Of death and dying it seems all around me. Depressing! (acquaintance, community)

[nicet4]

I went through my 20's to my 60's without losing a long time friend but lately something is happening and it is worrisome. Lost my oldest and longest friend three years ago one day before his 70th birthday. Far to young to die of a sudden, unexpected heart attack.

A young man I trained died a couple years ago at age 50 of a sudden heart attack. Today I got 21 years on him and I am still ticking. Doesn't seem fair.

And now, in just the last two weeks, I've lost two more acquaintances to death.

Last night I told my wife if there is something we want to do we're not going to wait but go do it. I guess we are all living on borrowed time but that fact really hit me today.

I want to go before my wife because I don't know how I would handle the sadness but then for me to say that seems selfish of me. She went to the paint store today and selected some colors for the condo, what would I do without her?

Sorry for the childish rant but the idea of borrowed time just sort of hit me.

[PAhippo]

Hits everyone -or almost everyone-eventually. At least you've learned a lesson from it.

[coffeemoments]

Originally Posted by nicet4

Last night I told my wife if there is something we want to do we're not going to wait but go do it. I guess we are all living on borrowed time but that fact really hit me today.

I think that is wise and I don't see it as a childish rant. Sometimes I feel like I'm also surrounded by death all the time. Having lost my brother and friends in their 20s, brother in laws and a sister in law all way before they ever could of retired, people I worked with mostly young, my Grandmother in her early 60s, both Grandfathers before I was 3 years old and a few months ago my Mom, my Dad already had passed, I understand what you are saying. Enjoy life while you have it and do the things while you can. Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

[turkeydance]

birth and living is all around, too.

1. Dying: in the last two years, my FIL and MIL died. our 17-year-old dog died, too. my best friend from
our gun range died 6 months after retiring at 65. another friend stroked out and died this year.
2. Living: we have had our new dog for 3 weeks. just got a baby shower invitation from my niece as well as a
birthday party invitation for her one-year-old. my mother is 95 and still alive and LOVES the Atlanta Braves.

some days, it is dying that requires attention, and other days are full of life.

[Lodestar 77]

My church community has had 5 men pass away in the last 6 weeks, and I knew all 5. One was in his '80's and was in a care home, his family would bring him to church, the other 4 were in their 70's and it was pretty much sudden/unexpected with them. Once an illness became known they went downhill pretty quickly. Three left widows who I am close to.......they are devastated, to say the least, none expected their husbands to pass when they did.

[TimAZ]

Seek inner peace and come to terms with your mortality. It sounds as though you still haven’t accepted it.

[jrkliny]

Originally Posted by TimAZ

Seek inner peace and come to terms with your mortality. It sounds as though you still haven’t accepted it.

Very few ever do. Our biology has programmed us to want to live.

[VTsnowbird]

I have a tendency to get depressed over the future. But I try to think of people I know who are active and happy well into their 80's, and resolve to be like them.

[CptnRn]

It is an unavoidable part of growing older. If you are blessed with a relatively long life, you will live to see many of your friends and loved ones pass away.

[TwoByFour]

Originally Posted by nicet4

Doesn't seem fair.

Nobody said life is going to be easy, or fair. Spend some time with nature. There is life everywhere on this planet. It is an amazing thing but part of life is the cycle; we are all part of it. Just enjoy the time you are here.