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Old 07-20-2010, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Kennesaw, GA
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Maybe you could change some of your choices, before you give up? How about participating with your community? If you cannot bear to send your kids to the local schools (?), then invite some neighborhood kids (and their parents) to a party. Reserve a space at your local park, if you don't want to immediately open your home to strangers. Start planning neighborhood events. Start participating in local events: town council, neighborhood clean ups, sports events -- whatever. Maybe just send an invitation out to the extended neighborhood to hold a neighborhood meeting to discuss changes you would like to see. It could be that many of them feel the same way you do.

Reach out before turning your back.
Totally agree. I find that LOTS of people are looking for that Mayberry feeling, but frankly, don't know where to begin. I guess some people immediately start thinking about what little rural town they can move to. I am not knocking rural living- I would LOVE to be out in the mountains with a little farm, but it would not be a good financial decision for my family at this time. Sooo, you have to be assertive in achieving community. I think most people are busy. City people are busy and rural people are busy, each doing their day to day errands and chores. It can take one assertive person to get the ball rolling and then maybe someone else reciprocates. It might take a few tries, especially in an area where people might be suspicious of this type of forward activity. Keep trying. Oh, and if you are the "new" person in a town, don't sit around waiting for all the neighbors to bring you over a fresh-baked pie. You can be the one to bake some pies, walk door to door and introduce yourself. This way, you are showing everyone that you are an asset to the community and building relationships is important.
On another note, the arguments between "city slickers" and "hillbillies" are stupid. I'm a suburnbanite, but I don't let my location define the way I live or think. I choose to create my own Mayberry around me and be content with where I am. What's that saying? Oh yes, Bloom where you are planted...
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Old 07-20-2010, 10:57 AM
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Location: Texas or Cascais, Portugal
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You are proving exactly why I don't like most city slickers who move to small towns. You don't add a doggone thing to the community life. We just don't need you.[/quote]

Need I say more? Mayberry is long gone my friends...
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Old 07-20-2010, 11:04 AM
 
Location: Finally escaped The People's Republic of California
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??????????

Seems you're a " city slicker"
I'll bet nearly every supermarket in NYC or any big California city sell corn on the cob.
You missed the point.
Regretfully you are correct sir. I've never lived anywhere but the Suburbs and the city...
However if you go back and read the posts, you'll see we were making some fun of NYJoe telling OzarkBoy to go Husk some corn....
Now I do apoligize for getting on this forum , and oblviously not having a clue to what I was typing about....I will try to refrain from such actions in the future...
Now you can be sure I'd never tell you how to grow corn, hell I've never even had a garden.....of course when I retire, I still won't be able to have one as that darn Rocky Missouri soil ain't worth a darn....
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Old 07-20-2010, 11:13 AM
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Location: Texas or Cascais, Portugal
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future...
Now you can be sure I'd never tell you how to grow corn, hell I've never even had a garden.....of course when I retire, I still won't be able to have one as that darn Rocky Missouri soil ain't worth a darn....
And that is why, corn won't grow at all on Rocky Top, dirt's too rocky by far, that's why all the folks round Rocky top get their corn from a jar... sorry, couldn't resist.
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Old 07-20-2010, 12:11 PM
 
Location: West Texas
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I live in a small town in west Texas... well... it's about 100,000 people, but compared to many other cities/towns, it's fairly small. We don't have a major interstate running through at all. We only have a "regional" airport that prop planes fly in and out of. But we DO have a Sam's (like a Costco) and 2 Super Wal-Marts.

But, just two weeks ago, my daughter spent the night at her best friends house, and the following day the girls father took them out on the lake for some swimming/boating fun. However, my daughter got a cramp and couldn't make it back to the boat (she's 13). The other girl's father jumped into the lake to help, and apparently had a heart attack and drowned (I say "apparently" because the results aren't all in yet). In any case, I had never even spoken to the gentleman or shaken his hand. I would just wave at him or his wife as they dropped my daughter back at our house, or we dropped their daughter off back at theirs.

The memorial for him was last Friday, and when I showed up to the funeral home, we were greeted by a woman I had never met. She asked if my daughter and I were "so-and-so," and when I replied "yes" she asked me to follow. Mind you... the funeral home was about full and standing room only at this time. The room the woman brought us to was full of the surviving family. His wife and kids came up and hugged my daughter and I, then they stated that they wanted us to sit with their family at the pews. In fact, my daughter sat in the front pew with the immediate family members.

After the service, we were about to leave, and again the wife approached us and asked us to join the family at the house. I had to return to work, but my daughter went. It's been 4 days since the memorial service, and through that time we have been reached out to by MANY members of the town to support us through this... and to make sure my daughter was okay and not over-suffering through "survivor's guilt."

The outporing of support from the community has let me to many new friends, and this town has a mentality of friendliness anyway. It's rare to walk by someone in a store, in a building, or on the street and not get a friendly "howdy," "hello," or "hi." And even though the town is 100k people, you'll run into at least 2-3 people you know everytime you go to an event or shopping.

Is it Mayberry? No... it has it's part of town with some drugs and crime. Luckily none of which has touched myself or my family. But in today's day and age, it's MY Mayberry, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. If I can just get rid of the dang summer heats all the time, it would be perfect.
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Old 07-20-2010, 01:54 PM
 
Location: NY in body, Mayberry in spirit.
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I live in a small town in west Texas... well... it's about 100,000 people, but compared to many other cities/towns, it's fairly small. We don't have a major interstate running through at all. We only have a "regional" airport that prop planes fly in and out of. But we DO have a Sam's (like a Costco) and 2 Super Wal-Marts.

But, just two weeks ago, my daughter spent the night at her best friends house, and the following day the girls father took them out on the lake for some swimming/boating fun. However, my daughter got a cramp and couldn't make it back to the boat (she's 13). The other girl's father jumped into the lake to help, and apparently had a heart attack and drowned (I say "apparently" because the results aren't all in yet). In any case, I had never even spoken to the gentleman or shaken his hand. I would just wave at him or his wife as they dropped my daughter back at our house, or we dropped their daughter off back at theirs.

The memorial for him was last Friday, and when I showed up to the funeral home, we were greeted by a woman I had never met. She asked if my daughter and I were "so-and-so," and when I replied "yes" she asked me to follow. Mind you... the funeral home was about full and standing room only at this time. The room the woman brought us to was full of the surviving family. His wife and kids came up and hugged my daughter and I, then they stated that they wanted us to sit with their family at the pews. In fact, my daughter sat in the front pew with the immediate family members.

After the service, we were about to leave, and again the wife approached us and asked us to join the family at the house. I had to return to work, but my daughter went. It's been 4 days since the memorial service, and through that time we have been reached out to by MANY members of the town to support us through this... and to make sure my daughter was okay and not over-suffering through "survivor's guilt."

The outporing of support from the community has let me to many new friends, and this town has a mentality of friendliness anyway. It's rare to walk by someone in a store, in a building, or on the street and not get a friendly "howdy," "hello," or "hi." And even though the town is 100k people, you'll run into at least 2-3 people you know everytime you go to an event or shopping.

Is it Mayberry? No... it has it's part of town with some drugs and crime. Luckily none of which has touched myself or my family. But in today's day and age, it's MY Mayberry, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. If I can just get rid of the dang summer heats all the time, it would be perfect.


That is quite a remarkable family. People like that make any community better. Good luck.
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Old 07-20-2010, 08:23 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Escort, since you seem to basically get it, I would refer you to Ozarkboys' first response to my OP. He starts off by feeling he needs to explain the meaning of the word fiction to me. Rather patronizing, don't you think? He proceeds to tell me why I, who he calls a city slicker(insulting, right?), would not belong in his small town since I don't want or will not do the things that make a small town a good place to live. That assumes a helluva lot about someone he doesn't know! He finishes by calling HIMSELF a cranky old hillbilly, leading to my last, semi humorous line.

As you stated, I STARTED the darn thread!!!! Maybe small towns would not be dying off if locals viewed new arrivals not as outsiders or city slickers, but as new neighbors who might just help the town survive and prosper. Might be too much to ask for.
Of course, I recognize that the post to which you responded was patronizing and insulting. But you responded in kind and upped the ante, which is a very natural reaction. I've certainly done it too. So my comment about your post being "un-Mayberry-like" was more of an analytical conclusion about its nature; I did not wish to imply that I didn't understand where you were coming from.
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Old 07-20-2010, 08:52 PM
 
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I don't mean MT AIRY, NC. I know about that. Does the mind set, the character, the whole 'we look out for each other' attitude that made that show such a beloved hit, does that exist anymore? My wife thinks I am naive to hope that maybe one day we will find our Mayberry. I hope she is wrong.

No, it no longer exists, come to think of it , it never did.
At least not in my 82 years OR in any of the several thousand history books I've read.
YMMV
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Old 07-20-2010, 08:58 PM
 
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There are many Mayberrys.

You may never see a community get along nicely like Mayberry, but there are lots of small sleepy towns where everyone knows each other. Where the crime rate is low, and life has a slow pace.

We see the sheriff deputy drive through our town once a week, and the game warden comes through about as often.

Mayberry was TV, but small towns with a slow-pace and low-crime does exist.
If you don't count the inevitable frauds carried out by the "old boy" network
which the sheriff doesn't as he sees it as laudable enterprise, in most instances-
even if he's not in on that particular one.
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Old 07-20-2010, 11:26 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I don't mean MT AIRY, NC. I know about that. Does the mind set, the character, the whole 'we look out for each other' attitude that made that show such a beloved hit, does that exist anymore? My wife thinks I am naive to hope that maybe one day we will find our Mayberry. I hope she is wrong.

She is wrong I've seen this type of community in several different places. Look at Floyd, Virginia or Sparta, NC just to name two
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