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Old 08-20-2010, 03:31 PM
 
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When my parents lived in small town Iowa they were always talking about the differences between the three small to mid sized towns they lived in during the last 20 years of their life.

Town number one had 3000 people and no one would talk to them because they were not born there.

Town number two was 13,000 people and the folks were a bit nicer because everyone did not know each other but it was small enough that life was relatively stress free.

Town number 3 was 35,000 people and this was the best most pleasant group of people. It was small enough that it only took 5 minutes to be out of town and there was a true sense of community, but big enough that 95% lived and worked in town with few long term commuters like the smaller towns. Everyone did not know each other but the neighbors talked and looked out for each other.

In their experience a town of 35,000 had the nicest folks.

What is your experience?
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Old 08-20-2010, 06:20 PM
 
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You already know the answer.

Cities are more welcoming to newcomers and they generally don't eat their own.

btw - I don't consider a town of 35,000 to be a city...
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Old 08-20-2010, 06:24 PM
 
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You already know the answer.

Cities are more welcoming to newcomers and they generally don't eat their own.

btw - A town of 35,000 is not really a city.
To me it is.
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Old 08-20-2010, 06:30 PM
 
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To me it is.
I've spent most of my adult life split between two cities. One had a population of 250,000 population and the other, 1 million.

Both seemed like a small town to me -- once you find your way around!
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Old 08-20-2010, 06:42 PM
 
Location: Cody, WY
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In my experience, size has nothing to do with it. There are nice and nasty big cities, just as there are nice and nasty small towns.
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Old 08-20-2010, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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When my parents lived in small town Iowa they were always talking about the differences between the three small to mid sized towns they lived in during the last 20 years of their life.

Town number one had 3000 people and no one would talk to them because they were not born there.

Town number two was 13,000 people and the folks were a bit nicer because everyone did not know each other but it was small enough that life was relatively stress free.

Town number 3 was 35,000 people and this was the best most pleasant group of people. It was small enough that it only took 5 minutes to be out of town and there was a true sense of community, but big enough that 95% lived and worked in town with few long term commuters like the smaller towns. Everyone did not know each other but the neighbors talked and looked out for each other.

In their experience a town of 35,000 had the nicest folks.

What is your experience?
A town of 3000 in Maine or Vermont could be quite cold to newcomers.

The same sized town in CA would be very welcoming and helpful.

Bottom line-it's not about the size as much about the locale.

I live near a town of 5000 and I am amazed at how welcoming and involved the longtimer are here. Be nice and you are part of the community
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Old 08-21-2010, 01:44 AM
 
Location: Interior AK
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I have to agree, it's not the size but the location. We have two very small villages (pop <100) equidistant to us... one is pretty welcoming, the other isn't. Go into the city (+/- 30,000) and things get a little weird... not really welcoming or hostile, just anonymous and vaguely tolerant. But most folks in the state are fairly welcoming unless you're being rude... the only caveat is if you're white going into a native village, but I can understand their less than open arms considering some of the political and cultural crap that's been done to them.
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Old 08-21-2010, 08:28 AM
 
Location: West Michigan
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A town of 3000 in Maine or Vermont could be quite cold to newcomers.

The same sized town in CA would be very welcoming and helpful.
You're letting your stereotypes show. I've seen lots of small towns in Maine and Vermont that are warm and welcoming. Just as many as I've seen on the West Coast.

It all comes down to the individual community, not location or population.
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Old 08-21-2010, 09:00 AM
 
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You're letting your stereotypes show. I've seen lots of small towns in Maine and Vermont that are warm and welcoming. Just as many as I've seen on the West Coast.

It all comes down to the individual community, not location or population.
gotta agree

I have relatives who live in a close in suburb of Minneapolis and their neighborhood sounds much more friendly and welcoming than some of the small towns ( under 1,000 pop ) in central MN.
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Old 08-21-2010, 09:31 AM
 
Location: 125 Years Too Late...
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In their experience a town of 35,000 had the nicest folks.

What is your experience?
Town of 35,000?

In my estimation, that's a city and well above 10 times my preferred population.





It probably varies by region, but in my neck of the woods, the most welcoming size for the local towns seems to be from around 200 up to maybe 1200. I've spent time in many all over the state. And this is in the middle of the mormon kingdom, where people are supposed to be lepers or vampires... or some alien form of life. Those small, backwoods folks are far more friendly than the people in the metropolitan rat-race in which I now reside.

Spent some time last week in a little town called Sunnyside. It's about 90 miles from hell (my current location) and has approximately 400 people. And, it's around 20 miles down a dead-end road from a highway that's already in the middle of nowhere... Very refreshing! I'm jealous. The best thing about the place is that, unless coal suddenly becomes popular again, it has little chance of becoming another faceless McMansion Magnet. Not one McMansion in the entire town. As I said, VERY refreshing. I could "breathe." If I suddenly were willing to remain in the hot climate of (summers in) Utah, I'd definitely consider moving there.
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