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Old 09-01-2019, 08:20 PM
 
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Being a couple is a two-edged sword. You've got back-up but also someone to be worried about.
^^ So true.
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Old 09-01-2019, 09:23 PM
 
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Being a couple is a two-edged sword. You've got back-up but also someone to be worried about.
Ain't that the truth.

I'm surprised by the thread on dating services. Besides the problem that there are 100 men for every woman, it seems to me that someone who has lost a spouse wouldn't take the chance of going through that again.
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Old 09-01-2019, 10:52 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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My husband and I don’t have problem with sleep. They do repair and heal, not sure if we still have growth hormone anymore, but my hair and nails are growing so fast, it’s a nuisance.
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Old 09-02-2019, 05:13 AM
 
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Just stop. This has nothing to do with assisted living.

Last edited by VTsnowbird; 09-02-2019 at 06:36 AM..
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Old 09-02-2019, 05:58 AM
 
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Ain't that the truth.

I'm surprised by the thread on dating services. Besides the problem that there are 100 men for every woman, it seems to me that someone who has lost a spouse wouldn't take the chance of going through that again.
In Florida they call it marrying "a purse or a nurse". Men re-marry a younger spouse to take care of them and women remarry for financial security (care-taking strings attached ).

I rarely see women who are financially OK re-marry.
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Old 09-02-2019, 05:58 AM
 
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I'm surprised by the thread on dating services. Besides the problem that there are 100 men for every woman, it seems to me that someone who has lost a spouse wouldn't take the chance of going through that (caregiving) again.
I went through a bit of it as my DH got sicker but only the last couple of months were really bad. I found a nice guy on Match and neither of us is interested in marriage or cohabitation. We live a little over an hour from each other so we're not together 24/7. It's working out very well. I'm unlikely to remarry and the potential caregiving is a major reason.
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Old 09-02-2019, 06:10 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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Ain't that the truth.

I'm surprised by the thread on dating services. Besides the problem that there are 100 men for every woman, it seems to me that someone who has lost a spouse wouldn't take the chance of going through that again.

There are 100 men for every woman? I would think it would be the opposite since women supposedly outlive men.
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Old 09-02-2019, 07:17 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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Ain't that the truth.

I'm surprised by the thread on dating services. Besides the problem that there are 100 men for every woman, it seems to me that someone who has lost a spouse wouldn't take the chance of going through that again.



Huh?? Where are all these men located?

The number of men to women gets lower the older we get.
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Old 09-02-2019, 07:18 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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The short stay option sounds perfect.

When we were looking for a relative, we found that assisted living offered mighty little assistance other than meals and weekly housekeeping. If you needed assistance with personal cares, or med management, that was extra.
Some, but not all, ALF's operate this way. Others are more all-inclusive, but most require that you at least have mobility to get yourself to and from meals in the dining room, and to feed yourself. On the other hand, my MIL was at two different Independent Living apartments where they had no problem with residents hiring their own aides to come and assist with needs such as bathing or health (injections, massage, PT, etc). This could be a more affordable option versus AL. Our big problem with my MIL was her advancing cognitive decline caused her to be unable to manage her own meds, and she was worrying the staff with her occasional mental lapses. They were afraid for her safety if she might wander off, or even just become argumentative or frightened, and that sort of supervision was not provided in an IL setting, so AL was more appropriate.
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Old 09-02-2019, 07:49 AM
 
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Some, but not all, ALF's operate this way.

In my personal experience, all assisted living facilities bill for added services. If you require med management, that's extra. If you're in a wheelchair and need staff to push you around, that's extra. If you're incontinent and need Depends and someone to wipe your butt, that's extra. The base level service is cleaning your apartment weekly, doing laundry weekly, meals in the dining room, and the organized activities. Everything else requires added labor and they have to charge for it to cover their costs plus the profit on it.
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