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Old 09-13-2019, 06:51 AM
 
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Thanks for the insult and for explaining to me what fungible means.

Such superior condescension.
I think you insulted yourself when you stated that your friends are all "fungible". Again many of us form attachments with our friends. We enjoy them for their unique experiences, outlooks and approaches to life. We expect them to interact with us in the same way. Ideally we help grow from our interactions with friends. They support us at least emotionally and we do the same with them. Personally I view an inability or unwillingness to form such friendships as a serious deficiency to the point of being a pathological disorder. Obviously you see it as normal.
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Old 09-13-2019, 07:45 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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That's very sad that you feel that way.
Why is it sad?

It’s realistic. Look at any thread on C-D. People come, people go. The person you meet today may be 10 times more interesting than the fantasy image you’ve created in your head of someone you knew 20 years ago. The person you meet today is here, now.

I know old people are prone to nurturing silly ideas and over-romanticizing the past, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
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Old 09-13-2019, 07:53 AM
 
Location: Central Florida
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This is true if you're looking for a man. Women marry and their names change. If you know her brother's first name would help in the search. But not all had brothers. I have been looking for 3 women for years now and have been unable to find them. Even a retired NYC detective who had access to things I did not could not find them.



Every male was found using the internet or through another friend found there.
I've been able to find some women from my high school days by Googling their name as I knew it in high school and seeing them mentioned in their parent's obituary, often indicating their married name and sometimes the city they live in.
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Old 09-13-2019, 07:57 AM
 
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Facebook comes in handy sometimes for that.
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Its not hard to find them now with the internet

I don't use FB much but my high school reunion was organized through it. Wow some people have not exactly "excelled" after HS. Stunned at how many superstars ended up in menial jobs. A few cheerleaders turned out to be someone's "Stepford Wives." Had a football player with a history of domestic violence lose a fight badly, the other guy had a shotgun. Had a few suicides, a few die of cancer.

I do wish I could find some of the nutty characters I worked with in high school/college! The get rich quick schemes, the drug addicts blowing their whole paycheck the first weekend after payday. I'm sure they didn't turn out too good but I can rarely remember their last names.
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Old 09-13-2019, 08:49 AM
 
Location: STEELERS COUNTRY
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I wouldn't seek them out.

I think people are pretty much fungible.
what a great word, fungible-mutually interchangeable
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Old 09-13-2019, 09:39 AM
 
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what a great word, fungible-mutually interchangeable
It is usually applied to sources of money and physical goods, not people.
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Old 09-13-2019, 10:23 AM
 
Location: USA
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I love catching up with old friends that were lost to time and too many relocations. In one case, a buddy and I picked up right where we left off in 1985 via FB. We'll make an east coast swing one day and enjoy a visit.
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Old 09-13-2019, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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what a great word, fungible-mutually interchangeable
Yes, very useful. Plus it has the advantage of annoying certain people.

Itís not as though there are a million personality types in the world, after all.
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Old 09-13-2019, 11:20 AM
 
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Itís not as though there are a million personality types in the world, after all.
No, the number goes into the billions with each individual having their own personality, their own experiences, their own outlook, etc.
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Old 09-13-2019, 12:13 PM
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Location: Denton, TX
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many are dead
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