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Old 10-01-2019, 06:59 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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From the day we arrived in America I volunteered and devoted about 39 years to various groups, as a helper, as a board member, fundraiser, newsletter editor, crisis counselor, crisis management training , etc. I enjoyed every minute of it but I am happily retired from volunteering
But when you turn people down, do you feel guilty? This is what I still work at. I was competent at getting things done. I still would be, but I just donít want to.
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Old 10-01-2019, 10:46 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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I volunteer with the local and state police, a half day a week for each (8 hours total per week).

I enjoy it, and don't feel burdened at all. I like having a little bit of structure in my life.

I have met a lot of fellow retirees, and some employees, and made some decent friendships out of it.

So I have no problem with it at all. I keep it to a limited engagement, but I found it to be very enjoyable.
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Old 10-02-2019, 05:43 PM
 
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But when you turn people down, do you feel guilty? This is what I still work at. I was competent at getting things done. I still would be, but I just donít want to.
No, why should I feel guilty? I find it very nice if someone asks and I let them know I appreciate being considered, thank them but let them know I am not available and wish them the best.
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Old 10-02-2019, 09:01 PM
 
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No, why should I feel guilty? I find it very nice if someone asks and I let them know I appreciate being considered, thank them but let them know I am not available and wish them the best.
I was asked to be part of a board dealing with school issues. I said No. Thanks but no thanks. I did say i had other commitments. I felt bad at first and got over it quickly.
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Old 10-04-2019, 04:11 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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I was asked to be part of a board dealing with school issues. I said No. Thanks but no thanks. I did say i had other commitments. I felt bad at first and got over it quickly.
I know, right? Others want to unburden themselves by delegating. This is fine if they are paying you, or if you get joy out of doing the task for nothing, but otherwise. Nope.
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Old 10-04-2019, 04:56 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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First of all you should never volunteer unless you agree with the mission. I hate when people post that others should volunteer to meet people or keep busy.

I have been on the board of 3 non profits. You can't have people come in and do what they want to do and with who they want to do it with. Certain things need done. Ideally every one will do every thing at one time or another. No job should belong to anyone. This is a problem with FIPs. Formerly important people. That was then and this is now.

I don't believe in school and hospital volunteers. I have heard things about people I know from hospital volunteers that I had no business knowing. In schools you may have a kid that isn't all that bright. Do you want the other mothers knowing that? I never thought of that one until it was pointed out to me by teachers.

Churches are the worst in my experience. Gossip, not wanting to miss out on what is going on, bored, is not a reason to volunteer.
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