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Old 08-09-2019, 08:11 PM
 
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I'm thinking they do it so they can have an "out" and limit the length of the call. They may find it nearly impossible to "end" the conversation with you otherwise. They want to occasionally talk a bit, just not for an hour.
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Old 08-10-2019, 10:50 AM
 
Location: Milwaukee
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(1) I never drive.
(2) I never call anybody.
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Old 08-11-2019, 02:59 AM
 
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Iím on the other side of that. Not yet retired with elderly folks. Travel for work. Calling while driving allows me to talk to them with no interruptions. I wear earphones while talking to help with background noise. Itís the best I can do for now. And at this point, itís not really conversation but listening to a rehashing of every story or complaint that Iíve already heard ad nauseum.
Really?

Do you realize how many "adult" kids are nothing more than whiny a-holes. Boooooooooooooooooooring.

Don't call, write when you get a life.
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Old 08-11-2019, 05:01 AM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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Any time, from anywhere, I'll take their calls. It's the way the world is these days and to not adapt can make you appear demanding or needy. You're retired. You can take a call anytime. But to a younger person juggling a career, child raising, a social life and more.. time is very precious.
^^^This

My kids have very little available time to chat. When they are driving they do have time so we're pleased to take the call.

A generation ago, one professional income could support a family; now, in expensive cities like San Fran, NYC, Boston or Seattle, it takes two professional incomes. That means your kids live a super hectic life. Time is their least available resource.

Just take the call and be glad you were able to live a more simple life when you were their age.
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Old 08-11-2019, 05:11 AM
 
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Both of my children call me on their way to or home from work. It doesnít bother me at all. They both have families and are very busy. It really never dawned on me for this to bother me.
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Old 08-11-2019, 05:32 AM
 
Location: Hiding from Antifa?
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This was never a problem when there was one phone in the house and it was mounted on the kitchen wall.
It was mounted on the kitchen wall so the chatty housewives could continue to cook their husbandís dinner while they talked to other housewives about the latest soap opera.
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Old 08-11-2019, 06:00 AM
 
Location: Hiding from Antifa?
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I have two of our children on my Find Friends app such that I can see where they are. If they are driving, I don’t bother them and I especially don’t text them. If they are driving, and it is important, I will call them and not stay on long. I can also FaceTime when they are not driving, so we can interact with the grandchildren. The third child takes forever to text back and sometimes never answers calls. And she is the one who lives farthest away.

By adapting to using text, I have found I stay in contact with them much more than if I used phone calls only. It wasn’t hard tow adapt, though, since I was given a company Blackberry soon after they first came out. They switched to iPhones later on for security reasons. That was about the same time I was going from pc to iOS in my personal life. I love how everything can be integrated in the Apple world. But that is another topic.
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Old 08-11-2019, 06:06 AM
 
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Does your kid only call you when they are driving somewhere because they are so ďbusyĒ?

Does it irritate you? (I have ADD and the noise is very distracting.)

Does it matter to your kid that it bothers you? (It apparently doesnít bother mine.)

Is it so hard to take a half hour out of their week to talk?
(We live across the country from each other.)

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I donít care when he calls. Love hearing from him. Itís often from the grocery store when he needs advice on ingredients for a recipe.
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Old 08-11-2019, 06:34 AM
 
Location: The Outer Limits
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I don’t call anyone unless its business, and nobody calls me, therefore my time is my own.
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Old 08-11-2019, 06:40 AM
 
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I used to call my mother almost every day on my 45-60 minute drive home from work. She lived with my older sister about 2.5 hours away and I'm told she looked forward to the calls, which came at a time nobody else was home. I had only about 3.5 hours from the time I got home to the time I went to bed, during which time I had dinner to fix, housework to do, errands to run and a husband to spend time with. My calls to mom would have been much further apart and shorter if I didn't/couldn't call her from the car.

I would consider it a blessing your child makes the effort to call you with whatever time they have available. I enjoyed talking to my mother, so I wasn't slighting her, but calling at a time when I could talk the longest - she's been gone 8.5 years and I still miss her.
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