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Old 01-25-2011, 08:57 AM
 
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It sounds like some people are in a big rut in retirement. I quit working for half a year & enjoyed it so much that I never returned to work the following year. I ended up taking early retirement.

I rarely watch TV nor even have it on. I have many things that I enjoy like travel, swimming, tennis, golf, shopping, movies, hanging out with my dogs at various interesting locations. I also like gardening & doing various projects around the house.

So, unless they are truly happy not doing anything, retired people need to get moving & develop some hobbies/interests. There are so many things to do after working ends, in my opinion.
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:31 AM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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To the OP:

Think of it this way. . .

There are lots of people out there who would LOVE it if their meddling mothers-in-law glued their eyes to the TV!
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:40 AM
 
Location: Canackistan
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Did you guys ever see the film Requiem for a Dream? The old lady is quite like that...
I mean, she's a little crazy here, but i'm sure we know someone like this.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sq0W-L1KKPg
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Old 01-26-2011, 07:30 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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To the OP: Think of it this way. . . There are lots of people out there who would LOVE it if their meddling mothers-in-law glued their eyes to the TV!
Great point! Very clever, but also very true. There are worse outcomes for people who (sadly) do not have a life of their own, worse, at least, for the children and grandchildren of those people.
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:58 PM
 
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I doubt the original poster of this thread is even reading it anymore, but if they were this is what I'd have to say to them.......Goodness, give the woman who watches so much tv a break! Some retired people play cards, some go to casinos and gamble away their money, some drink, some shop for things they don't need, some tool around the golf course in a cart hitting a little ball, others play with computers/electronics, others meddle in other people's business, and on and on. It's all mindless, unproductive for society and time passing things. Let her enjoy the outlet she's chosen. She's not hurting anyone.

Let's face it, being in your 60s, 70s, or 80s does NOT usually mean you're filled with endless and boundless energy, fantastic health, and lots of get up and go. If you are, God has blessed you, so go and give of yourself. But, if you're not filled with boundless energy like I assume this woman isn't, perhaps her choice of minding her own business and keeping to herself rather than get involved with other people's lives suits her and maybe by now she deserves to do what SHE wants to do with the rest of the time she has left. She must have raised at least one child, your spouse, so she's probably paid her dues in life already. Let her be happy doing what she's doing. It's easy to judge the next generation when you're young, but when you add those 20 or 30 years onto yourself you'll probably understand her a lot better than you're able to now.
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Old 01-26-2011, 03:32 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I doubt the original poster of this thread is even reading it anymore, but if they were this is what I'd have to say to them.......Goodness, give the woman who watches so much tv a break! Some retired people play cards, some go to casinos and gamble away their money, some drink, some shop for things they don't need, some tool around the golf course in a cart hitting a little ball, others play with computers/electronics, others meddle in other people's business, and on and on. It's all mindless, unproductive for society and time passing things. Let her enjoy the outlet she's chosen. She's not hurting anyone.

Let's face it, being in your 60s, 70s, or 80s does NOT usually mean you're filled with endless and boundless energy, fantastic health, and lots of get up and go. If you are, God has blessed you, so go and give of yourself. But, if you're not filled with boundless energy like I assume this woman isn't, perhaps her choice of minding her own business and keeping to herself rather than get involved with other people's lives suits her and maybe by now she deserves to do what SHE wants to do with the rest of the time she has left. She must have raised at least one child, your spouse, so she's probably paid her dues in life already. Let her be happy doing what she's doing. It's easy to judge the next generation when you're young, but when you add those 20 or 30 years onto yourself you'll probably understand her a lot better than you're able to now.
This is a wonderful, thoughtful post. You are right, for the most part. I would only add a slight modification to "She's not hurting anyone". I would add "but herself". She is hurting herself by the lack of exercise. But this is also true of so many other people that it's almost the national norm. Heavy drinking would be even worse than the constant TV watching, of course.

Yes, she is doing what she wants to do. And yes, she may even be happy doing that. Even so, I find the situation sad, as I can't imagine me doing that and being happy. Different strokes, of course.
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Old 01-27-2011, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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I have to say that I think anyone who watches TV all day is probably depressed. Why can't she go for a walk, pick up a book, surf the Internet? I watch almost no TV, so never had much understanding of those who waste their lives in front of it.

Present her with a viable alternative to the tube and try to ween her off it. I think it will be next to impossible, though.
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Old 01-27-2011, 07:01 PM
 
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I'm afraid this is going to sound argumentative, and I don't mean it to be. And, no, I don't watch tv myself all day long, so I'm not trying to validate my own behavior. I'm just trying to make a point. Why would someone assume that spending time reading endless novels or surfing the internet is any more noble or productive than spending time watching favorite tv shows? Many are entertaining, informative, and educational. Taking a walk is good, of course, but it is winter and some people also cannot do that for health reasons. We'd have to know a lot more about this "mother-in-law" to really make a formative judgement, but it's not our place to do so, anyway. And, I still say if that's what this older woman wants to do with her spare time (I have to assume she still cooks and does dishes, shops for her food, keeps her clothes clean and keeps her house clean so is spending part of her days doing those things) why does it bother her daughter-in-law so much that she choses to watch tv in her spare time? Does it bother the woman's own son, I wonder.
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Old 01-27-2011, 10:34 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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I want to make this brief comment due to my respect of fellow posters.

The OP of this thread was a poster who continued to come back with different user names. They are not a sincere poster, just making a comment to get poster reaction. Unfortunately, some of the subsequent incarnations were rather vulgar and bigoted, so...

I personally have banned at least a dozen of the subsequent persona's. There have been many more.

So if you want to just comment on the sentiment feel free, however you aren't offering advice to a sincere poster.
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Old 01-28-2011, 12:38 AM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I want to make this brief comment due to my respect of fellow posters.

The OP of this thread was a poster who continued to come back with different user names. They are not a sincere poster, just making a comment to get poster reaction. Unfortunately, some of the subsequent incarnations were rather vulgar and bigoted, so...

I personally have banned at least a dozen of the subsequent persona's. There have been many more.

So if you want to just comment on the sentiment feel free, however you aren't offering advice to a sincere poster.
I was gonna say pretty much the same thing. I remember good ol' Dingle Baby and his subsequent parade of personas back in the day!
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