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Old 05-16-2015, 08:51 PM
 
Location: Orlando
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My husband was terrible at being retired. When he first retired from the New York Public School system, he was recently divorced from his first wife (this was several years before I met him), and he moved to South Florida with the idea that he'd like to play golf and hang out by the pool.

He quickly fell in with a group of guys who would meet every day at the golf course, play 18 holes and then go to the nearest bar, where each guy would buy a round. Then they'd stagger to the pool and collapse and broil in the sun.

He said he realized pretty early on that maintaining that life style would kill him sooner rather than later. So he looked for, and found, a teaching job at a local university, which is where we met.

Several years later, he retired a second time when we left that city and moved to North Florida. There, he became very active with the statewide faculty union, a job that required him to do a fair amount of travel around Florida.

Eventually, he retired (again) from that, when his Parkinson's presented too many problems for him to continue working.

He always said he was a failure at retirement. Had to do it three times before it stuck.
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Old 05-17-2015, 11:12 AM
 
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They were just checking out the girls while pretending they weren't. Wishing they were X years younger.
Bada Bing! Sorta like the older men on the beach today. So lonely!
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Old 05-17-2015, 11:29 AM
 
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As a youth, you explore the creeks, woods, and meadows of the outer world. At an older age, you begin to probe the surprisingly tantalizing features of the inner world. The mind is an exciting and near boundless playground. Even if you are just sitting on a bench.
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Old 05-17-2015, 01:35 PM
 
Location: in the miseries
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Amazing how many people you can meet in a shopping mall.
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Old 05-17-2015, 02:00 PM
 
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I go to the mall to shop, not to assess the mental health of people but at least they're out and not couching their lives away.
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Old 05-17-2015, 04:30 PM
 
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That why is important not to retire to early even if you can financially. The second important thing is have a have a game plan when you retire. Maybe getting second home or moving is not always bad idea, if you can afford it. Makes you explore, downsize, and have something to look forward to...
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Old 05-18-2015, 08:04 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I too would see a lot of people like this at the mall in my hometown, particularly during the daytime. It seems like these people just kind of lost their sense of purpose.
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Old 05-18-2015, 11:02 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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That why is important not to retire to early even if you can financially. The second important thing is have a have a game plan when you retire. Maybe getting second home or moving is not always bad idea, if you can afford it. Makes you explore, downsize, and have something to look forward to...
Something to look forward to.
That's the key.

Even if it's only waiting for good weather to get out and walk.
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Old 05-18-2015, 11:10 AM
 
Location: Sarasota, FL
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[quote=Dingler;886941]I went through a period of unemployment recently and spent some time at the big shopping mall near my home. It was a eye opening experience. Every time I went to the mall there were a large number of old men sitting there staring into space. They looked so bored and lonely. I tried to picture them as younger men who were working in great jobs and surrounded by tons of friends. That seems so long ago.[quote]

How do you know they were bored and lonely just by looking at them?

Is it possible that you "tried to picture them as younger men who were working in great jobs and surrounded by tons of friends" in part because you yourself were unemployed (lonely and aging?) at the time?
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Old 05-18-2015, 04:06 PM
 
Location: Great State of Texas
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You've never just sat and daydreamed ? You've never just sat and people watched ?
It's very relaxing no matter where you are.
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