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Old 11-14-2009, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Nebraska
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After 20 years of living in the same house on 1/3 of an acre, raising kids, being heavily involved in politics and political campaigns, writing my own political column, working for emergency services, and running my own advertising business - when DH retired as a firefighter/paramedic, we walked away. Simply walked away. We moved 1700 miles to a county of 6,000 people, and started a huge garden, are raising chickens for meat and eggs, and just bought some bred cows to run on our 60 acres. In March we will start milking and making butter and cheese. We live in a 100 year old farmhouse on the edge of a tiny village.

Most of the folks who knew us were stunned. We didn't buy into the local "active senior lifestyle" McMansion developments like everyone around us, didn't settle for organized activities and POAs, moved to a place where there are no ordinances and no family to visit. This was what we planned for and worked toward, our whole lives - they just never suspected (or were interested enough to learn). I traded my silk dresses for flannel shirts and jeans, my 3-inch heels for cowboy boots, and my perfumes, artful makeup, hairstyles, and fingernails for dirt and manure and leather gloves, with my long grey hair tied back in a ponytail. I traded my 4-star restaurant food for homemade bread and fresh-slaughtered chickens and eggs, and grassfed beef from my neighbors' ranches, even the deer and turkey that wander through my property.

And I have never been this happy. I plan on being a very mean, irascible, 98 year old lady, who will shoot you from the back of her horse if you set foot on her property. (And yes I have a horse, too!)
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Old 11-14-2009, 02:48 PM
 
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Retirement is coming soon. We are in the process of downsizing and fixing up the house for sale. The house should go on the market in March or so and I hope to be resettled by the end of next Summer. We are planning to move from the east coast to the PNW. Have yet to decide if we will even get a house or put the remaining stuff in storage and just travel. Either way we will be on the road a lot. I have spent a lifetime doing exacting precise work and my wife wanted to be an artist but settled for art education. Both of us are now hooked on photography and we plan to travel and shoot. I have a whole list of other interests including blackpowder rifles, archery and fishing. If we ever reach the point of boredom, we might go semi-pro with the photography.
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Old 11-14-2009, 02:52 PM
 
Location: southwest TN
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After 20 years of living in the same house on 1/3 of an acre, raising kids, being heavily involved in politics and political campaigns, writing my own political column, working for emergency services, and running my own advertising business - when DH retired as a firefighter/paramedic, we walked away. Simply walked away. We moved 1700 miles to a county of 6,000 people, and started a huge garden, are raising chickens for meat and eggs, and just bought some bred cows to run on our 60 acres. In March we will start milking and making butter and cheese. We live in a 100 year old farmhouse on the edge of a tiny village.

Most of the folks who knew us were stunned. We didn't buy into the local "active senior lifestyle" McMansion developments like everyone around us, didn't settle for organized activities and POAs, moved to a place where there are no ordinances and no family to visit. This was what we planned for and worked toward, our whole lives - they just never suspected (or were interested enough to learn). I traded my silk dresses for flannel shirts and jeans, my 3-inch heels for cowboy boots, and my perfumes, artful makeup, hairstyles, and fingernails for dirt and manure and leather gloves, with my long grey hair tied back in a ponytail. I traded my 4-star restaurant food for homemade bread and fresh-slaughtered chickens and eggs, and grassfed beef from my neighbors' ranches, even the deer and turkey that wander through my property.

And I have never been this happy. I plan on being a very mean, irascible, 98 year old lady, who will shoot you from the back of her horse if you set foot on her property. (And yes I have a horse, too!)
I LOVE it! We aren't looking to do that much work, my husband has been in construction/historic repair for many years after leaving the army. Our aim is to simply relax and enjoy - garden just for us, we'll support the local farmers (we are surrounded, literally, by farms). And we want to travel, which you can't do when you have animals to care for.

I think it's wonderful that you are doing exactly what you've wanted to do. You've earned it, enjoy!
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Old 11-14-2009, 03:53 PM
 
Location: Prescott Valley,az summer/east valley Az winter
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After reading other posts, my story mundane!

worked contruction heavy labor ~ long hours,long weeks and lived far from most things~ miles to go out to eat,etc.

So now live in urban surroundings~people to visit, eateries and shopping close enough to go without doing days of planning , etc.

Do not like cold ~ or extra hot weather so I live the snowbird life ~4 months one place ~4 months another~ and about 4 months on the road vacationing to spots I feel like visiting at the moment. More freinds than ever~ almost always good weather~or I'd go elsewhere and something to do and to look forward too. But it fits well for me
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Old 11-14-2009, 04:33 PM
 
Location: northeast US
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My wife and I have been planning retirement for 3 years. We went to visit the south - Mississippi, Alabama and Texas. I lined up a grant for her for $1,500 from the National Endowment for the Humanities to study a southern writer she loves. When we got to Mississippi she refused to go to the program. We were considering Central America, Ireland, Maine, northern Cali, Europe...all places we can go and have friends/family already. She's nixed every one.

I'm already retired, and was waiting for her birthday next month for her to retire as we planned for years. She said she is going to keep working anyway. I said good, I'm not paying any of the bills, I'm not sleeping with you again, I want a divorce, get out. She got her own apartment but doesn't sleep there. I started divorce proceedings and I'm getting half her pay in alimony, half her pension, she has to buy my health insurance, and the house is transferring to my name.

I'm going to have a great retirement; she's going to pay for it. She's in the kitchen now doing the dishes and making my cup of tea. After I get my cup of tea I'm telling her to get out. I have a hot 60yo girlfriend. I love feminism and equal rights. LOL
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Old 11-14-2009, 07:49 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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After a 32+ year career in technology, I'm now a radio actress. Is that unusual? It sure is to me!
Wow! It is to me. How did you manage to do that?
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Old 11-14-2009, 08:58 PM
 
Location: Nebraska
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I LOVE it! We aren't looking to do that much work, my husband has been in construction/historic repair for many years after leaving the army. Our aim is to simply relax and enjoy - garden just for us, we'll support the local farmers (we are surrounded, literally, by farms). And we want to travel, which you can't do when you have animals to care for.

I think it's wonderful that you are doing exactly what you've wanted to do. You've earned it, enjoy!
Thanks!

What terrifies me the most is what happened to the older people I used to transport in my ambulance. They retired to the slower-paced life, thinking that they deserved it. Of course they did - but allowed age to creep up on them, even in the 'active living' retirement communities. They slowed down and started becoming sickly; heart attacks, strokes, arthritis, diabetes. Then when Viagra and Cialis were invented, suddenly the husbands and wives started their sexual lives over again, with other partners, trying to keep themselves active and invigorated - and all they really did was destroy themselves, their families, and each other emotionally. (We called the local Sun City "Viagra Falls"!)

"Retirement" scares me - sitting back and playing gramma and having no goals, no plans, and no hope of becoming anything more, is not something I'm interested in! I'm NOT saying that anyone on here is that way, but just explaining why I refuse to slow down... from what I've seen from a medical standpoint, when you slow down, you STOP. There's too many things yet to DO in life to become a mindless, directionless automaton, wandering slowly and aimlessly towards a grave. DH had his back and hip crushed and was medically retired after 27 years; he couldn't save lives any more, he was wasting away and feeling useless. The farm has given him a new lease on life - he can't work even a part time job, but he is learning how to bake bread, harvest and preserve, and raise animals, all at his own pace. IMHO, man was made to ever expand his horizons, his knowledge, his abilities, right up 'til he's knocking at the pearlies.
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Old 11-16-2009, 03:02 PM
 
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Of course some have mindless, directionless automaton careers so they look forward to retirement from those..they don't have the time or money to do what they have wanted to do all their lives.
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Old 11-16-2009, 05:44 PM
 
Location: Nebraska
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Of course some have mindless, directionless automaton careers so they look forward to retirement from those..they don't have the time or money to do what they have wanted to do all their lives.
Very true. But life is a series of choices; if one stays in a job one hates and can't wait to retire just to get out of it - why are they wasting 20, 30 years of their lives, when they could get education in another field, try something new (at first volunteering if they can't afford to leave their job right away) or planning, saving, and buying the things that will gradually help them to do what they've always wanted? People choose, every step of the way, what their future will be - or won't be. They have the ability to set goals and achieve them. I've been stuck in jobs I hated, made the most of them while I looked for something else. My parents planned their whole future around their retirement, and talked forever what they would do when they "finally got out of these stinking jobs." Six months before Dad retired he had a massive stroke and had to have care for the next 10 years; they never did what they wanted to do. Can't see hating a job like that for all of those years, so that retirement was my only hope of 'escape'.
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Old 11-17-2009, 07:25 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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We just bought our retirement home in TN. Currently we live in NYC although we separately have lived in many places. We have been together for the last 12. We bought our home sight-unseen (although using internet resources, we visited the area and the house many times). We are moving from the biggest city in the country to one of the most rural places in the lower 48. We move in 22 months and already have our plans for a garden, solar energy and a quiet life.

I hope to continue to entertain friends (new) and neighbors as we have always done, just on a more relaxed basis. And I am already looking into classes and courses - from learning sign language to organic gardening and canning/preserving. This is a time for relaxation and enjoyment.

I'm charging into retirement full steam ahead! YIPPEEE! New people, new places, new environment.
Have you spend much time in Tenn, and what area of the state did you settle on?
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