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Old 09-16-2019, 05:21 AM
 
Location: NC
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Single men are welcomed since there are more single women than men usually. But that also leads less secure couples to wonder ‘why’ since they need their partners in order to feel complete.

But single women are more likely to get pushed around in subtle ways. It’s still a male empowered society. And insecure married women are often thinking that single women are ‘after their man’.

All of this feeds into peoples reactions. And when a male buys a house on his own they want to just assume it is ‘bait’ to attract a wife. For women they seem to think ‘poor thing no one wants her’. But the enlightened just assume that is how you like it at least at the moment.

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Old 09-16-2019, 05:22 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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But, did you discuss your status as property-owning single with people in the restaurants, bars, etc.? In my humble opinion, it’s none of anyone’s business except the real-estate tax authorities. And, they don’t give any discount based upon the number of owners and their marital / partnership status.

good point. Maybe they think the OP is weird for even mentioning such info.

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might I suggest, when talking to people in restaurants, bars, etc, talk about the weather. Just a thought.
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Old 09-16-2019, 05:31 AM
 
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good point. Maybe they think the OP is weird for even mentioning such info.

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might I suggest, when talking to people in restaurants, bars, etc, talk about the weather. Just a thought.
If anyone asks me why I am single, I tell them I like it that way. End of conversation on the topic.
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Old 09-16-2019, 05:35 AM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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I don't see myself marrying. This "condition" will likely persist.
I've gotten the impression from them that being a single male property owner is "weird."
It is "weird" ...get over it.
But the vibe you're getting is about the not pairing up thing.
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Old 09-16-2019, 05:40 AM
 
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"Single" is a legal term used for people that are not divorced or widowed and never married. It's used for example when acquiring a mortgage when the bank wants to know who you are and asks that question on paperwork. It also appears on deeds to properties.
I don’t mind the term “single“ (as opposed to married), but I’m not sure I like the distinction of “legally single.” Maybe I’m missing something. Can you give an example of where it would be important to make a distinction between “degrees of singleness?”
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Old 09-16-2019, 05:49 AM
 
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I don’t mind the term “single“ (as opposed to married), but I’m not sure I like the distinction of “legally single.” Maybe I’m missing something. Can you give an example of where it would be important to make a distinction between “degrees of singleness?”
As I already stated, it's a legal term for people that have never been married. If you've never been married you are legally "single". If you are divorced or widowed, you are not legally single. You are classified as divorced or widowed. It's a way to legally distinguish people that have never been married to people that are divorced or widowed. It's used for legal papers when buying property.
There are no degrees of being single. You're either single (never married) or you're not. Whether or not any individual likes the distinction is irrelevant.
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Old 09-16-2019, 05:57 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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It's not weird. I am never married and never paid rent in my life, like most lifelong singles I know.

Only an idiot puts off things they want because they may get married someday.

When I was younger if I met a woman without her own home I lost all interest.
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Old 09-16-2019, 06:38 AM
 
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Try being a female that never reproduced.
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Old 09-16-2019, 06:43 AM
 
Location: MidMichigan
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The "weird" reaction you're getting is a direct reflection of the emotional and financial maturity of the person who is looking at you as if you have three horns on your head.

When I was young (and incredibly immature) I would give the same befuddled reaction whenever I encountered someone in my age group who owned their own home. At the time, I lived paycheck to paycheck, burning through everything as soon as I got it (and more) because I had never been taught how to manage money. This was late 70s, early 80s - long before the internet, and all my friends lived the same way so I had no friends providing real-life examples of prudent money management.

It wasn't until my late twenties when my brother-in-law and his wife bought a fixer-upper that my then-husband and I started looking at what we needed to do to make that a possibility for us.

It has nothing to do with you being single. It has everything to do with them.
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Old 09-16-2019, 06:51 AM
 
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As I already stated, it's a legal term for people that have never been married. If you've never been married you are legally "single". If you are divorced or widowed, you are not legally single. You are classified as divorced or widowed. It's a way to legally distinguish people that have never been married to people that are divorced or widowed. It's used for legal papers when buying property.
There are no degrees of being single. You're either single (never married) or you're not. Whether or not any individual likes the distinction is irrelevant.
Simply repeating your statement does not make it so Here is one definition of single (found on lawdepot.com):

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As a single person, you are not legally bound to anyone who is not a dependent. You can be considered as single if you have never been married, were married but divorced, or due to the death of a spouse. It is possible to be single at multiple different points in your life.
I have never heard the term “legally single,” and cannot for the life of me understand why it would be relevant in any kind of legal context. When I was divorced and bought property, my Deed of Trust identified me as a single person, the same as someone who had never been married.
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