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Old 10-02-2009, 08:28 AM
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Good for you for being so caring. It is a big responsibility to agree to be someone's agent under a power of attorney. As long as a person is competent they call the shots. Maybe if you broach it as you needing help because you just are feeling overwhelmed trying to help three people she will be more willing to look at alternatives such as assisted living residences. If she looks she may be surprised. I would enjoy living in some of them myself! On the other hand leaving a home you have lived in for a long time can be a real loss so if she has the funds she should be able to make that work out with help coming in. Just tell her how stressed you are and what you see as her choices. Lay it on straight and ask her to decide. You can suggest talking to a housing counselor from the local Area Agency on Aging if she thinks they will have better ideas. Tell her you want to support her in making this important decision but that she will have to decide. Good luck.
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Old 10-05-2009, 08:03 AM
Location: Full time in the RV
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I think the social worker idea is a good one. Having someone different present options may help. Even if they can't convince her to move they will know about other services that may be able to help. In my town there is a bus that picks seniors up and takes them to the senior center for the day.
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Old 10-20-2009, 09:23 AM
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Thank you for all of your advice! I really appreciate it truly. Right now things are ok as my grandmother has agreed to letting the council on aging help her at least get to her appointments and get groceries and what not.

I think what's hardest for her is the money part--even though she has it--she's the type to complain if a full meal costs more than $5 or a pair of pants more than $12--that's why it would be hard to get her to get in home visits as generally these are not very inexpensive.

I do think she would enjoy life here more as she would get to go out more (something she enjoys--going to the movies, to lunch, shopping)--and I would be able to provide that for her at least occasionally as opposed to not at all now (the closest mall to her now is 45 minutes away) while I live down the street from one etc.
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