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Old 04-22-2011, 02:49 AM
 
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I have lived in the same small town all my life. The town has several farms and until recently, there was only one elementary school and one middle-senior high school. The only restaurants (fast food) were on the outskirts of town and the only shopping store was a 7-Eleven.

In the past few years, several owners of large farms have sold their property to developers. These developers have put in shopping centers and big stores like Target. They also built several hundred homes on one of the farms (there only used to be one house there).

The core of the town is still somewhat unaffected by this as most of the building that's going on is closer to the outskirts of town.

Several long-time residents have complained. But we're getting a lot of new people moving to the area that want to live in a rural area but also have the convenience of nearby shopping centers. Apparently they don't know the meaning of the word "rural."

I have refused to shop at these stores as I don't support all the building that's going on as I feel they're ruining our nice town and things are only gonna get worse. I feel like if I shop at these stores, I'm saying that it's ok to keep on building. My family thinks I'm crazy because one person isn't gonna make a difference. I tell them that it's the principle of the matter.

So here's the dilema: A new business is opening in one of these shopping centers. I know the owner, I desperately need a job, and have a good chance of getting one at this business. It would be the ideal place for me to work because I have social anxiety disorder and the owner would be willing to make special accomodations for me whereas most other employers would not.

I know I'm being a hypocrite by applying for a job there. But I need that job for so many health reasons. I have no other choice.

Since I will already being working in one of the shopping centers, should I just shop at the other local shopping centers? Or should I still continue to "boycott" all these shopping centers, even though I'd be working in one?

Either way, I'm still a hypocrite.
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Old 04-24-2011, 11:45 AM
 
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These days it seems there aren't many other options, all the smaller good ol boys businesses are being shut down, forced out or bought out by the big guys' competition. Disgusting. When possible though, out here, I will save a gallon of fuel to go the the little family owned places.
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Old 04-24-2011, 12:00 PM
 
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I buy local, but its because I know everyone in this tiny town. If I buy my lumber from Ty, he'll buy my hay for his horses. If I buy feed from Kevin, he'll buy a couple of my fat steers in the fall. We also do a lot of bartering in town, no dollars involved.

Its about principle. If you are truly against all the new stores, don't let people pressure you to shop there. It is true though, one person does not make a difference. They don't care where you shop. But the mom and pop store down the road probably REALLY cares where you shop.

I would definitely take the job. A job is a job, the money is all the same color. As hard of time as people are having, any job is better than none.
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Old 04-24-2011, 02:12 PM
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Location: The Sand Hills of NC
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I have lived in the same small town all my life. The town has several farms and until recently, there was only one elementary school and one middle-senior high school. The only restaurants (fast food) were on the outskirts of town and the only shopping store was a 7-Eleven.

In the past few years, several owners of large farms have sold their property to developers. These developers have put in shopping centers and big stores like Target. They also built several hundred homes on one of the farms (there only used to be one house there).

The core of the town is still somewhat unaffected by this as most of the building that's going on is closer to the outskirts of town.

Several long-time residents have complained. But we're getting a lot of new people moving to the area that want to live in a rural area but also have the convenience of nearby shopping centers. Apparently they don't know the meaning of the word "rural."

I have refused to shop at these stores as I don't support all the building that's going on as I feel they're ruining our nice town and things are only gonna get worse. I feel like if I shop at these stores, I'm saying that it's ok to keep on building. My family thinks I'm crazy because one person isn't gonna make a difference. I tell them that it's the principle of the matter.

So here's the dilema: A new business is opening in one of these shopping centers. I know the owner, I desperately need a job, and have a good chance of getting one at this business. It would be the ideal place for me to work because I have social anxiety disorder and the owner would be willing to make special accomodations for me whereas most other employers would not.

I know I'm being a hypocrite by applying for a job there. But I need that job for so many health reasons. I have no other choice.

Since I will already being working in one of the shopping centers, should I just shop at the other local shopping centers? Or should I still continue to "boycott" all these shopping centers, even though I'd be working in one?

Either way, I'm still a hypocrite.
The time for boycotting has passed, just like slamming on the brakes after you go through the radar trap.
Suck it up and take the job.
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Old 04-24-2011, 02:44 PM
 
Location: Prepperland
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The dilemma with automobile based "shopping centers" is the presumption that we will always be able to afford automobiles and their infrastructure.

Extrapolating on the effect of high fuel prices, reduced fuel consumption, and impact on shipping costs, there will be an economic pressure to consolidate population, increase local production, and thus counter the advantages of a "shopping center". Suburbia will become increasingly expensive, and lose its charm - and economic impetus.

Those with a "long view" might consider ways to ameliorate the situation.
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Old 04-24-2011, 08:05 PM
 
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I buy local, but its because I know everyone in this tiny town. If I buy my lumber from Ty, he'll buy my hay for his horses. If I buy feed from Kevin, he'll buy a couple of my fat steers in the fall. We also do a lot of bartering in town, no dollars involved.

Its about principle. If you are truly against all the new stores, don't let people pressure you to shop there. It is true though, one person does not make a difference. They don't care where you shop. But the mom and pop store down the road probably REALLY cares where you shop.

I would definitely take the job. A job is a job, the money is all the same color. As hard of time as people are having, any job is better than none.
I agree! Good post.
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Old 04-24-2011, 09:59 PM
 
Location: Interior AK
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I'd take the job, don't think it's hypocritical to work somewhere that will accommodate you... just silly to not take the job just because it happens to be located in a building/center you don't support. Just because you work there doesn't mean you have to shop there.

You also go home everyday... so you can continue to shop at the small local stores without any additional difficulty/expense on your part and help keep them from going out of business to the big box stores.

No hypocrisy from my way of thinking.
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