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Old 04-26-2013, 04:58 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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When I get old and feeble I will do one thing- I will hide from all of you. Being old is quickly becoming what the Jews were during the Nazi era. We will all become Ann Franks and avoid death as long as possible. If you are old and enter into a hospital - the policy will in time become that which enhances the death house. Forget it- I am not going to a place where they will morphine you to death and tell your children that "He is resting comfortably"

Keep your health and avoid them- The medical profession and the government are not your friends near the end.
Absolutely. Just walk with your head held high steadfastly and resolutely into the "oven."

I hope never to get so old and insensitive that I forget the travail of many of my ancestors and use them in such a manner.
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Old 05-23-2013, 06:36 AM
 
Location: Near a river
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I'm reading a great little book, a tough read but a real eye-opener, about how the medical system really works when it comes to dying—despite your "advance directives," etc. I think everyone younger and older should read it, because it tells it like it really is and prepares you with information to protect your interests. It is written by two sisters, a doctor and a lawyer. The book explains how to opt for a natural death.

A Better Way of Dying

A Better Way of Dying: How to Make the Best Choices at the End of Life: Jeanne Fitzpatrick, Eileen M. Fitzpatrick, William Colby: 9780143116752: Amazon.com: Books
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Old 06-25-2013, 03:59 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Default Planning ahead

Starting to think about my own memorial service. I've chosen the music, Randall Thomas's "Frostiana," seven Robert Frost poems sung by the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. I will purchase the CD. I'd like to have my photographs projected on a screen while this music is being played. Can someone tell me how to do that, or where to get it done, without spending a fortune. Also, how to amplify the CD without it sounding tinny on a CD player. I'm not a techie! Thanks.
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Old 06-25-2013, 04:36 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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Starting to think about my own memorial service. I've chosen the music, Randall Thomas's "Frostiana," seven Robert Frost poems sung by the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. I will purchase the CD. I'd like to have my photographs projected on a screen while this music is being played. Can someone tell me how to do that, or where to get it done, without spending a fortune. Also, how to amplify the CD without it sounding tinny on a CD player. I'm not a techie! Thanks.
Do you have a terminal illness?

If not - what you're doing is very morbid IMO (unless you're like 90+). Robyn
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Old 06-25-2013, 05:29 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Do you have a terminal illness?

If not - what you're doing is very morbid IMO (unless you're like 90+). Robyn
No, not that I know of. I'm a planner by nature, that was part of my career—annual plans and 5- to 10-year strategic plans for nonprofits, complete with projected budgets. It's no different than setting up a will, trust, POA, healthcare proxy, etc. All part of the same planning. Besides, I wouldn't want to wait till I'm incapacitated to try to get my service CD together, it would be too much to deal with. And I can enjoy it while I'm still alive.
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Old 06-25-2013, 06:13 PM
 
Location: We_tside PNW (Columbia Gorge) / CO / SA TX / Thailand
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Great idea, get it done while you are capable (I would sure appreciate that from the folks I help at end of life).
A friend that died last yr did his own video / pics. I recommend you run it by a few folks first. His sense of humor about death was not well received by all present. (not that it mattered to him).

There is software that allows you to merge audio and slides or video. (You can also do in a Powerpoint presentation).
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Old 06-25-2013, 08:32 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Starting to think about my own memorial service. I've chosen the music, Randall Thomas's "Frostiana," seven Robert Frost poems sung by the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. I will purchase the CD. I'd like to have my photographs projected on a screen while this music is being played. Can someone tell me how to do that, or where to get it done, without spending a fortune. Also, how to amplify the CD without it sounding tinny on a CD player. I'm not a techie! Thanks.
Awesome idea! No different from making out a will IMHO. We all are going to die sometime or other no reason why you shouldn't plan ahead if you have an idea. I don't know how to go about doing this but perhaps someone on the tech forum can be of help?
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Old 06-26-2013, 12:41 PM
 
Location: Alaska
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Starting to think about my own memorial service. I've chosen the music, Randall Thomas's "Frostiana," seven Robert Frost poems sung by the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. I will purchase the CD. I'd like to have my photographs projected on a screen while this music is being played. Can someone tell me how to do that, or where to get it done, without spending a fortune. Also, how to amplify the CD without it sounding tinny on a CD player. I'm not a techie! Thanks.
You can do it yourself. For my FIL's 80th birthday, I created a slide show in PowerPoint with a music track. You can have slides with sayings intermixed with the pics. All that would be needed is a projection screen/computer projector or big screen TV as you can create a slide show that will play without PowerPoint. The sound quality is more dependent on the speaker system it will be playing on. For my FIL, I brought good quality powered speakers and the laptop had an upgraded sound card. Your only problem is that in 5+ years, who knows where the technology will be and your presentation may not be playable.
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Old 06-26-2013, 04:35 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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No, not that I know of. I'm a planner by nature, that was part of my career—annual plans and 5- to 10-year strategic plans for nonprofits, complete with projected budgets. It's no different than setting up a will, trust, POA, healthcare proxy, etc. All part of the same planning. Besides, I wouldn't want to wait till I'm incapacitated to try to get my service CD together, it would be too much to deal with. And I can enjoy it while I'm still alive.
I'm 65 - and don't care to do anything in terms of planning for my death (except in terms of the normal financial planning and similar). When I'm dead - I'm dead. I hope some people will mourn my passing - but I don't intend to make plans to make sure they will. Robyn
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Old 06-26-2013, 05:19 PM
 
Location: Alaska
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I'm 65 - and don't care to do anything in terms of planning for my death (except in terms of the normal financial planning and similar). When I'm dead - I'm dead. I hope some people will mourn my passing - but I don't intend to make plans to make sure they will. Robyn
Planning makes it easier for those left behind to do as you requested. We've filled out a Final Arrangements document so our kids know what to do with the remains. It's no different than making your Will out or creating a Health Care Directive.
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