Which Things have you stopped doing? (mother-in-law, relatives, respect, friends)

[Jay_F]

Fun question OP. Been retired and divorced since 2013... So:

Which Things have you stopped doing?

- Left the TV with Ms. cheater pants, never got another, so it's a TV (indoctrination) free zone.

- Setting an alarm clock

- Shaving every day; either once a week or grow a big ol' bushy beard.

- Giving even less eff's about the opinions of others... I treat all people with respect and kindness, and if they won't/don't reciprocate, not my problem... Some folks are just insufferable A-holes, that thrive on being so.

- Keeping much of a tab on my finances. I've been my own money manager/financial adviser since I was 22, set and kept my plan and never thought lack of $$$ for my modest needs would ever come to fruition. It has.

- Allowing myself to be around anyone with as much as an atoms worth of toxicity. One peep, and it's door-slam time w/o as much as a pang of guilt.

- EVER doubting my gut.

- Believing that the word "NO", is not a complete sentence for those situations where required.

- Putting my needs behind everyone else's.

- Wondering what I'm going to wear 99% of the time... It's amazing how well a well fitted, bright white/colored and clean T-shirt goes with every pair of jeans and shorts I own.

- Shoveling the driveway/cutting grass until I damn well get around to it.

- Raising and lowering the toilet seat a billion times a day... Lowering then raising once a day seems to be the proper interval.

- Wearing out the thermostat since cheater pants is gone... Yep, I like it 58 in the winter, and summer too.

Lastly... Doubting the person I always was, was just fine all the time, despite well aimed slings and arrows fired from a person I thought loved and cared about me... Turns out I was nothing more than a reliable appliance that had a hopeful giving heart and spirit, being played by virtue of those virtues, and taken advantage of by a lizard-eyed monster. I faithfully loved and trusted blindly, and what another might appreciate and cherish, was weaponized where not even scorched earth was enough; the fields were salted too.

No sob story; simply what I learned, what I will no longer accept, and that even when you think you can not take anymore, you are far stronger than you may realize, and the sun does rise another day.

[Willamette City]

I stopped pouring over my investment accounts. The only thing I have now is a Deferred Compensation program, that I put into very safe investments. I checked a week ago or so and it was up $1.53 for the year. It's not going to gain or lose very much. We'll probably start dipping into it next year.

[turkeydance]

wow.

"...only recently paying for things in stores with cash , mainly just use card now a days."
i am the opposite. used cards for decades. now, it is always cash when accepted.
for example: our dry cleaner does not take cash anymore.

other things:
1. stopped going to the movies. last one was "Inception", nine years ago. Leonardo.
2. stopped going to the same church all the time. mixing it up made some new friends.
3. stopped going to the bank once a week. go once a month now. just to say hello.

[dnkw]

I stoped driving at night.
I stopped buying cheap shoes and expensive clothes.

[mschrief]

Originally Posted by fluffythewondercat

I've stopped caring about what my spouse likes (very little) or dislikes (almost everything). Negative people can't be pleased or brought around to a positive, hopeful outlook.

Our husbands must have been separated at birth...!

[RationalExpectations]

I've stopped having sex with multiple swimsuit models at a time.

[ysr_racer]

Originally Posted by ansible90

I stopped shaving my legs. The hair that started growing there during adolescence has finally stopped growing.
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Me too, and I'm a 61 year old geezer.

Originally Posted by ansible90

Someday I may be able to stop using deodorant... my mother didn't need it anymore when she got old.

Umm, ahh, maybe call that "plan b"?

[ysr_racer]

Originally Posted by RationalExpectations

I've stopped having sex with multiple swimsuit models at a time.

Aka, stopped taking your dementia meds?

[RationalExpectations]

Originally Posted by ysr_racer

Aka, stopped taking your dementia meds?

Something like that. But hey - a fella can dream, can't he?

[JohnnyLackland]

'stopped prioritizing what needs to be done. And have not noticed any lingering effects. And life has gotten much better. I still mow the lawn. And pay the bills.