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Old 04-23-2010, 08:49 AM
 
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I just got home from work. My job requires me to do ten things at once with more always being added. Management is comprised of a bunch of arrogant bastards and even with the bad economy good people are leaving.

I am too tired to persue interests in the evening. I come home and nap. Bottom line;

I wanna be bored, I wanna be bored, I wanna be bored. Oh please, gods of retirement, let me live long enough to someday chuck all that and be bored!
I get that. I think you work where I do. I have an hour commute and work full time. My job is stressfull (getting less so as I get closer to my release in July) and I rarely do anything in the evenings. I plan to just veg for a while before I do anything to serious.
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Old 04-30-2010, 10:36 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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I'll still have to work but hopefully just part time. I hope to get an interesting part time job but if that doesn't happen, I'll spend the rest of my free hours doing whatever. And "whatever" can take up a lot of time.
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Old 05-03-2010, 04:08 AM
 
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Guess i'm the only one who is bored after retirement,
Retired 3 years ago and had thought a lot of the work place friendships would transfer into retirement but after 32yrs in the factory not a single friendship made the transition,so no help there.
Exercise seems to be a high point on every ones agenda but to me exercise is akin to torture as walking more than half a mile becomes very painful in hips,knees,ankles.and Achilles tendons.
Joining various clubs is something i've always had a hard time dealing with as my shy introverted nature borders on psychosis .
As for volunteering i never really saw the logic in giving up a well paying job to go work for some one else for free.
So i'm now at the point of watching a lot of tv and sleeping a lot which confuses me as i used to be very active in traveling,camping,fishing,biking,car racing but now it seems i've lost my passion for everything and dont really feel like doing anything but watching tv and napping,its almost as if i've had a good life and now i'm just waiting for the end
If i knew then what i know now i would have retired at 70 rather than 60..
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Old 05-03-2010, 04:15 AM
 
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Guess i'm the only one who is bored after retirement,
Retired 3 years ago and had thought a lot of the work place friendships would transfer into retirement but after 32yrs in the factory not a single friendship made the transition,so no help there.
Exercise seems to be a high point on every ones agenda but to me exercise is akin to torture as walking more than half a mile becomes very painful in hips,knees,ankles.and Achilles tendons.
Joining various clubs is something i've always had a hard time dealing with as my shy introverted nature borders on psychosis .
As for volunteering i never really saw the logic in giving up a well paying job to go work for some one else for free.
So i'm now at the point of watching a lot of tv and sleeping a lot which confuses me as i used to be very active in traveling,camping,fishing,biking,car racing but now it seems i've lost my passion for everything and dont really feel like doing anything but watching tv and napping,its almost as if i've had a good life and now i'm just waiting for the end
If i knew then what i know now i would have retired at 70 rather than 60..
My sister is very worried about retiring as she has no hobbies or real interests except for a dance class. She has plenty of non-work related friends, and family is around. When we tell her to find a hobby she says she's not into arts and crafts as that all she thinks a hobby is. She's not worried about what to do in nice weather but she dreads winters as she says after she cleans house and reads the paper, then what. She doesn't do much on the internet except email as she's a technophobe. She can easily afford to but won't travel solo.

As for me, I love being retired. Lots to do.
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Old 05-03-2010, 04:37 AM
 
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you have a fear of being bored ? what did you do your entire working life? didn't you ever sit at work and daydream about what you would like to be doing rather than working? if you answer yes then go do it!!!
how many things have you put off over the years do to lack of time? maybe you used your time as an excuse not to do it.
as for me I have been thinking of getting a part time job, so as to get some rest....I have been retired for two years and haven't stopped doing the things I never had time to do.
I make a trip to home depot an adventure this is my time now the kids are old the grand kids are teenagers next round is great grand kids and I will be to old to help raise them so finally its all about meeeeeee!
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Old 05-03-2010, 08:14 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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No, you are not the only one bored in retirement. It is a common problem. You sound clinically depressed; a talk with your personal physician might be a good place to start.

Let's talk about walking. If you have joint pain after half a mile, please force yourself to walk that half mile every day, just until the pain sets in. Then after a while, increase the distance just a little, continuing on slightly into the pain (but not torturing yourself). Based on my personal experience and on what I've read, there is a good chance the pain will only come after greater and greater distances, and this improvement will be its own reward, and a key to improving your mood. Inactivity itself contributes to the worsening of arthritis pain, but don't expect instant results - it can take several weeks to start to see the payoff.

Let's talk about volunteering. Please don't think of it as working for someone else for free. You are working not for a boss, but for yourself and for the people who will benefit from your efforts. Helping others is a wonderful antidote to depression. Libraries, schools, churches, clinics for the poor, and so many other places need help. Reach out, despite your shyness. Just think, it wouldn't be worse than your present situation, and it might even turn out to be wonderful, as well as a source of friendship.

Let's talk about getting out of the house. Isn't there some museum or other attraction you could visit? Not sure if you would like the particular place? Why not go and find out? Then you could say (in the worst) case), "Well, that's one place that I don't care for", but having seen that place would be better than TV and sleeping!

Good luck to you. The key to overcoming your misery is in your own hands! I wish you all the best, sincerely.
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Old 05-03-2010, 12:08 PM
 
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Thanks Escort Rider.. Its obvious i gotta get something going as i feel i'm just wasting away at the moment, problem is i dont care,seems none of my old passions are relevant any more.. got an appointment with a psychiatrist later this month maybe he can tell me why i dont feel like doing anything any more...
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Old 05-03-2010, 09:26 PM
 
Location: Murrayville, Georgia
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My sister doesn't want to retire for fear of being bored. She has no hobbies or interests outside of her job. I asked her if there was anything she'd like to learn about but never had time for. She said no. She thinks hobbies means arts and crafts. I gave up.

Some of the things I do in retirement that require money - travel, genealogy online

Things I do or plan to do (I'm newly retired) that don't cost as much money:
-learn about - Celtic history, local history, ancient history - a bit of archaeology
-learn French
-hiking, biking, canoeing and kayaking
-lots of reading
-improve my photography skills
-improve my writing skills with blogging and writing essays on things I've learned
-do travelogues on our travels
-experiment with cooking and baking
-work out

- also to learn more about buddhism
i like your style yank....enjoy...
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Old 05-04-2010, 01:20 PM
 
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Let's talk about walking. If you have joint pain after half a mile, please force yourself to walk that half mile every day, just until the pain sets in. Then after a while, increase the distance just a little, continuing on slightly into the pain (but not torturing yourself). Based on my personal experience and on what I've read, there is a good chance the pain will only come after greater and greater distances, and this improvement will be its own reward, and a key to improving your mood. Inactivity itself contributes to the worsening of arthritis pain, but don't expect instant results - it can take several weeks to start to see the payoff.

Let's talk about volunteering. Please don't think of it as working for someone else for free. You are working not for a boss, but for yourself and for the people who will benefit from your efforts. Helping others is a wonderful antidote to depression. Libraries, schools, churches, clinics for the poor, and so many other places need help. Reach out, despite your shyness. Just think, it wouldn't be worse than your present situation, and it might even turn out to be wonderful, as well as a source of friendship.

Let's talk about getting out of the house. Isn't there some museum or other attraction you could visit? Not sure if you would like the particular place? Why not go and find out? Then you could say (in the worst) case), "Well, that's one place that I don't care for", but having seen that place would be better than TV and sleeping!
Great advice on the walking. I have pretty bad pain in my achilles tenson from massive antibiotics several years ago. It hurts when I walk, but stretching and walking everyday or almost everyday helps. Not walking for a while makes it worse, though usually only when I start walking again. I know it's counterintuitive, but exercise gives you more energy and helps reduce pain and discomfort. When it hurts, I remember what Marines say about pain, "Pain is weakness leaving your body."

As far as volunteering, you don't have to volunteer for an organization, though interacting with people is good for your mental state. My neighbor is retired military. Every month he puts together a package of paperbacks and sends it off the the troops. He gets them from friends, neighbors, whomever, but he does it on his own and on his own schedule.

Finally, from someone that has experienced fairly severe anxiety/depression in the past, forcing yourself to get out and do something, especially something you love, works wonders. It breaks the cycle of the negative feelings. Planning also helps. Looking forward to something or planning a trip or event helps your outlook also. Start small, maybe a walk in the park or a visit to a museum. For me, just being near moving water is extremely theraputic.
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Old 05-08-2010, 02:10 PM
 
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Default Thanks everybody

Enjoyed hearing how you avoid boredom in retirement

I hope I can manage as well!
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