Hard to meet people in Newport (movers, home, neighborhoods)

[2movers]

My husband and I are having a hard time meeting people in Newport. We have been here for 6 months now and I'm finding it snobby. Well, maybe not snobby....just not very outgoing people. Or, when we find a nice couple out some place, there is no follow-through. We'll spend hours with them and they don't give out their number or want to get together. We are both fun and outgoing people...is this just typical New England? We're taking it personally but everyone keeps saying don't.

[skytrekker]

Do not take it personally

where are you from? New Englanders can be very nice- perhaps a bit more reserved then where you are from. It might be best not to make comparisons to where you came from, and what to expect in Newport. Best advice? Relax----go with the flow, and do not over extend yourself.

Give things time. People here have perhaps a 'superior' attitude giving what New England has given to the nation- but much of this is bluff.

[emilybh]

Originally Posted by 2movers

My husband and I are having a hard time meeting people in Newport. We have been here for 6 months now and I'm finding it snobby. Well, maybe not snobby....just not very outgoing people. Or, when we find a nice couple out some place, there is no follow-through. We'll spend hours with them and they don't give out their number or want to get together. We are both fun and outgoing people...is this just typical New England? We're taking it personally but everyone keeps saying don't.

I think a good way to meet people is to get involved in a club or volunteer. Even then you and your husband might have to be the ones to take the first step and initiate or host a get together for people you meet there. I don't think meeting Newporters out at a restaurant and chatting with them for a few hours would be enough time or effort with a new couple for many Newporters to offer their phone number or roll out the welcome mat and invite you to their home and into their circle of friends. If I were you, I'd be the one to ask for their number and plan a date to do something at the same time.

Also many Newporters prefer to keep to themselves. I've lived here for 29 years and in 3 different neighborhoods of Newport and in all three, I never knew who most of my neighbors were.

In fact at one location I had a big catered party with a tent and invited all the neighbors shortly after moving there and none ever invited me to do anything. The only way I've met people while living here is through either work, volunteering or through a hobby.

Granted, it is a little depressing and I'm actually getting ready to move down South (to supposedly the friendliest city in the USA -- Charleston, SC) but you will make friends here if you work at it.