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Old 11-22-2009, 12:29 PM
 
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I've always defined "dating" as going out with someone who I think I ought to go out with but not someone I want to go out with.
I never dated, really, and in my heyday, had a lot of options. People have always just been around. Or not.
Not in these later years. I would love company, but do not feel I will find it (or be it) by running a laundry list of requirements against someone else's laundry list in online dating, etc. and meeting to look each other over and silently ask, "Do I like you enough to try to get to know you and judge you good enough to make a relationship where we don't judge each other and accept and support each other?"
In my observation, online dating works really well when people want to jump into bed. Really fast.
I do know some good couplings that have come from later-in-life dating, one with right-into-bed (!) and a couple, not.
I've never been strongly drawn to anyone on first meeting, and don't think it would change by dating. The few people who I've been drawn to, I first knew in some other way. Just my data point.
Because there is so much divorce (and never married) in the huge boom generation, there likely will be a lot of people in that age group dating. A demographic fact.
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Old 11-22-2009, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Dating takes a lot of energy. I don't have that any longer. I would rather be will my good friends among whom some of them are male where I can be comfortable and relax. No pressure. I do know some women around my age who are looking to date. For them it's in order for the dating to move into a more serious relationship.
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Old 11-22-2009, 10:13 PM
 
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A former neighbor ( long time divorced, financially well off) moved to South Texas a year ago.

He was up visiting and I teased him about dating all the rich widows in his retirement community.

He said those rich widows only want to spend your money and hang onto every penny of theirs .
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Old 11-23-2009, 12:40 PM
 
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The joke I've heard about single/widowed older guys is that they're looking for "a nurse with a purse."
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Old 11-24-2009, 09:56 AM
 
Location: Missouri Ozarks
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Its just a gross story!
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Old 11-24-2009, 10:39 AM
 
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Default Times have changed

More Midlife (and Older) STDs - TIME

Friends live in the Villages in FL and from what I saw, when they advertise "active lifestyle" they're not only talking about golf! Those "condo casanovas" have discovered life after retirement with viagra.
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Old 11-24-2009, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Happy wherever I am - Florida now
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I wish I had some girlfriends to go out to lunch with. My whole career I worked in male dominated businesses. I don't think I had more than one female customer come into my business by themselves in fifteen years.
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Old 06-08-2010, 04:47 AM
 
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I have gotten smarter with age...why would I want to do it again, one trip to H3ll was enough for me!!!
but I may be wrong.............
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Old 06-08-2010, 08:07 AM
 
Location: Surf City, NC
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Part of the reason the numbers favor the oldsters may be that young people aren't "dating" much anymore. From what I hear, they mostly hang out with friends. Couples going on dates has fallen out of fashion. I don't know how the survey questions were worded, but that may be part of the answer. I'm with the other women here who would rather hang out with my friends also. That's another reason I'm not attracted to over-55 communities. It seems too high school for me.
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Old 06-08-2010, 08:09 AM
 
Location: southern california
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finding love later in life is good, but i dont think internet is best place to do it.
liars guide to the galaxy. looks too much like a revolving door.
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