Making NEW friends.... (beach, relocate, marriage, 2009)

[MN2CO]

Edina - about 1 mile from downtown Edina (50th & France)

[Aylalou]

Originally Posted by MN2CO

Edina - about 1 mile from downtown Edina (50th & France)

Can I still get there going down Minnehaha to 50th or is 35W still under construction there? Sorry off topic.

[MN2CO]

35W is still under construction (don't hold your breath). I'm right off 62 & France so 35W to 62 is how I go.

[Windwalker2]

It may be that we need to look for communities where we are more likely to find people who have similar interests to ourselves. I'm not sure how you can do that from afar. Probably choosing to live in a larger place offers more options for activities and new friends.

[Tesaje]

Originally Posted by TerryC11

It may be that we need to look for communities where we are more likely to find people who have similar interests to ourselves. I'm not sure how you can do that from afar. Probably choosing to live in a larger place offers more options for activities and new friends.

In theory, a place where I want to live for all the x, y, z reasons should have people there with whom I would share the same reasons, no? Of course, that doesn't necessarily mean they would have all the other attributes that would make them friend material tho.

I would think the meetups could be an effective way to meet people. Here, they seem to be during the work week and that just isn't something I can do since I get up very early to trudge to work and can't go gallivanting around on a work night. But after I retire ... I could.

I'm not sure why all the meetup groups only meet during the week.

[Aylalou]

Don't know either. There are many here that meet on weekends - go to comedy clubs, brunch, etc. One younger group organized a weekend in the frozen country last week but I'm sure they played games and had girlie fun.

[Tesaje]

Originally Posted by Aylalou

Don't know either. There are many here that meet on weekends - go to comedy clubs, brunch, etc. One younger group organized a weekend in the frozen country last week but I'm sure they played games and had girlie fun.

Ahh. Maybe it is just this area, then.

[staywarm2]

Originally Posted by Tesaje

I would think the meetups could be an effective way to meet people. Here, they seem to be during the work week and that just isn't something I can do since I get up very early to trudge to work and can't go gallivanting around on a work night. But after I retire ... I could.

I'm not sure why all the meetup groups only meet during the week.

My experience with meetup groups here in Atlanta is that they are mostly young people--30's & 40's. My husband even went to a political meeting, usually a place for old guys when we lived in KY. In ATL there wasn't a person over 29! That's why I think we may have to start a new group within the meetup system for people our age, whether singles or couples. It can't be that hard. We have to be proactive. There's got to be more folks our age out there who miss the interaction and would like to have close friends in their new locales.

Someone on here mentioned that as more and more people retire and move that there will be more opportunities for socialization. I think that may be very true. At least I hope so.

[staywarm2]

Originally Posted by MN2CO

On another thread "Women......Retired..." some discussed the fact that it was unlikely that we would all end up in the same spot. BUT, it looks likely that there could be small clusters of us in various spots. Meeting up at the various spots sound like a great solution - fun too. This is not just for single women so your hubby would also be welcome (although-would he be interested unless we had a few other men). maybe you would want to have a gal pal meeting on your own - whatever.

I like this idea alot. I've heard/read about women that maybe went to school together that have annual (or more often) meet-ups and have just a ball. You have the opportunity to get to know a different location as well as people from all over the country. What could be more interesting than that!

I'm sorry to hear that you and your husband are lonely - it just shouldn't be that way and doesn't have to be. Could be time to change your location?

WHEN things get better, we realy need to schedule (not talk about) a meet-up somewhere (a potential final resting spot - you know what I mean). By then, our options may be fewer - as in, group living.

This sounds like fun. DH won't mind a some days alone. I'm alone when he travels for business.

We plan to leave here (ATL) as soon as my daughter's husband finishes school (2010). They plan to job hunt out of state, and if they chose a place pleasing to us, we'll go along. Otherwise, we'll go to one of the places I've been searching out, which, as all of you know, is a big decision. I wouldn't live in this city without them. They are the reason we came here in the first place. The grandkids are wonderful, but I don't know if I'd do it again. We left lots of friends in FL. Of course, we were younger when we moved there and the warm weather encourages people to go outside, so it's easier to meet people.

[miruca]

Brightdoglover (I think) brought up a topic that I tremble at ... the single vs couple. Here where I live it has made absolutely no difference - a friend is a friend - we all just gather together and do things without regard to marital status - sometimes it is all women, other times it's mixed with uneven males & females. Perhaps, it is this way here because traditions have played less of a role overall in our lives.

It was a startling revelation to me to see (or feel) this single vs couple issue existed I've visited people in other areas of the country. I remember comments from my parent's generation on this topic (they were two generations older than me) but I never experienced it in my life here. Needless to say I was quite discombobulated to think I had to add that to the list of concerns to think about if I left here!

Re meeting people - who knows where they will show up! That is the most intersting thing sometimes. Recently - during my two foot surgeries in CA - I ended up meeting several people there through a Bahai friend that was with me and who had contacted the local Bahai group about services. Now, of those individuals is a good friend. Everyone in the group was nice and were "thinkers" on the bigger and little issues of life ...and yes we did get there rather quickly as a result of a movie discussion ...but only one really stepped out of the box consistently - opening her home and wanting to soak up more shared experiences during the time we were there. Since then, two follow up trips have led to more fun and shared experiences together. Now we are planning to meet in new and different places for short trips, and she is planning to come here this summer. Who would have thought? And it all just happened - that's the best kind of friendship to me. I don't think I have the energy to "work" at making friends - in fact, I dont' know if I know how to do that or have the patience to do it.