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Old 09-20-2019, 08:52 AM
 
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Go to Target!

Ratio is 10 women for every man and they are already shopping for something they don't need!
i made the mistake of wearing a red shirt to target yesterday ..i had so many women come up to me looking for help and asking questions .... if it wasn't for the fact i wasn't looking , i could have struck up a conversation with any of them ......
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Old 09-20-2019, 08:54 AM
 
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Women my “age” tend to be sedentary and just want to eat. No thanks.
Sometimes, where you live has a lot to do with it. Women your age in Park City, a ski resort town, are into outdoor activities: skiing & snowboarding, of course, but also snowshoeing ski-skating, cross country skiing, skating, snowmobiling, and the like. After the ski resorts close for the season, you'll find them biking, hiking, running, stand-up paddle boarding, horseback riding, jet skiing, etc.

I suspect much of it has to do with a selection bias: people who wish to engage in outdoor activities tend to live in places such as Park City.
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Old 09-20-2019, 09:07 AM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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Even though I'm a happily married women who doesn't wear a wedding ring
and isn't interested in meeting men. I do meet and happily chat with quite a few obviously ...
THIS sort of situation is one of the bigger appeals to using OLD.
In sales it's called "qualify the prospect"
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...and who knows.. she may even have a friend that's single.
If they need to creep the produce for a chance that ...
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Old 09-20-2019, 10:13 AM
 
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I'll play. This picture was taken a week ago Sunday.
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https://www.independent.co.uk/news/y...2-1351201.html
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Old 09-20-2019, 10:17 AM
 
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So what does “toxic masculinity,” or “traditional masculinity ideology,” mean? Researchers have defined it, in part, as a set of behaviors and beliefs that include the following:

Suppressing emotions or masking distress

Maintaining an appearance of hardness

Violence as an indicator of power (think: “tough-guy” behavior)

In other words: Toxic masculinity is what can come of teaching boys that they can’t express emotion openly; that they have to be “tough all the time”; that anything other than that makes them “feminine” or weak.
The above says more about the researchers inherent biases than anything else.
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Old 09-20-2019, 10:25 AM
 
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If my spouse died I can't imagine finding another man as right for me as he is so dating would be zero interest.
That reminds me of the old story of a middle aged couple, happily married for 30 years, discussing what they might hypothetically do if one of them unexpectedly died:
Wife: "If I died, would you re-enter the dating pool?"
Husband: "Probably; I'm only 55 years old, and I expect to live another 30+ years."

Wife:"Would you remarry?"
Husband: "Probably, if I found the right person; after all, I'm 55, not 75."

Wife, becoming a bit agitated, then asked "Well, would you have her move into our house?"
Husband, oblivious, replied "Sure. This is a perfectly fine house and I like it."

Wife, becoming quite visibly agitated, asked "Would you give her all my things? My clothing? My new golf clubs???"

Husband, being practical, replied "Nope. She's left-handed."
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Old 09-20-2019, 12:35 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Clemencia53 So what does “toxic masculinity,” or “traditional masculinity ideology,” mean? Researchers have defined it, in part, as a set of behaviors and beliefs that include the following:

Suppressing emotions or masking distress

Maintaining an appearance of hardness

Violence as an indicator of power (think: “tough-guy” behavior)

In other words: Toxic masculinity is what can come of teaching boys that they can’t express emotion openly; that they have to be “tough all the time”; that anything other than that makes them “feminine” or weak.
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The above says more about the researchers inherent biases than anything else.
I can understand #3 above but 1 & 2? Nonsense. Masking distress and controlling one's emotions is the mark of AN ADULT. And thinking one must constantly express emotions or thinking any expression of emotion is always a good in and of itself, or letting everyone know how distressed they are is, itself, toxic behavior.

In effect 1 & 2 above have nothing to do with #3. It is a conflation and that is maybe where you're seeing a anti-male bias
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Old 09-20-2019, 03:01 PM
 
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So what does “toxic masculinity,” or “traditional masculinity ideology,” mean? Researchers have defined it, in part, as a set of behaviors and beliefs that include the following:

Suppressing emotions or masking distress

Maintaining an appearance of hardness

Violence as an indicator of power (think: “tough-guy” behavior)

In other words: Toxic masculinity is what can come of teaching boys that they can’t express emotion openly; that they have to be “tough all the time”; that anything other than that makes them “feminine” or weak.
Why wouldn’t we as a country want our boys tough?
Why is it important to wear one’s emotions on the sleeve?
How does it fit with the survival of the fittest and the everyday human struggles in life?
How does a society benefit from enforcing the upbringing of the boys to be emotional?
I would like to know..

To stay on topic: I suggest to older guys to take an advertisement in a local paper(s) for a woman/ women they would like to befriend to go snowmobiling, theatre, church picnics- or shoot pool- whatever!
Arrange to receive it at the post office - request a substantial letter with the description of what that particular woman is looking for in a man- ask for honesty. Be honest- it might work! You may get if not a lover, but a friendly company... they may introduce you to someone. Give life/ love a chance! ( you might be able to weed out wackos- don’t disclose your finances or a lack of relatives- common sense)
Don’t forget to send me a thank you note.

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Old 09-20-2019, 03:15 PM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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i made the mistake of wearing a red shirt to target yesterday ..i had so many women come up to me looking for help and asking questions .... if it wasn't for the fact i wasn't looking , i could have struck up a conversation with any of them ......
True story... I wore my Real Estate name badge into Macy's one time and walking through the store had several ladies stop me and ask questions thinking I worked there.

I was married at the time. Guess that would work for a single guy.
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Old 09-20-2019, 03:17 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Rarely do I meet a woman similar in age I am attracted to, at all.
So I don't try. I don't have much in common with them, except
for cultural type references. Some younger women have retro/older
tastes in music, books, etc. that make easier conversation.
Men always have tons of excuses why they "can't" date women their own age.
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