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Old 08-31-2010, 09:20 AM
 
Location: Wherever they send us
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Wondering how accepting a small town is to outsiders moving in....
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Old 08-31-2010, 09:30 AM
 
Location: Austin Texas
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It depends. If you're moving to a small town and will be trying to work in the insurance, real estate or political type of industries then you'll definitely experience the "you're not one of us" sentimate. But you'll be kind of under the radar if you're working from home or an employee. Generally speaking people from small towns are nice but will have questions if the town has 25k people or less. Towns that small tend to know everybody's business to an extent.
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Old 08-31-2010, 01:55 PM
 
Location: Interior AK
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A lot depends on the town and your attitude. I've never been to a small town that was openly hostile towards me personally, but I've seen them shut out other folks. I don't get treate the same as a local because I am an outsider, but I'm an accepted outsider... it ain't so bad.
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Old 08-31-2010, 02:22 PM
 
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I left my small town (Pop 400) back in 1960 and stayed away for years. When I went back, they ignored me, couldn't understand how I'd want to live anywhere but there. They may let you in, but you'll never belong !
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Old 09-02-2010, 03:29 PM
 
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When I first moved here I hadn't lived here in 20 years.Soon as I got here I was told I wouldn't be burned out because I play by the rules and I have family around here.Plus some knew I wouldn't put up with BS because of what I did to a Guy from the city I caught Trespassing

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Old 09-03-2010, 05:14 AM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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How to be unwelcome:
1) brag about how much money you have
2) brag about your education
3) call everyone inbreds, racists, etc.
4) complain about the slower pace
5) complain about the lack of shopping or other amenities all the while bragging about how much better where you left is (which will get you the question, "Then why did you leave?"
6) complain about the lack of culture, foreign cuisine and diversity (there's a reason minorities don't move to rural areas, it's called lack of jobs)
7) tell people how closed minded they are
8) tell people how "this wouldn't be tolerated where I'm from" (see #5)
9) complain about the houses (one of which you bought)

That was the short course.
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Old 09-03-2010, 11:28 AM
 
Location: West Michigan
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It all depends on the town. Some are super open and accepting, others are just the opposite and are super closed. N.B.P. has hit the nail on the nail on the head with how to NOT to be accepted in ANY small town (and most larger places as well).
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Old 09-04-2010, 08:32 AM
 
Location: In a chartreuse microbus
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How to be unwelcome:
1) brag about how much money you have
2) brag about your education
3) call everyone inbreds, racists, etc.
4) complain about the slower pace
5) complain about the lack of shopping or other amenities all the while bragging about how much better where you left is (which will get you the question, "Then why did you leave?"
6) complain about the lack of culture, foreign cuisine and diversity (there's a reason minorities don't move to rural areas, it's called lack of jobs)
7) tell people how closed minded they are
8) tell people how "this wouldn't be tolerated where I'm from" (see #5)
9) complain about the houses (one of which you bought)

That was the short course.
Ditto, rinse, repeat. And if I may add, do not honk your horn when you come up behind a slow moving piece of farm equipment going down the road. That farmer was up before dawn, and will put in a 12 or 14 hour work day for less money than most of us care to think about. As I said in a previous thread about country living, plan for it.
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Old 09-04-2010, 08:39 AM
 
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I doubt honking would accomplish anything.

What is he supposed to do ? Speed up to 55 mph?

With the size of today's equipment, pulling over on the shoulder accomplishes nothing.
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Old 09-04-2010, 09:08 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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It really just depends on the prevailing attitudes and character of the community. Some are more welcoming to people who don't make asses of themselves, and some will never be accepting of somebody they view as an outsider, no matter what. In my hometown, outsiders were typically treated with skepticism ("You're probably not going to stick around, anyway,"), slight mistrust ("Where'd you come from, why'd you choose here, do you represent some kind of trouble?"), or chip-on-the-shoulder near-dislike ("You probably have all kinds of ideas you're going to try and push about what doesn't work around here and how it should be changed, aren't you?").

This mainly holds true if you move in and nobody knows anything about you. The notable exceptions are if you represent some upper echelon of small town society, i.e. if you were transferred in to be a bank president, a doctor at the small hospital, a school administrator, etc. At which point the local movers and shakers will 1. expect you to join the Chamber of Commerce and the country club, and 2. will then embrace you socially with open arms unless you prove to start flying a freak flag of some kind, and in which case, they'll probably just look the other way.

Generally, if you come in and start making a stink right away about all the things that are wrong with a town and how stupid everyone is for not fixing x,y,z and how you know better, everyone's going to hate you. Other than that, it's pretty hit and miss. The main rule of thumb in my experience (and, I spent close to a decade as a small town newspaper editor, so I saw a lot of crap go down and I saw a lot of people come and go), is to not make a lot of waves, and not expect to be ushered into the upper crust of small-town society unless you come in holding a position of perceived status (but don't act like you're better than the people in those positions already there).
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