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Old 09-03-2019, 12:49 PM
 
Location: Idaho
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The following is presented as food for thought and discussion. Seems like something we should consider as we evaluate future options.


https://www.businesstimes.com.sg/opi...old-in-america



It is written from the perspective of a non senior reflection on the needs of elderly parents and how to help them without taking on a burden themselves.
There is already a thread on this article. Maybe the moderator can merge the two or close one.



http://www.city-data.com/forum/retir...ed-living.html


mod note - they have been merged.

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Old 09-03-2019, 12:49 PM
 
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We are affiliated with a very nice CCRC for future use down the road hopefully around age 80.

The first stage is fully independent living. The facility has all the luxury bells and whistles.
The second stage if needed is assisted living and that can vary from facility to facility and be defined many different ways. Beyond that if needed is memory care and skilled nursing care.

We subscribe to the concept that a full rich retirement is enhanced by long term planning with possible needs, wants and goals identified along with a successful financial plan to achieve them.

Worked for us, but to each their own.
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Old 09-03-2019, 12:51 PM
 
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There is already a thread on this article. Maybe the moderator can merge the two or close one.

http://www.city-data.com/forum/retir...ed-living.html
I missed that thread. Same article no need to duplicate.
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Old 09-03-2019, 01:17 PM
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Location: Middle Tennessee
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My mother went into assisted living just before her 101st birthday. Facility was clean and pleasant and she had a nice large room and brought some of her furniture from her apartment. Food was pretty good and she made some friends there. People who worked there learned her routine such as liking a cup of tea before she went to bed. So they would be sure to bring her some hot water from the kitchen every evening.

Unfortunately, after 18 months there, she fell and fractured her upper arm and just gave up. Had to move her to a nursing home until the end. One of the last things she said was how much she missed the assisted living facility
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Old 09-03-2019, 01:32 PM
 
Location: VT; previously MD & NJ
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No, thanks. I've had enough doom and gloom. But you go ahead and wallow, if you want.

Anne Tergesen of the Wall Street Journal notes, "Older adults who focus primarily on the downsides of aging need to recognize that they are doing themselves more harm than they might imagine. Researchers are finding that if we think about getting older primarily in terms of decline or disability, our health likely will suffer. Conversely, if we tend to view aging in terms of opportunity and growth, our bodies respond in kind."


Written by someone who is nowhere near old age. That goes for the "researchers" too.
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Old 09-03-2019, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Written by someone who is nowhere near old age. That goes for the "researchers" too.
I'm so tempted to point out the logical fallacy here...

But instead I'll just say, "So, how about that assisted suicide, huh?"
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Old 09-03-2019, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Mt. Lebanon
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I never realized these facilities were exempted from standards required of Nursing Homes. I always considered them a sub-set of Nursing Homes, facilities for Seniors who required the least amount of assistance.
I thought assisted living = nursing homes. what's the difference?
oh, i didn't read the other replies. Now i understand.
jeez, this is stuff i didn't know.
Come to think of it.... it is very sad.
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Old 09-03-2019, 03:18 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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For some who don’t know my history, I’m a retired Social Worker. With my experience I can assure you the likelihood of winding up in assisted living is very small. So small we are not spending money on LTC or any type of assisted living insurance.

The “fantasy” that we can be self sufficient until we die is the actual reality for 90% of elders and most of the other 10% will do ok with a little in home help

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Old 09-03-2019, 03:26 PM
 
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eventually, Assisted Living will be robot assisted.
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Old 09-03-2019, 03:56 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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I thought assisted living = nursing homes. what's the difference?
oh, i didn't read the other replies. Now i understand.
jeez, this is stuff i didn't know.
Come to think of it.... it is very sad.
Unfortunately, a common misconception/assumption people make until reality knocks on the front door. No one gave it permission to do so. It just does. Best to look into it beforehand but not go so far as to give up the ship.
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