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Old Today, 08:20 AM
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Apologies in advance to those of you who like to spend every day piddling around and doing nothing but watch the grass grow, but I think I'd rather eat my gun than to live a life without some kind of goal or purpose and *something* to strive for and/or get done every day.

My 80yo dad just watches the hours pass on the clock, book-ending his days with morning coffee and evening supper, with not much to show for the entire day in between. On occasion, he'll get fired up to do something in his workshop, but other than that, nada.

I fully recognize that I have NO RIGHT TO JUDGE. It's his retirement and he can do, or not do, whatever he pleases. It just kills me to see someone -- anyone -- wasting precious time.
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Old Today, 08:26 AM
 
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maybe he is enjoying precious time.
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Old Today, 08:36 AM
 
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Do you feel better now that you've waved that big, fat virtue flag for a bunch of random strangers to see?
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Old Today, 08:38 AM
 
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One often looks at life quite differently while they are presumably still working and looking forward to a 'productive' future retirement; ... and when one is actually retired and productivity gives way to doing whatever one chooses to enjoy life.
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Old Today, 08:38 AM
 
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Guess you'd better get on the waiting list now for that “active adult” retirement community. Make sure they have a ultra-marathon club.
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Old Today, 08:39 AM
 
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You have the type of retirement you want and let others have the type of retirement they want. I'm going to be doing a lot of what others are sure to see as nothing, leisurely morning coffee, taking walks, tackling my to be read list, book club, watching TV and movies, sitting on my porch watching the birds, taking naps and the occasionally traveling. After working in a very physical job for 30+ years with a 3 hour a day commute I've earned the right to do whatever I want when I want.
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Old Today, 08:39 AM
 
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Yeah, I worry about that, too. I'm 66 and retired 5 years ago. I have a pile of volunteer activities (most of which don't involve a schedule) and I get to the gym every day. I also clean my own house and do my own yard and garden work. I try to time my gym workouts for late AM so that my afternoon is shortened; one day this past week I had all my necessary stuff done by 12:30 and it was a VERY long afternoon. I will NOT watch daytime TV. I did a lot of reading and some Internet surfing. I also took a nap. Naps are a nice luxury. Mine are always less than an hour so they never disturb my nightly sleep schedule.

I know the day will come when I'm less active, when my body can't take 1+-hour workouts, when I cut back volunteer commitments and when (God forbid) I give up driving. I hope I live in a good Independent or Assisted Living community with some social interaction and a few activities, like the place where my 88-year old Dad lives. I really hope I don't end up making a hobby of going to doctors. Dad doesn't have any conditions that need managing such as diabetes, COPD, high BP, etc. but my brother who lives nearby said he had had 100 doctor appointments in the last year. Fortunately, my sister, an OB-Gyn, just moved into the area and I think she'll be able to take a good look at which specialists Dad needs and which are just milking Dad and Medicare.
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Old Today, 08:42 AM
 
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You have the type of retirement you want and let others have the type of retirement they want. I'm going to be doing a lot of what others are sure to see as nothing, leisurely morning coffee, taking walks, tackling my to be read list, book club, watching TV and movies, sitting on my porch watching the birds, taking naps and the occasionally traveling. After working in a very physical job for 30+ years with a 3 hour a day commute I've earned the right to do whatever I want when I want.
Well said!!!

Why do some people think that what is good (or not good) for them is good (or not good) for everyone?! And that applies to many things, I think, and not just retirement!

P.S. to OP -- Yes, I know that you implied in your post that you do agree with the above at least to some degree, but your post did come across to many of us as being VERY judgmental. (And, yes, you DO have the right to your opinions and to express them, as we all do!)
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Old Today, 08:55 AM
 
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Dude or dudette - you are probably one of those people that are always on the go now - so you won't change.

Don't worry about it.
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Old Today, 08:57 AM
 
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You have the type of retirement you want and let others have the type of retirement they want. I'm going to be doing a lot of what others are sure to see as nothing, leisurely morning coffee, taking walks, tackling my to be read list, book club, watching TV and movies, sitting on my porch watching the birds, taking naps and the occasionally traveling. After working in a very physical job for 30+ years with a 3 hour a day commute I've earned the right to do whatever I want when I want.
Oh yea - second cup of coffee is hitting the spot

Reading the WPost and other world news. I'll be ready to get going to a nice leisurely lunch with friends in a couple of hours.
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