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Old 08-15-2019, 08:59 AM
 
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It's often enough for me. I wasn't complaiining. Being romantic is easy, a hug or a kiss, saying I love you, never going to bed mad. All easy and free.
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Wow— what do you do to be romantic? People need to be told and shown that they are cared for- no it isn’t a given. Foot rubs, back rubs, other rubs are great! And hotel rooms are fun for a change of scenery. No wonder your wife isn’t often in the mood.
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Old 08-15-2019, 09:19 AM
 
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was that with a partner ??????
LOL! I was wondering the same thing!
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Old 08-15-2019, 09:26 AM
Status: "Loving our retirement" (set 20 days ago)
 
Location: Asheville NC
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It's often enough for me. I wasn't complaiining. Being romantic is easy, a hug or a kiss, saying I love you, never going to bed mad. All easy and free.
A hug and a kiss - saying “ I love you”, are an everyday “given” for us.

Little surprises, and going the extra mile are romantic for us, and are done by both of us. Sometimes free sometimes not. Putting in no effort as in “easy” seems more like being taken for granted, not really being appreciated. Cost not usually a consideration, and usually minimal (more like thought and time.)

Having fun together, regular dates, and first being kind, were suggested in our premarital counseling by our Episcopal priest. We have kept these up throughout our 47 years together. They have worked so far.

I’m over this convo.

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Old 08-15-2019, 10:10 AM
 
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We're married for 46 years. Never went to counseling or thought we needed it. Don't go to church anyway. What works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. Whatever works for you is good. Whatever doesn't work for you isn't. Doesn't matter what others do.
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A hug and a kiss - saying “ I love you”, are an everyday “given” for us.

Little surprises, and going the extra mile are romantic for us, and are done by both of us. Sometimes free sometimes not. Putting in no effort as in “easy” seems more like being taken for granted, not really being appreciated. Cost not usually a consideration, and usually minimal (more like thought and time.)

Having fun together, regular dates, and first being kind, were suggested in our premarital counseling by our Episcopal priest. We have kept these up throughout our 47 years together. They have worked so far.

I’m over this convo.
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Old 08-15-2019, 10:51 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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men at heart are really chickens ...when things are not good at home , men tend to find someone else on the side ... they will still attempt to burn the candles at both ends until they get caught and are forced in to a choice or decision .

women tend to be more direct ... i think most women just go directly to lets divorce , do not pass go , do not pick up a side lover like men tend to .....
Worse than that. I wonder if I can stay faithful if a woman appeared naked in front of me?

Men are impulsive and easily aroused visually. Women are more like a slow-cooker and takes time and constant heat to warm up.
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Old 08-15-2019, 11:37 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Worse than that. I wonder if I can stay faithful if a woman appeared naked in front of me?

Men are impulsive and easily aroused visually. Women are more like a slow-cooker and takes time and constant heat to warm up.
Women in general are much more attractive naked. Men in general is just a joystick.
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Old 08-15-2019, 03:54 PM
 
Location: The Outer Limits
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https://health.clevelandclinic.org/w...ly-your-heart/

Twice a week is what the Doctor ordered for a healthy heart.
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Old 08-15-2019, 03:56 PM
 
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https://health.clevelandclinic.org/w...ly-your-heart/

Twice a week is what the Doctor ordered for a healthy heart.
I’m a goner
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Old 08-15-2019, 03:57 PM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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https://health.clevelandclinic.org/w...ly-your-heart/

Twice a week is what the Doctor ordered for a healthy heart.
That would be sweet
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Old 08-15-2019, 04:47 PM
 
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So before this discussion disappears down in the pile, to sum up:

Sex is still important to retirees. Twice a week is considered maintenance. Men tend to be interested in sex more often than women.

The "get your biscuits in the oven and your buns in bed" approach to seduction is favored by those who report having to pester their wives for sex.
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