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Old Today, 08:59 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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I fully recognize that I have NO RIGHT TO JUDGE. It's his retirement and he can do, or not do, whatever he pleases. It just kills me to see someone -- anyone -- wasting precious time.
I think it's impossible to predict what you'll be doing, how you'll feel, or what your interests will be when you're 80. You should print out your post and put it in your wallet...take it back out when you're 80.

Bottom line, it's his time to do with as he wants.
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Old Today, 09:00 AM
 
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Dude or dudette - you are probably one of those people that are always on the go now - so you won't change.

Don't worry about it.
Oh, they might very certainly change when they are 80 and not feeling up to snuff anymore. No one feels as good or has nearly the energy at 80 as they did 20 years earlier.
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Old Today, 09:07 AM
 
Location: STEELERS COUNTRY
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Well i just cut my toe nails,now i'm going to watch my neighbor cut his grass,then i'll probably
take a nap. Retirement living can be exhausting
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Old Today, 09:15 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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maybe he is enjoying precious time.
Ditto that. If he enjoys just piddling, then it is absolutely not time wasted. I’m probably similar; I worked hard, full time since I left school, and I’m doing exactly what I want now that I’m retired, reading, playing with the cats, puttering around or nothing at all. I earned it. I don’t need to accomplish anything more or prove myself to anyone any more at this point.
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Old Today, 09:26 AM
 
Location: Texas of course
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maybe he is enjoying precious time.

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Old Today, 09:27 AM
 
Location: NC
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He may not feel physically or perhaps mentally able to do much more.

He may be winding down, and perhaps he feels just like you do but simply can't do anything about it.

You could ask him if he has any unfulfilled dreams that you can help him accomplish on a small scale.
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Old Today, 09:30 AM
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sorry but sitting around all day doing nothing isn't good for anyone, no matter how old they are.
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Old Today, 09:37 AM
 
Location: The South
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Apologies in advance to those of you who like to spend every day piddling around and doing nothing but watch the grass grow, but I think I'd rather eat my gun than to live a life without some kind of goal or purpose and *something* to strive for and/or get done every day.

My 80yo dad just watches the hours pass on the clock, book-ending his days with morning coffee and evening supper, with not much to show for the entire day in between. On occasion, he'll get fired up to do something in his workshop, but other than that, nada.

I fully recognize that I have NO RIGHT TO JUDGE. It's his retirement and he can do, or not do, whatever he pleases. It just kills me to see someone -- anyone -- wasting precious time.
Where are you on the “Birth to Death” timeline? Your dad knows where he is.
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Old Today, 09:37 AM
 
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OP, you seem to have gotten more criticism than agreement. While I do agree everyone has a right to decide on their lifestyle, I understand the concern. As we get older and older it can be more difficult to have the drive to accomplish anything. Many old people just seem like they were waiting to die. I agree I do not want to end up that way. Even worse are years of semi-vegetative living and senility spend in a nursing home. Maybe the biological imperative will take over, but I have plans not to end that way.
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Old Today, 09:37 AM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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I fully recognize that I have NO RIGHT TO JUDGE. It's his retirement and he can do, or not do, whatever he pleases. .

You got that right.

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It just kills me to see someone -- anyone -- wasting precious time.

Maybe he sees it differently. Maybe he enjoys just chilling out after a lifetime of work and raising you.
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