Check out the Chester/Enon area. You can be to Hopewell in about ten minutes, have a good Chesterfield County (
Chesterfield County Public Schools) high school (normally Thomas Dale, just depends on home location) and your wife has all of the modern conveniences of Richmond. If you want more specific information as to subdivisions, give us a better idea on price range and the Board may be able to give other recommendations.
Engineering programs... Well, I may be biased, but Virginia Tech (3 1/2 - 4 hour drive)has an Engineering College within the university. I think University of Virginia does (1 1/2 - 2 hour drive) and pretty certain I heard Old Dominion University (1-2 hour drive) started one recently.
Other websites for information...
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Richmond's Entertainment, News, and Community Resource - inRich.com.
Hope that helps!