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Old 09-12-2019, 09:15 PM
 
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I'm in touch with all kinds of former acquaintances. From elementary classmates to ex husbands - lol!
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Old 09-12-2019, 09:16 PM
 
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I think people are pretty much fungible.
I find that very sad. That also says a lot about you.

Personally I have lots of friends and acquaintances who I do not consider "fungible"; i.e, easily replaced, interchangeable. Many of my friends are highly unique with special interests, special ideas and outlooks and accomplishments. I even have a couple of friends from many years ago who have died but I think of them frequently.
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Old 09-12-2019, 09:19 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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A few never turned up on Facebook. There are some people that I haven't heard from in a decade or so who I'd like to know what happened to.
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Old 09-12-2019, 10:58 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I find that very sad. That also says a lot about you.

Personally I have lots of friends and acquaintances who I do not consider "fungible"; i.e, easily replaced, interchangeable. Many of my friends are highly unique with special interests, special ideas and outlooks and accomplishments. I even have a couple of friends from many years ago who have died but I think of them frequently.
Thanks for the insult and for explaining to me what fungible means.

Such superior condescension.
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Old 09-12-2019, 11:03 PM
 
Location: The State Of California
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You know the ones that were in your life for a very short period and then drifted away or disappeared? They were really great coworkers, family friends, classmates, etc you wished you could have cultivated a deeper relationship with. Who were they and how did they affect your life? What would you say to them if you could see them again?


Mainly those acquaintance that I met in the military , yes sometimes I wonder where they are and what they are up to.
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Old 09-12-2019, 11:25 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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None, I don’t have Facebook. But I did find two old roommates using my husband’s account, we used to write to each other after I moved back to California but then we stopped.
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Old 09-12-2019, 11:42 PM
 
Location: New Mexico
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My best friends today are coworkers from the 1970s although we have been in different cities, and now states, since 1976. I have friends I've known since 2nd and 4th grade. Most of my college friends have disappeared. I pretty much separated from my later career coworkers maybe because I was the director and we had a cordial but not chummy friendship relationship.

I've had a few school and college friends surface on the internet just to touch base and trade stories and reports on others (counting noses) and then disappear. I did not go to my 50th high school reunion. I keep in touch with several friends from my former town. I send out about 35 Christmas cards with a short note in each one and I get quite a few in return. I have a very small family so friends might fill in where a larger family might otherwise.
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Old Yesterday, 02:41 AM
 
Location: Cebu, Philippines
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So far, I have a list of 28 people on Wikipedia, with whom I was on a first name basis, most of them personal guests in their home or mine, not counting casual meetings. One dating back to age 12. No, I wasn't really that important. Maybe half would remember me.
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Old Yesterday, 03:58 AM
 
Location: Canada
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I've had friends drift away through the years. I've found some of them on Facebook.

We have lightly shared in private messages what has gone on in our lives with work, relationships, children and grandchildren.

There is only one of them who I would like to meet again in person just to talk face to face (the boy next door to me when I was young). I'm happily married and not looking to connect up for anything other than curiosity. We wrote back and forth and told each other about ourselves, and then gradually just stopped writing. That's okay with me.

There is also one girl from my youth that I and another mutual friend would like to find, but haven't had any luck in doing so.

I have no interest in connecting back up with any of the others.
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Old Yesterday, 06:37 AM
 
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I wouldn't seek them out.

I think people are pretty much fungible.
That's very sad that you feel that way.
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