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Old 05-18-2015, 04:18 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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You've never just sat and daydreamed ? You've never just sat and people watched ?
It's very relaxing no matter where you are.

I so agree with you. If people judged my happiness/unhappiness by how I looked, they would think I lead a terrible life. Relaxing, watching people, etc. does not require a particular facial expression. I know at one time we were told to always have a smile on our faces, but how unrealistic is that?
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Old 05-19-2015, 02:38 PM
 
Location: in the miseries
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When I relax my face, I look angry.

So I try to smile
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Old 05-19-2015, 08:50 PM
 
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I have been in many shopping malls over the past two weeks as we generally do NOT shop unless we are on vacation. I have not seen many sad, bored, lonely old men at the Shopping Mall.

What I do see are a lot of tired and impatient husbands wondering when the heck their wives are going to come out of the store. When my wife says, "I will be in that store for ten minutes. It is 1:30 pm and you can time me." Translated, that means, you have time to walk half way across the Mega-outlet mall, stop at Starbucks, wait ten minutes for them to do a "pour-over", walk back, arrive at 2:05 pm, find a seat, and take a rest. She will walk out at 2:15 pm and tell me "see, I told you that I would be back shortly."

I think that in every mall, they should convert one of the vacant stores into a mini sports bar with lounge chairs, several big screen TVs and a small bar. That way, women could drop off their husbands and take their good old time ...
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Old 05-20-2015, 04:41 AM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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I think that in every mall, they should convert one of the vacant stores into a mini sports bar with lounge chairs, several big screen TVs and a small bar. That way, women could drop off their husbands and take their good old time ...
That's a good idea.

As for me, I learned a long time ago to avoid shopping with my wife. I'll never change her behavior and she won't change mine. And that's fine with both of us.

Men hunt but women gather.

When I'm looking for something I'll usually go to one store, kill it and bring it home. Done.

When she shops, she visits all the stores, looks and tries on many things and generally comes home empty handed. That way she can repeat the event the next day at a plethora of new stores.
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Old 05-20-2015, 05:33 AM
 
Location: Cochise County, AZ
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Gee, I must be a rare female! I hate shopping. I go get what I need and get out. In fact, my daughter hated shopping with me and would call her grandmother when she wanted to go shopping
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Old 05-20-2015, 05:48 AM
 
Location: Sydney Australia
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I have been in many shopping malls over the past two weeks as we generally do NOT shop unless we are on vacation. I have not seen many sad, bored, lonely old men at the Shopping Mall.

What I do see are a lot of tired and impatient husbands wondering when the heck their wives are going to come out of the store. When my wife says, "I will be in that store for ten minutes. It is 1:30 pm and you can time me." Translated, that means, you have time to walk half way across the Mega-outlet mall, stop at Starbucks, wait ten minutes for them to do a "pour-over", walk back, arrive at 2:05 pm, find a seat, and take a rest. She will walk out at 2:15 pm and tell me "see, I told you that I would be back shortly."

I think that in every mall, they should convert one of the vacant stores into a mini sports bar with lounge chairs, several big screen TVs and a small bar. That way, women could drop off their husbands and take their good old time ...
No you don't need another bar lol! I have been single a long time but I can never understand women who take their husbands to the mall, I mean who needs it? Why do you go along with them? Is it to check how much they are spending, or to make sure they don't buy clothes you don't like? It's so annoying when men stand near the changing cubicles to look at what their girlfriends are trying on. They just get in the way. And don't even mention the supermarket - they take so long to decide about everything OMG. Just get on with it and get out. (Did you guess, I hate shopping?)
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Old 05-20-2015, 06:01 AM
 
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A couple of weeks ago it was cold and raining. I went to the mall and walked around for exercise. I did not see any old men sitting around. In fact the mall seems to attract mostly teenage girls and vain women. Unless you are interested in the latest fashion there is really not much reason to visit. Except for my exercise trip, even my wife does not visit except for every couple of years. I understand there is a morning exercise group that walks the mall as soon as it opens.

Personally I cannot even understand how the stores in the mall survive. The rents must be very high. Are there that many people who are interested in clothing? I know my interest is very minimal and keeps decreasing as I age. I have past the point where I need to impress anyone especially with my appearance.
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Old 05-20-2015, 08:19 AM
 
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I have been in many shopping malls over the past two weeks as we generally do NOT shop unless we are on vacation. I have not seen many sad, bored, lonely old men at the Shopping Mall.

What I do see are a lot of tired and impatient husbands wondering when the heck their wives are going to come out of the store. When my wife says, "I will be in that store for ten minutes. It is 1:30 pm and you can time me." Translated, that means, you have time to walk half way across the Mega-outlet mall, stop at Starbucks, wait ten minutes for them to do a "pour-over", walk back, arrive at 2:05 pm, find a seat, and take a rest. She will walk out at 2:15 pm and tell me "see, I told you that I would be back shortly."

I think that in every mall, they should convert one of the vacant stores into a mini sports bar with lounge chairs, several big screen TVs and a small bar. That way, women could drop off their husbands and take their good old time ...
Bada Bing! I wonder how many of the people who say such about us older guys and Malls are either married or male and a senior.
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Old 05-20-2015, 08:21 AM
 
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No you don't need another bar lol! I have been single a long time but I can never understand women who take their husbands to the mall, I mean who needs it? Why do you go along with them? Is it to check how much they are spending, or to make sure they don't buy clothes you don't like? It's so annoying when men stand near the changing cubicles to look at what their girlfriends are trying on. They just get in the way. And don't even mention the supermarket - they take so long to decide about everything OMG. Just get on with it and get out. (Did you guess, I hate shopping?)
Some couples like to do things together and actually combine stops for his, her and joint needs. We do it. Lunch after is nice.
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Old 05-20-2015, 11:35 PM
 
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No you don't need another bar lol! I have been single a long time but I can never understand women who take their husbands to the mall, I mean who needs it? Why do you go along with them? Is it to check how much they are spending, or to make sure they don't buy clothes you don't like? It's so annoying when men stand near the changing cubicles to look at what their girlfriends are trying on. They just get in the way. And don't even mention the supermarket - they take so long to decide about everything OMG. Just get on with it and get out. (Did you guess, I hate shopping?)

Why do I allow myself to get dragged to the mall?

Well, generally, we do about 90% of our mall shopping on vacation or when visiting our parents. We love our parents but after they tell us the same stories for the third time, we need to bail for a while. And a mall is a great place to walk when you don't belong to a gym locally or when the weather is inclement.

Also, in these cases, we generally have one car.

As for supermarket shopping, I always try to leave my wife at home. She slows down the entire process by at least 40% and she wants to second guess as to whether I selected the largest, most fresh melon and the like.

But then you are single and you probably would not understand ...
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