability of getting the flu vs. me who doesn't get the flu shot but has very limited public exposure.

Not suggesting this is the case with you and your sister but there is a case to be made for getting flu shots.
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Old 08-07-2019, 01:44 PM
 
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I never had flu shots, my sister always gets flu shots, guess who gets sick because of the flu more. My sister.
I get my flu shots. I never get the flu. I barely get colds.

Anecdotal evidence isnít evidence.

More anecdotal evidence? My husband never got flu shots. He got a brain tumor.

Your sister getting flu shots actually may give her needed antibodies to help her fight the virus so she doesnít die. People die every year from influenza.
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Old 08-07-2019, 01:55 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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When my younger brother was in his late 30's, I nagged him to go to the doctor because he had a large mole/birthmark on his leg that was getting darker and maybe larger. We did not live in the same state or talk that often and I did not have access to internet at that time so it was mainly over the phone. And I did not have the ability to send him website articles about melanoma or to research it myself without going to a library or bookstore. This went on for a couple of years with my mentioning the mole every couple of months when we talked. I also mentioned it to my older sister because she lived in the same city as him and to another brother. My sister's response was yeah he has that birthmark and was not concerned.

Well it turned out to be melanoma and Stage 3 by the time he got around to seeing a doctor.
And our entire family helped support him financially and emotionally the last two years of his life. This may sound cold,
but they are not asking for help now but may be asking for lots of help later when things go south and it may be too late. I regret that I did not nag more or try harder to get another older brother involved who had a little more clout - but he was very busy with this job and family at that time.
Good points.
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