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Old 11-15-2016, 06:29 PM
 
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Old 11-15-2016, 08:08 PM
 
Location: The South
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These men were not waiting for relatives to finish shopping. They were all my themselves just killing time.

I believe that many people who are retired are not suited for not working and tend to withdraw and are not interested in organized activites. My Dad was like that. He would not get involved in organized activites at the senior center and spent all his time sitting around feeling sorry for himself.

Is this retirement for many people?
I'm 79 and I don't like to go to the Senior whatever. Too dang many old folks.
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Old 11-15-2016, 10:04 PM
 
Location: Sylmar, a part of Los Angeles
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There looking at the women.
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Old 11-15-2016, 11:17 PM
 
Location: southwestern USA
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I am happily married and I still look when we go to malls. What is wrong with men looking briefly at beautiful women? The day I stop looking is probably the day the stethoscope does not pick up any breathing sounds.
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Old 11-16-2016, 12:31 AM
 
Location: Haiku
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I am happily married and I still look when we go to malls. What is wrong with men looking briefly at beautiful women? The day I stop looking is probably the day the stethoscope does not pick up any breathing sounds.
My wife and I retired to Maui. I go to the beach a lot for surfing, swimming, paddling. The bathing suits women wear in Maui are basically just a string. After a while it's no big deal to see but it is hard to miss. There are a fair number of older/retired folks who come to the beach every day with their beach chairs and hang out. Pretty much the same crowd. They might surf a bit but mostly they sit around and talk story. They seem to be having fun; I go and chit chat with them a bit but I can't just sit and do nothing for very long so I either surf or go home and work in the yard. We have other retired friends here who don't go to the beach but are active in other ways - painting, gardening, etc. Can't say I know anybody who hangs out in the mall.
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Old 11-16-2016, 06:55 AM
 
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I only go to a mall about twice a year. However, I walk my dog around the neighborhood almost every day, and almost every evening, my husband and I will walk her on a park or nature trail -- there are many large ones close to where we live, so we vary where we go -- and it bothers me how many old men I see walking entirely by themselves. We always wonder if they are divorced or widowed or their wives just don't want to walk with them. In any case, we think it is very sad.

Btw, it seems that when we do see women walking, 90% of the time they are walking with a dog or another woman (or group of women), or they are pushing a stroller; and we hardly ever see two men walking together -- running, yes, but not just walking -- so I wonder if women just generally tend to be more social.

Also btw, we see a LOT of old men and women running or bicycling on the trails by themselves -- some appear to even be in their 80's -- and I truly do admire them.

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Old 11-16-2016, 06:55 AM
 
Location: Whereever we have our RV parked
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IMHO, a lot of these men have boring retirements because they continue to let the wife run their life. I've lost track of the elderly women who basically live their lives through their grandchildren, or care for their grandchildren, or just want to live close to the grandchildren. So because the wife calls the shots at home, he ends up cowtowing to what she says and she wants, and so its no surprise he's miserable. I used to see some of these guys in the morning during my bike. They have a big fancy house, they are retired, and are out by themselves, walking their wives little ankle biter. Yes, there are a lot of lonely bored retired men in America, but a lot of it is brought on by themselves.
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Old 11-16-2016, 07:22 AM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, originally from SF Bay Area
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At our local upscale shopping mall, we see plenty of seniors but in the early morning, before stores are even open, walking around for exercise. In our wet climate it's a lot more comfortable than walking outdoors in the rain. Most of the time the biggest demographic at the mall is 14-16 year old girls. We recently learned to save money by having nice dinners out during happy hours, and discovered that at 64/63 we are among the younger people at the restaurants at that time (5-6pm).
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Old 11-16-2016, 07:50 AM
 
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Amazing how some believe they can read other's minds and come to a conclusion as to exactly what their lives are like.

They see seniors in a mall, or a grocery store, or wherever and if they aren't skipping and singing "Zip-a-Dee-Doo-Dah" they automatically 'know' those are miserable, lonely retired people.
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Old 11-16-2016, 07:53 AM
 
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Amazing how some believe they can read other's minds and come to a conclusion as to exactly what their lives are like.

They see seniors in a mall, or a grocery store, or wherever and if they aren't skipping and singing "Zip-a-Dee-Doo-Dah" they automatically 'know' those are miserable, lonely retired people.

Thats what I was thinking...nothing wrong with going to the mall alone...if its not your thing, then dont do it...doesnt mean other people cant enjoy doing it
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