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Old 08-10-2019, 11:06 AM
 
Location: Florida Baby!
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I know with aging comes a little looking back over ones life. However, when is enough...enough?

Every day there is a thread harkening back to "when you were a kid," or "growing up, did you," etc.

Maybe it's me, but I don't have the nostalgia gene. Anyone else who doesn't feel the need to constantly re-examine ones entire life?
While a song I hear or an old TV show I'm watching may trigger some warm feelings, I make it a point not to dwell in the past. I had a crappy childhood so there's no love lost there. The one big caveat is going to my high school reunions. They're a blast--I've formed a constellation of new friendships I never had while in high school!

I've told my kids: The Past is a nice place to visit but don't live there--it will mess up your mind and stunt your growth.....

ADDENDUM

Looking at other folks' comments made me remember that I do have a cache of mementos from my school days--mostly high school and college. I also have a box called "Fantasy Clothes" which is sort of a fashion time capsule of my life. I still have my prom dress and wedding dress (the marriage tanked but I still love my gown!) and I even have some of my mother's dresses from the 40s and 50s (including her wedding dress!) When I moved to FL I carted all that plus my kids' communion dresses and prom gowns. Kid# 1 was here last month and we dragged her prom dress out of the closet and she tried it on. It looks even better on her now than it did 10 years ago!

I keep this stuff as a sort of time capsule for my kids. When I die they can do whatever with it.

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Old 08-10-2019, 11:33 AM
 
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At seventy four I have more time behind me than in front of me, so naturally, I find myself reminiscing about the past often enough. Am I nostalgic? No, not really, but I do see the frequent use of nostalgia as an advertising gimmick, and I admit that I do get a kick out of seeing old cars, boats, machinery etc. The only aspect of nostalgia that really causes some hard feeling is the notion by seniors that we had the best, that we are the best, and, that the youth are always inferior to our "greatness."
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Old 08-10-2019, 12:02 PM
 
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I can never get on the nostalgia wagon either. Old TV shows, old music? No thanks, been there done that.

I like new stuff.
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Old 08-10-2019, 12:41 PM
 
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At seventy four I have more time behind me than in front of me, so naturally, I find myself reminiscing about the past often enough. .....
I don't see anything natural about this. I spend very little time on the past. I try to live in the present while also making plans for the future.
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Old 08-10-2019, 12:44 PM
 
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I don't see anything natural about this. I spend very little time on the past.

What makes you think this is natural?
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Old 08-10-2019, 02:43 PM
 
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Looking ahead instead of backward is a lot more productive. What was... was.
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Old 08-10-2019, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Old Mother Idaho
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I know with aging comes a little looking back over ones life. However, when is enough...enough?

Every day there is a thread harkening back to "when you were a kid," or "growing up, did you," etc.

Maybe it's me, but I don't have the nostalgia gene. Anyone else who doesn't feel the need to constantly re-examine ones entire life?
Me neither. At my age, there's more past to remember than present, so I'm often recalling my past, and sometimes that does bring re-examination, but the need is not constant.

I always have more to look forward to than what has been left behind in the past. I may be dimming, but I'm not burnt out yet. There's still a lot left for me to do.

Nostalgia doesn't get along well with the future. It tends to make the past more pleasant than it actually was, I think.
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Old 08-10-2019, 08:11 PM
 
Location: Myrtle Creek, Oregon
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I relive the past because when I was young I had way more fun than you can have without ending up in jail.

I examine the past because my depth of experience lends itself to an understanding of the world.
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Old 08-10-2019, 08:20 PM
 
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I know with aging comes a little looking back over ones life. However, when is enough...enough?

Every day there is a thread harkening back to "when you were a kid," or "growing up, did you," etc.

Maybe it's me, but I don't have the nostalgia gene. Anyone else who doesn't feel the need to constantly re-examine ones entire life?
I don't look back much....I do enjoy story telling (experiences) as part of a thread or debate on human nature or biz or whatever.

But I definitely don't live in the past.
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Old 08-11-2019, 08:26 PM
 
Location: Earth
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I'm ambivalent. I shudder at the very word "nostalgia," but I do cherish recalling days of people and pets now past. My ultimate nightmare, paradoxically, would be to find myself brought back into the past. I still have favorite movies, music etc. from long ago I still like, and I'm definitely a history person, comparing now with back then. I also have a--wait for it--weird sense of sentimental existentialism, if you will, regarding the passage of time. Not nostalgia, per se, but the philosophic passing of relentless time.
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