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Old 09-17-2019, 08:45 AM
 
Location: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
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I seriously donít know. Iíve looked at dating sites but there are no women like me or even close to where I live. Iím not like others my age, Iím 59. Iím into living a healthy lifestyle, I donít own a TV, I listen to alternative rock music, ride dirt bikes, mountain bike, ect. There are NO unicorns my age, none. Women my ďageĒ tend to be sedentary and just want to eat.
No thanks.
Generalizations are never a good idea.

Most of my girlfriends are all in the 60 year age range and all workout and live an active lifestyle. One in particular has a current national pharma commercial.

I know no 60 year olds that are sedentary and just want to eat.
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Old 09-17-2019, 08:46 AM
 
Location: california
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Being a widower I have found that I much prefer living alone.
Some women I meet only really want to horse around. I don't believe in that.
But as I said I much prefer living alone.
I like people and meeting new people, but not making more new commitments.
I have good female friends, some know where I stand and leave it at that, but some still try and change my mind.
but if I become exclusive, I loose a lot of my good friends.
I have other male friends a well, not that we socialize a lot but we communicate.
As a kid I respected older women, they taught me a lot, and that is what I had hoped for when I got married but ........

Some, nowadays I really like but are married so I leave that alone. ( distant friends)
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Old 09-17-2019, 09:04 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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I seriously don’t know. I’ve looked at dating sites but there are no women like me or even close to where I live. I’m not like others my age, I’m 59. I’m into living a healthy lifestyle, I don’t own a TV, I listen to alternative rock music, ride dirt bikes, mountain bike, ect. There are NO unicorns my age, none. Women my “age” tend to be sedentary and just want to eat. No thanks.
Ha, you're not looking in the right places. I'm a 64 widow and far from sedentary. Plus I hate eating. I only do it for survival. I'm definitely not a foodie. As a woman we have the same issues as men. I'm 64, but look a bit younger and I'm still fairly active. Men my own age look too old and not many men who are 55-60 are interested in a 64 year old. So I just don't bother even looking anymore.
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Old 09-17-2019, 09:10 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Generalizations are never a good idea.

Most of my girlfriends are all in the 60 year age range and all workout and live an active lifestyle. One in particular has a current national pharma commercial.

I know no 60 year olds that are sedentary and just want to eat.
They are definitely not at my pickle ball court. All gorgeous women in the late 60s. They all tall, very thin. The sedentary ones are probably in my bridge club. Something I noticed recently. Maybe people pick the activity that fits them. No generalization. Those who can move stay fit.
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Old 09-17-2019, 09:14 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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I think your main problem is that most age-appropriate available women are done with dating and men. That's not "all" age appropriate women, but most. So, I think your available pool is just seriously diminished compared to when you were younger.

At our age - I'm in my early 60's and female - for myself and many other women I know my age - we just are really tired of taking care of other people. And, men in our age range are of a generation (and I'm not convinced young men have changed much either) where they expect women to take care of them.

Now, men our age will not think of things that way. They will think in terms of the fact that they may pick up the check or they mow the lawn or do handyman stuff. But, the cost or time involved in doing those things in ZERO ways equates what they expect from a woman.

Men ask me why I don't have a boyfriend/husband. I tell them because when I have a man, I have a lot more work - that men are a lot of work.

A man will expect me to cook, clean, do laundry, be available for sex, stay thin, be attractive, watch sports I don't care about, entertain his friends and kids and family, on and on.

But, in my experience, and I bet you're thinking this right now, men honestly and adamantly see my point of view as being wrong.

But, having a man in my life never made my life easier.

I know that some women are good at finding men who will take care of them on a level where it involves maids and drivers and nannies, etc. Unless a man is taking care of a woman on that level, then in my experience, he creates more work than he contributes.

Don't get me wrong, I like men. I just don't want a boyfriend/husband.

Without one, I can do what I want, when I want. I can eat what I want and as much as I want. I can watch what I want on TV, I can sleep in peace without being bugged. And nobody is making me feel bad about myself based on my weight, etc.

I'm just much, much happier staying single - and unavailable.

And, this is how many women my age feel. So, it's nothing personal. It's just that we finally feel like we're in control of our own lives.

And as far as sex goes, we can take care of that ourselves, too. And older men require more effort, etc., because of age issues. So, there usually isn't much there in the way of sex to make women want a man, either - it's usually more work than it's worth. So, like I say, overall, having a man in our age group usually means more work. One way or another.

I wish I could just beam someone down who would accompany me to shows or musical events, etc., but realistically, what are the odds I'd find a man who would want to go to the same things I'd want to go to - and - not also want me to go to something I'd abhor?

The bottom line is, even though I have moments of loneliness, I'm so much happier alone than I was when I had a man.

Anyway, I guess I'd just advise you to be wary of available women. If they aren't like me, they might be needy or want your money. There will definitely be the exception. But, just so you understand how and why the majority of women in our age group thinks, might help you just take the time to evaluate why any particular woman is available in your age group and approaching you or making herself available. She might really just be like you and someone who wants a relationship. Or, she might just be needy or want your money. Just be cautious, I guess is what I'm saying, as well as making you aware of where women are at our age.
I think we're identical twins separated at birth.
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Old 09-17-2019, 09:18 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Ballroom dancing classes.
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Old 09-17-2019, 09:37 AM
 
Location: Illinois
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Rarely do I meet a woman similar in age I am attracted to, at all.
So I don't try. I don't have much in common with them, except
for cultural type references. Some younger women have retro/older
tastes in music, books, etc. that make easier conversation.
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Old 09-17-2019, 10:16 AM
 
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Thanks for the women's views. I have seen this as well. I have a friend that I had a short term relationship with 12 years ago. I ran into her again and tried to rekindle things. No go. She seems totally uninterested in dating and sex now, with anybody. She's 62. It is depressing, because I do want companionship. What is the point of having money to travel and nobody to go with? My attempts at volunteering to meet people have fallen flat. I wound up working and not meeting anybody. I took an exercise class, and the women all had wedding rings on. I still work, but we are constantly warned about sexual harassment to the point where I am paranoid to even ask a co-worker out for coffee. I worry that I would be hauled into human resources, since any woman can go to them and say they were made "uncomfortable" by a male co-worker. The online dating thing is a real eye opener, and the dates I have been on could be fuel for a comedy routine. So I guess I will keep trying, but it seems like an uphill road.
JMP,
Donít give up, a lot of us are not interested in dating, but many still are. There is a woman out there waiting for you to come along. Where do you live? If you have an OLLI at a university near you, taking classes is a great way to meet people. Or volunteer to do taxes for seniors or help them enroll in Medicare.
Just be positive and friendly, say hi to people, and you will meet the right one.
Donna
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Old 09-17-2019, 10:41 AM
 
Location: Rust'n in Tustin
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My wife and I went to a fly fishing event last week. At 61 in I'm the younger age group for these events.

A trim mid 60s single woman sat at our table with us. She was a fly fisherwomen. Thru out the night she spoke to a few men.

At the end of the evening the only person that asked for her phone number...

...was my wife

The rest of the crusty old geezers were too interested in dry flies, blood knots, leaders, and tippits...
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Old 09-17-2019, 10:43 AM
 
Location: Central Florida
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I think we're identical twins separated at birth.
Triplets.
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