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Yes, which is exactly why I stated I would not re-marry. I also have to say that I would side-eye any elderly person wanting to marry at that stage in life. I'd wonder what they had up their sleeve.
Doesn't getting married mean you're signing up for the good and the bad when it comes to health?
Not that long term care insurance shouldn't be part of the equation at some point because people do sometimes reach a point where spouses/partners can't take care of one another, but to go into a relationship with an attitude of "if you get sick I'm outta here" seems really odd to me. It's not just you, it's a pretty common opinion. Maybe that's why it's better for some people to stay single.
Very few people can afford long term care insurance, and a lot of people do not have it. It is expensive.
There are also some drawbacks in having it, as to rising prices and the provider company possibly going out of business.
The formula that has worked for us after many years of learning is to buy in an established neighborhood fairly close to the central core. And then get involved, to make it an even better neighborhood. Several new homes we owned were next to vacant land that eventually became strip centers, gas stations etc. I suppose one would be safe next to a cemetery
And as an aside, this is about the least progressive place I have ever lived which I gather is how most like it.
There is one final thing I started noticing when I hit middle age. Barbara Walters even mentioned this, as to herself, once. Men sometimes have an attitude that you should be grateful they are going out with you. Because after all, they can go out with much younger women. A man said to me once something like, "You know, I usually go out with younger women. But I made an exception in your case." He thought he was giving me a compliment. I'm guessing women who read that will know how offensive that was. As if I should get down on my knees, "Thank you so much! I'm so lucky that you decided to go out with someone as old as I am!" Pair that with the fact that he was sickly and a bit unattractive (but he was a great guy with a phenomenal voice...I have a thing for voices...he had a show on the local radio station). He was also a neighbor, so we had gotten to know each other.
Also, I have heard comments too many times that single women of a certain age are desperate and will do and put up with anything to "have a man" <gawd how I hate that>. I'm not a violent person but this is when I start to feel like giving a good sock in the kisser. Granted, some women are like that but most of the single women I know most definitely are not.
My goodness, bpollen. I would have knocked that guy out cold. He would have received the truth from me, nothing but the truth from this old woman.
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